Wife sucks dick, but don't want to work.

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unsurehubby

Houston, TX

#1 Nov 28, 2011
Okay, so I have looked over and over for ANYone with a similar situation. So far I really have not. It may sound great but some things just are not. My wife sucks me off whenever I want. The thing is she dose this because she don't want to work and get a real job, and its not a secret. Its vary open, I keep working and she keeps sucking and being banged when ever I feel the need. Now like I said it may sound great however,#1 I don't make millions just a average income and 2 salaries would definitely help. But I LOVE getting sucked off when I want, now this would be great and just fine however she is not a house keeper. So not much of the house is kept up I pretty much do ALL of the house work and go to work everyday. But soon as I come home she will come by in a nighty to my office office room get on her nees and ask me If I would like one today... we have been married over 10 years and its only really been like this for about 2. she used to work, but has issues with job authority so was fired a few times. Now honestly I love being sucked off when I come home or when im ready for bed, and she will do "any" sexual position I want as long as she dont have to go looking for a job. My question is, Am I horrible for letting this go on? I mean most "house wives" will cook, clean,and do most of the house work while taking care of the kids.( we do have kids but she dose her "thing" before they come home from school. I tried asking her to do the cleaning instead of pleasing me and it was a no go.Should I ask her to start cleaning or let this just keep going. Another income will help but we can manage just fine on me alone. So how it stands is, she will do anything sexually I want her to do, and never "nag" me about anything. But no house work and no jobs.
unsurehubby

Houston, TX

#2 Nov 28, 2011
Really confused what to do here, any input would be much appreciated ...
Carpe Diem

Las Vegas, NV

#3 Nov 28, 2011
I have a feeling that most guys, reading your post, will think they would love to have a problem such as yours. I, for one, would happily agree do all the work, and all the housework, and stand on my head, if it guaranteed the kind of constant sexual availability from my wife that you get from yours. And I'm one of the relatively lucky ones, being married to someone who has at least wanted it once or twice a week for the last three decades or so. So my first reaction is, why is this guy complaining?

But there is something in the tone of your post that made me wonder if your sex life is as great as it seemed at first, and that is the question whether your wife is really enjoying the sex, or just performing a service in exchange for a trade-off. Personally, I find I can't fully enjoy sex unless I feel my partner is equally involved. So if your wife is just blowing you while thinking about something else maybe it's not as ideal as it sounds. But if she is into it, then my advice to you is to finish doing the dishes, get out that mop and thank your lucky stars that you have the charmed life you have.

“Dont take me to seriously lol”

Since: Sep 11

Location hidden

#4 Nov 28, 2011
unsurehubby wrote:
Okay, so I have looked over and over for ANYone with a similar situation. So far I really have not. It may sound great but some things just are not. My wife sucks me off whenever I want. The thing is she dose this because she don't want to work and get a real job, and its not a secret. Its vary open, I keep working and she keeps sucking and being banged when ever I feel the need. Now like I said it may sound great however,#1 I don't make millions just a average income and 2 salaries would definitely help. But I LOVE getting sucked off when I want, now this would be great and just fine however she is not a house keeper. So not much of the house is kept up I pretty much do ALL of the house work and go to work everyday. But soon as I come home she will come by in a nighty to my office office room get on her nees and ask me If I would like one today... we have been married over 10 years and its only really been like this for about 2. she used to work, but has issues with job authority so was fired a few times. Now honestly I love being sucked off when I come home or when im ready for bed, and she will do "any" sexual position I want as long as she dont have to go looking for a job. My question is, Am I horrible for letting this go on? I mean most "house wives" will cook, clean,and do most of the house work while taking care of the kids.( we do have kids but she dose her "thing" before they come home from school. I tried asking her to do the cleaning instead of pleasing me and it was a no go.Should I ask her to start cleaning or let this just keep going. Another income will help but we can manage just fine on me alone. So how it stands is, she will do anything sexually I want her to do, and never "nag" me about anything. But no house work and no jobs.
What can anyone say to you and what is it that you want.
Firstly every person in a relationship or family be it work or be it at home has to cooperate.You said that she wasnt always like this but now has a problem with authority at work and gets sacked.
What i think is she wanted to be sacked so that she could sit down on her lasy arse and do nothing for the rest of her life and get a sucker to do everything for her..The sad thing is in the eyes of the law if you were to boot her out the law would find in her favour.
My advice to you is go and see a marriage advice counceller and explain all this to them and have an outcome that you would like to achieve.
Im sorry to say this but if you are working your guts out to provide for your family and then have to come home and do all the house work and your reward for this is having your c**k sucked you are a fool that deserves all that you get..
Get to a professional for help..
Most married women that work and take care of children and the house as well will still have sex and suck c**k
The woman that you are with is nothing but a very lasy selfish woman.
wondering

Reeds Spring, MO

#5 Nov 28, 2011
Compromise...tell her you got her a new job as an escort, where she can not work, wont have time to do housework, and can still suck dick and will be a contributor to the families financial success instead of a drain....see if that doesn't gain you some leverage.
Follow up question...while she is not working and not doing housework, is she out shopping?
unsurehubby

Houston, TX

#7 Nov 29, 2011
Thanks for the input guys,@Carpe yes there is that bit missing, she just dose it, no real excitement from her, so yeah it somewhat bothers me and most likely why it is bothering me thanks for that input.@GLOBAL We did the counseling thing for a bit and turned out we both cant stand shrinks. I think the real therapy from those sessions was when it was done and we laughed about the shrink. Dont get me wrong shes a GREAT women and we do everything together daily @wondering She's not materialistic or anything like that, no 50 pairs of shoes lol. She only spends what is needed food clothes ect. so she dpoes that. She just don't do anything else but please and chill out all day. Like Carpe was saying maybe I'm just missing the romance. As the work goes it feels like in doing 90% and shes doing 10 lol. counting the blow jobs. And your right most guys would probably find this as a blessing, and dont get me wrong so do I. Just some days I feel there should be more or I should just plain out say " you don't have to s*ck me off".
frank d

Erie, PA

#8 Nov 29, 2011
wondering wrote:
Compromise...tell her you got her a new job as an escort, where she can not work, wont have time to do housework, and can still suck dick and will be a contributor to the families financial success instead of a drain....see if that doesn't gain you some leverage.
Follow up question...while she is not working and not doing housework, is she out shopping?
If your wife becomes an escort, she'll make enough to hire a housekeeper. After my folks' divorce, my mother became one, getting more sex with a variety of men, satisfying her urges. I watched her at 'work' and noticed she wasn't acting. Opening her legs and mouth for pay, introduced her to a totally new way of life.
Miss Cleo

Tokyo, Japan

#9 Nov 29, 2011
Get yourself one fleshlight and tell the lazy u know what to start doing da household chores
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Carpe Diem

Las Vegas, NV

#10 Nov 29, 2011
unsurehubby wrote:
yes there is that bit missing, she just dose it, no real excitement from her, so yeah it somewhat bothers me ... maybe I'm just missing the romance..
I sensed from the way you phrased your post in terms of things SHE was doing FOR YOU, rather than saying something like, "WE make love all the time" that maybe something was missing beside her work ethic. Marital sex should be all about pleasing your partner, but that goes for both partners. You've simply gotta have the romance. In my own case, although my wife is not interested all the time, at least she IS interested when we do have sex. There have been times when she has not really been into it, but tried just to please me, and I find the whole thing just doesn't work for me unless we are both in the same state of mind. So I guess I'm not as jealous of your situation as I thought.

Since: Jul 11

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#12 Nov 29, 2011
I work, take care of the kids, and the house and sill find the the to please my husband sexually whenever and however he likes. I think your wife might just be a little lazy. Tell her to get on her job, I mean hell she is not the only woman in the world who will sexually do these things. Cleanining the house and all the other stuff, that's just part of being a good wife. I do it because I love my man and want him to come home to a clean house and a hot meal every day.

“Dont take me to seriously lol”

Since: Sep 11

Location hidden

#13 Nov 29, 2011
franks wifey wrote:
I work, take care of the kids, and the house and sill find the the to please my husband sexually whenever and however he likes. I think your wife might just be a little lazy. Tell her to get on her job, I mean hell she is not the only woman in the world who will sexually do these things. Cleanining the house and all the other stuff, that's just part of being a good wife. I do it because I love my man and want him to come home to a clean house and a hot meal every day.
Yes you said it perfectly.It is obvious that this woman is just bloody lazy.
Wouldnt we all like to just chill out and do f*ck all.
Reality is work has to be done.
Sharing has to be done.
The top priority in life isnt just having your c**k sucked.

“Life is meant”

Since: Apr 11

to be lived..

#15 Nov 29, 2011
What the hell does your wife do all day? What she is doing AND you are allowing, is taking advantage of you. She is using b.j.'s as a way to stay home and be lazy. If you and her can financially make it on one income then that's fine but there is NO EXCUSE for her not cleaning the house and doing ALL the housework.

My husband works full time and I only work part time, because I want to. So, you can bet your sweet ass when he comes home the house clean and dinner is on the table. I do everything except the yard work and I am not complaining one iota. Oh, btw the sex is great after 30 years of marriage, too. B.J.'s included with no strings attached.

Sorry, unsurehubby, I think it is time to sit down and talk about her getting a job or at the very least getting off her lazy ass and doing ALL the housework.

“guess who Lois?”

Since: Dec 06

A little hole in the wall.

#17 Nov 29, 2011
GLOBAL AL wrote:
<quoted text>What can anyone say to you and what is it that you want.
Firstly every person in a relationship or family be it work or be it at home has to cooperate.You said that she wasnt always like this but now has a problem with authority at work and gets sacked.
What i think is she wanted to be sacked so that she could sit down on her lasy arse and do nothing for the rest of her life and get a sucker to do everything for her..The sad thing is in the eyes of the law if you were to boot her out the law would find in her favour.
My advice to you is go and see a marriage advice counceller and explain all this to them and have an outcome that you would like to achieve.
Im sorry to say this but if you are working your guts out to provide for your family and then have to come home and do all the house work and your reward for this is having your c**k sucked you are a fool that deserves all that you get..
Get to a professional for help..
Most married women that work and take care of children and the house as well will still have sex and suck c**k
The woman that you are with is nothing but a very lasy selfish woman.
Some good ideas here but I disagree with your last comment .. most women who are working full time, take care for the kids, ans the house are doing a lot less of the sex and sucking ... that seems to be the pattern .. the more tired out they are from everything else, the less interest they have in sex or their husband in general.

What you described is actualy quite rare, the dream wife who does it all in and out of the bedroom too.

HOwever, for him to expect her to do all those things (you did not mention anything done by the man aside the work) without his helping would be unreasonable of him , then he deserves if she loses interest in sex. It sounds like she would be doing the bulk of the effort ... a modern marriage requires a balance worked out between them.

“guess who Lois?”

Since: Dec 06

A little hole in the wall.

#18 Nov 29, 2011
unsurehubby wrote:
Okay, so I have looked over and over for ANYone with a similar situation. So far I really have not. It may sound great but some things just are not. My wife sucks me off whenever I want. The thing is she dose this because she don't want to work and get a real job, and its not a secret. Its vary open, I keep working and she keeps sucking and being banged when ever I feel the need. Now like I said it may sound great however,#1 I don't make millions just a average income and 2 salaries would definitely help. But I LOVE getting sucked off when I want, now this would be great and just fine however she is not a house keeper. So not much of the house is kept up I pretty much do ALL of the house work and go to work everyday. But soon as I come home she will come by in a nighty to my office office room get on her nees and ask me If I would like one today... we have been married over 10 years and its only really been like this for about 2. she used to work, but has issues with job authority so was fired a few times. Now honestly I love being sucked off when I come home or when im ready for bed, and she will do "any" sexual position I want as long as she dont have to go looking for a job. My question is, Am I horrible for letting this go on? I mean most "house wives" will cook, clean,and do most of the house work while taking care of the kids.( we do have kids but she dose her "thing" before they come home from school. I tried asking her to do the cleaning instead of pleasing me and it was a no go.Should I ask her to start cleaning or let this just keep going. Another income will help but we can manage just fine on me alone. So how it stands is, she will do anything sexually I want her to do, and never "nag" me about anything. But no house work and no jobs.
I can see you already got a variety of responses, most of them are telling you that your wife is trying to get a free ride here.

I admit, there as a time when I would have loved this arrangement, at least for a short time ... a year or two.

I was wondering what the issues really were at work ... was she having trouble getting along with the boss or was she being lazy and the boss felt a need to get after her???

It sounds like you could strike a balance, she gets a part time job, handles more of the housework and childcare, and you two MAKE LOVE once or twice a week.

YOu need to let her know that the current arrangement is getting kind of old and you feel like she's been getting away with doing very little for very little effort on her part. Let her know that sex isn't nearly as enjoyable if it feels like it is a emotionless duty in exchange for you carrying the bulk of the workload. Basically you work several hours a day in exchange for her doing 30 to 60 minutes ...

This compromise proposal could sort of give you both the best of both worlds.

BTW ... if she has trouble getting along with every boss she works for , you should investigate what the problem is. Do you think she is telling you the whole truth of the situation? Maybe you could talk to one or two of her ex bosses to see if she is telling you the truth?? Like one person suggested, maybe she is trying to get herself fired ...

“Dont take me to seriously lol”

Since: Sep 11

Location hidden

#19 Nov 30, 2011
franko wrote:
<quoted text>Some good ideas here but I disagree with your last comment .. most women who are working full time, take care for the kids, ans the house are doing a lot less of the sex and sucking ... that seems to be the pattern .. the more tired out they are from everything else, the less interest they have in sex or their husband in general.
What you described is actualy quite rare, the dream wife who does it all in and out of the bedroom too.
HOwever, for him to expect her to do all those things (you did not mention anything done by the man aside the work) without his helping would be unreasonable of him , then he deserves if she loses interest in sex. It sounds like she would be doing the bulk of the effort ... a modern marriage requires a balance worked out between them.
Please reread no where in my post does it say that the woman is coming home and doing everything and that is not expected.
if you read above it says if all in a relationship cooperate.
Franko I am not Hal and am not going to have my words in anyway twisted by you to mean something else to suit what you think.
It goes without saying that if any woman had to come home from doing a days work and do everything she wont be at all interested in putting out.
Many studies have been done into the lack of sex in overworked and under appreciated wives and the conclusions are that if the husband helped out with the housework the wife would be more inclined to look after the husband sexually.
The wives that are the happiest are the ones that have supportive husbands.
This woman that we are on this forum about has a clown husband that has his priorities set at if she gives a blowj*b that is ok even when she is not really putting any effort into it.
And whats more wishes to complain about it and ask others advice.
Pretty much asking hey people is this alright am i getting a good deal here, well my god she is bloody lazy and is getting away with it.
And Franko when they went to therapy they were laughing at the therapist. So what the therapist is the problem now.
You go to a therapist with a problem and leave with the same problem and complain on here about the lazy good for nothing wife that will suck your c**k but really doesnt put any effort into that either and you laugh at the therapist...For f**ks sake.
unsurehubby

Houston, TX

#21 Nov 30, 2011
Thank you soo much for these comments, it really helps put things into prospective.

@franks wifey "I do it because I love my man and want him to come home to a clean house and a hot meal every day."

That's all I really want the bj's and sex are good but one thing I did leave out. she did have a sea section and she did lose her entire sexual desire from it. She did try for a few years to get the "urge back". The therapist thing was more of a wake up of " maybe were not as bad off as we thought" type of laugh about it. the whole escort thing I would never let that happen so I'll leave it at that. I do ask others so I can get a out side thought on the situation. With everything I think I will progressively work towards getting her to do some of the chores. As far as her old bosses I know what happens she gets greedy and starts talking down to the bosses, I had a friend that worked the same job with her and it was confirmed she was kinda "bossy" to bosses. I think if she wants a free ride then she wouldn't suck either. I'm willing to provide and let her do her thing, but maybe its time I break out the COME ON get the house cleaned and keep it cleaned for once. I'm getting burt out, and I think that is what I will need to do. getting the other female comment that she cleans as well helps me think that other stay at home moms do the work so I will start to ask thanks :)
James

Austin, TX

#22 Nov 30, 2011
unsurehubby wrote:
Thank you soo much for these comments, it really helps put things into prospective.
@franks wifey "I do it because I love my man and want him to come home to a clean house and a hot meal every day."
That's all I really want the bj's and sex are good but one thing I did leave out. she did have a sea section and she did lose her entire sexual desire from it. She did try for a few years to get the "urge back". The therapist thing was more of a wake up of " maybe were not as bad off as we thought" type of laugh about it. the whole escort thing I would never let that happen so I'll leave it at that. I do ask others so I can get a out side thought on the situation. With everything I think I will progressively work towards getting her to do some of the chores. As far as her old bosses I know what happens she gets greedy and starts talking down to the bosses, I had a friend that worked the same job with her and it was confirmed she was kinda "bossy" to bosses. I think if she wants a free ride then she wouldn't suck either. I'm willing to provide and let her do her thing, but maybe its time I break out the COME ON get the house cleaned and keep it cleaned for once. I'm getting burt out, and I think that is what I will need to do. getting the other female comment that she cleans as well helps me think that other stay at home moms do the work so I will start to ask thanks :)
Will your wife also let you have anal sex with her? If not, tell her the price for her staying home and not working has just gone up because of inflation. So now she has to let you screw her up the ass in addition to the BJs.

As far as her sex drive, have her doctor check her hormone levels. Women do have some testosterone, which is responsible for the sex drive in women. If her testosterone is low, she can get a prescription to increase the levels, which would increase her sex drive, or at least get it back to what it was before.

“guess who Lois?”

Since: Dec 06

A little hole in the wall.

#23 Nov 30, 2011
GLOBAL AL wrote:
<quoted text>Please reread no where in my post does it say that the woman is coming home and doing everything and that is not expected.
if you read above it says if all in a relationship cooperate.
Franko I am not Hal and am not going to have my words in anyway twisted by you to mean something else to suit what you think.
It goes without saying that if any woman had to come home from doing a days work and do everything she wont be at all interested in putting out.
Many studies have been done into the lack of sex in overworked and under appreciated wives and the conclusions are that if the husband helped out with the housework the wife would be more inclined to look after the husband sexually.
The wives that are the happiest are the ones that have supportive husbands.
This woman that we are on this forum about has a clown husband that has his priorities set at if she gives a blowj*b that is ok even when she is not really putting any effort into it.
And whats more wishes to complain about it and ask others advice.
Pretty much asking hey people is this alright am i getting a good deal here, well my god she is bloody lazy and is getting away with it.
And Franko when they went to therapy they were laughing at the therapist. So what the therapist is the problem now.
You go to a therapist with a problem and leave with the same problem and complain on here about the lazy good for nothing wife that will suck your c**k but really doesnt put any effort into that either and you laugh at the therapist...For f**ks sake.
OK, I did not properly connect the earlier comment and then everything else you said, then the last comment kind of lost the link between the two ... it seemed to stand on it's own ... it would have been more clear if you made the whole comment together... but my mistake for not reading more carefully.

Thank you for clarifying, ther ewas no reason to get upset ...no I did not think you are Hal or presume that you act like Hal .. what brought that up?

Believe it or not I am a reasonable man, and as to your reference to HAl, he has a way of manipulating the discusions we have had and then blaming me for the digression ... yet usualy I can prove it was he who either did not answer a question or twisted the meaning of what was said ...

As long as you don't do that we can have much more constructive discussion than Hal and I have had. What happens between me and Hal rarely happens when I have discussions with other people.

“guess who Lois?”

Since: Dec 06

A little hole in the wall.

#24 Nov 30, 2011
unsurehubby wrote:
Thank you soo much for these comments, it really helps put things into prospective.
@franks wifey "I do it because I love my man and want him to come home to a clean house and a hot meal every day."
That's all I really want the bj's and sex are good but one thing I did leave out. she did have a sea section and she did lose her entire sexual desire from it. She did try for a few years to get the "urge back". The therapist thing was more of a wake up of " maybe were not as bad off as we thought" type of laugh about it. the whole escort thing I would never let that happen so I'll leave it at that. I do ask others so I can get a out side thought on the situation. With everything I think I will progressively work towards getting her to do some of the chores. As far as her old bosses I know what happens she gets greedy and starts talking down to the bosses, I had a friend that worked the same job with her and it was confirmed she was kinda "bossy" to bosses. I think if she wants a free ride then she wouldn't suck either. I'm willing to provide and let her do her thing, but maybe its time I break out the COME ON get the house cleaned and keep it cleaned for once. I'm getting burt out, and I think that is what I will need to do. getting the other female comment that she cleans as well helps me think that other stay at home moms do the work so I will start to ask thanks :)
actualy she may be feeding you an excuse .. a C-section actually has LESS affect on a woman than vaginal delivery, which stretches out the vagina, often requires stitches to close up wounds caused by the stretching, and which has a much more painful aspect to get mentally over ...

The typical arrangement in stay at home MOms is indeed that the man, who has the 50 plus hours (including commute) should be able to come home and not have to worry about cooking or housework, only the sharing of the childcare after he gets home, and the handyman jobs or weekend jobs like cutting the grass.

“guess who Lois?”

Since: Dec 06

A little hole in the wall.

#25 Nov 30, 2011
unsurehubby wrote:
Thank you soo much for these comments, it really helps put things into prospective.
@franks wifey "I do it because I love my man and want him to come home to a clean house and a hot meal every day."
That's all I really want the bj's and sex are good but one thing I did leave out. she did have a sea section and she did lose her entire sexual desire from it. She did try for a few years to get the "urge back". The therapist thing was more of a wake up of " maybe were not as bad off as we thought" type of laugh about it. the whole escort thing I would never let that happen so I'll leave it at that. I do ask others so I can get a out side thought on the situation. With everything I think I will progressively work towards getting her to do some of the chores. As far as her old bosses I know what happens she gets greedy and starts talking down to the bosses, I had a friend that worked the same job with her and it was confirmed she was kinda "bossy" to bosses. I think if she wants a free ride then she wouldn't suck either. I'm willing to provide and let her do her thing, but maybe its time I break out the COME ON get the house cleaned and keep it cleaned for once. I'm getting burt out, and I think that is what I will need to do. getting the other female comment that she cleans as well helps me think that other stay at home moms do the work so I will start to ask thanks :)
I can see why you "laughed" about the counsellor .. but in all honestly, if you see a need to go to a counsellor then your problems are serious enough that you should take it seriously.

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