Why don't guys give oral?
just-an-allusion

Bagdad, KY

#392 Jan 28, 2009
As a guy, I have to say that I like giving oral to a girl, if for no other reason than insuring that I please her, though I do derive a certain sense of enjoyment from hearing the things she says, the sounds she makes, and feeling her body writhe about involuntarily.

Weird ("?") thing though, I don't particularly enjoy receiving oral, no matter how skilled the girl is, it just doesn't do it for me. FWIW, I've never been able to ejaculate while receiving oral and feel that it does little but waste the amount of time that I could be inside of the girl, feeling her from the inside, feeling the two of us as one.

Hmm...Perhaps it is that I view bj's as objectifying sex/externalizing what is inherently an internal exchange of emotion between two lovers, I don't, maybe I'm just weird like that?!
Happy Chappy

Rio De Janeiro, Brazil

#393 Jan 28, 2009
just-an-allusion wrote:
As a guy, I have to say that I like giving oral to a girl, if for no other reason than insuring that I please her, though I do derive a certain sense of enjoyment from hearing the things she says, the sounds she makes, and feeling her body writhe about involuntarily.
Weird ("?") thing though, I don't particularly enjoy receiving oral, no matter how skilled the girl is, it just doesn't do it for me. FWIW, I've never been able to ejaculate while receiving oral and feel that it does little but waste the amount of time that I could be inside of the girl, feeling her from the inside, feeling the two of us as one.
Hmm...Perhaps it is that I view bj's as objectifying sex/externalizing what is inherently an internal exchange of emotion between two lovers, I don't, maybe I'm just weird like that?!
Just shows everyone is different.... doesn't help when your in a relationship and the lack of what makes you tick seriously affects your lifestyle and well being.
just-an-allusion

Bagdad, KY

#394 Jan 28, 2009
Happy Chappy wrote:
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Just shows everyone is different.... doesn't help when your in a relationship and the lack of what makes you tick seriously affects your lifestyle and well being.
I agree, everyone is different. Perhaps if you conveyed your, uh, needs, to the gf, she'll come around, or at least you should be open to discussing with her what it is about performing the act that she doesn't like about it...It could be that she finds it demeaning which, FWIW, is a "good thing" because it means that she's got good/high self esteem, which is a positive characteristic trait to look for in a woman.

“Why????”

Since: Dec 08

london

#395 Jan 29, 2009
Happy Chappy wrote:
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Yes, Catholic. Problem is .... I've grown so wary that I approach things very cautiously now. On the occasions I throw caution to the wind I am always brought back to reality by the in-built defensiveness. But, I love her and find her so sexy and attractive - I don't know what is going on.
Probably religious doctrine re sex for procreation only etc etc.... take it slow , be reassuring and loving, don't give up..but it'll take time my friend..good luck

“I'm not bad..”

Since: Aug 08

I'm just drawn that way

#396 Jan 29, 2009
biiguy wrote:
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Come, come, sweet Ol Skool... surely you know what '70' is....
i was jus playin but...I don't think I do...I've had a rough morning...I'm getting ready for a duh moment when you tell me....LOL
Happy Chappy

Brazil

#398 Jan 29, 2009
porn princess wrote:
<quoted text>Probably religious doctrine re sex for procreation only etc etc.... take it slow , be reassuring and loving, don't give up..but it'll take time my friend..good luck
many thanks for the responses - things to think about. Only problem, it been happening for 31 years! But, there you go.....
Joe

AOL

#399 Jan 29, 2009
Space1 wrote:
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My husband don't let it drip at all. He said it is too precious to waste it.
LOL cute comment- betcha your husband is happy

Since: Sep 07

Location hidden

#400 Jan 29, 2009
Joe wrote:
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LOL cute comment- betcha your husband is happy
Very.:-)
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FishLover

AOL

#401 Jan 29, 2009
I have a simple criteria to give to all men, well women too since some are gays. With fish as with women's privates { OK what is it called Va jay jay :)} if it smells dont eat it. pass it over - in case of fish discard it, and when its a pu**y, ask her to wash it with lots of good clean water ;)

“I'm not bad..”

Since: Aug 08

I'm just drawn that way

#402 Feb 3, 2009
think I struck gold....I'll keep you updated!
Serene

Singapore, Singapore

#403 Feb 3, 2009
Hey, that's not very nice of yr bf. U shd not let him take you for granted! At the very least let u know why he won't do it so you guys could at least come up with a solution. You deserve some lovin' too, honey!
curiousbrit wrote:
K so question, I go down on my boyfriend of over a year ALLLL THE TIME, I honestly LOVE it, I don't mind giving it, i love making him sexually happy. But he has not given me oral...for one, I know he has never given it, for two, I don't care really that he hasn't...but when i ask him about it, he tends to get defensive, because he says I always seem so disappointed. I just want the reason why he wont...he says can we just leave it at "I am not comfortable with it.." I asked will he ever and he said he didn't know. And i didn't want to pressure him anymore so... i left it at that. I love him with all my heart...if he were to say 'i just am not into that," i would completely understand...vaginas are scary from my P.O.V., I would be afraid to touch someone else's too.
Anyone have some insight?
Woman eater

Bloomington, IN

#404 Feb 3, 2009
Ol Skool wrote:
Why is it that it seems most guys (especially black guys) don't like to give oral as well as receive? I love giving but I like getting too!
There's nothing better than eating a pretty, sexy woman - Aerosmith got it right when they sang, "You ain't seen nothin' till you're down on a muffin!"

Over the years, I have run in to a few women who would not "let" me eat them. As you can guess, those relationships were very short-lived. Women who refuse to receive oral won't give it either and are just bound up and uptight in general - no fun to be with in or out of bed.

Every day I see multiple women I'd love to eat. I can go down on a woman for hours before my tongue is exhausted and can't go any longer. By then, the woman is weak and trembling, having had gut-wrenching orgasms over and over and over again. I have found that sucking the clit right when the woman is just starting to come makes them orgasm violently.

Some day I hope to get with a couple. I want to eat the woman both before and after her man f**ks her (can't wait to eat the "cream pie"...)

Any man who won't eat his woman is a weak-@$$ excuse for a man, black, white or otherwise IMHO.

“To push the boundaries....”

Since: Oct 07

Nazereth, Israel

#405 Feb 3, 2009
Ol Skool wrote:
think I struck gold....I'll keep you updated!
Please do.....
Asian Surfer

Los Angeles, CA

#406 Feb 3, 2009
Ol Skool wrote:
think I struck gold....I'll keep you updated!
Hope you catch one that would love to glue his lips to your lips.

“I'm not bad..”

Since: Aug 08

I'm just drawn that way

#407 Feb 4, 2009
biiguy wrote:
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Please do.....
Well well I haven't recieved yet but he guantees me its in the cards...we just didn't get there last night....Sex session lasted on and off roughly 6 hours ..taking breaks, etc....actually F88ked about 6 times. OMG I gave.... and tasted ...from his reaction he was not only shocked but pleasantly surprised..*giggles* he knows I don't want a relationship - we are friends, asked me afterwards if I would reconsider my position on the relationship thing...
KevinUK

UK

#408 Feb 4, 2009
I love to give oral to women. I can quiet happily stay down there all night. One of the best view's in the world is the one looking up at a beautiful woman from between her leg's and watching her eye's roll round to the back of her head.
Tex

Birmingham, AL

#409 Feb 4, 2009
Ol Skool wrote:
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Well well I haven't recieved yet but he guantees me its in the cards...we just didn't get there last night....Sex session lasted on and off roughly 6 hours ..taking breaks, etc....actually F88ked about 6 times. OMG I gave.... and tasted ...from his reaction he was not only shocked but pleasantly surprised..*giggles* he knows I don't want a relationship - we are friends, asked me afterwards if I would reconsider my position on the relationship thing...
Wait a minute... you all had sex for 6 hours and you "just didn't get there"? If you had time to "give and taste" so did he, he just didn't want to. There's no reason from him to guarantee it's in the cards. It doesn't require scheduling, just a desire to please you. If he wanted to put his face down there, he would. I'm sure he was all smiles when he was getting his turn because dude is selfish.

“To push the boundaries....”

Since: Oct 07

Nazereth, Israel

#410 Feb 4, 2009
Ol Skool wrote:
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Well well I haven't recieved yet but he guantees me its in the cards...we just didn't get there last night....Sex session lasted on and off roughly 6 hours ..taking breaks, etc....actually F88ked about 6 times. OMG I gave.... and tasted ...from his reaction he was not only shocked but pleasantly surprised..*giggles* he knows I don't want a relationship - we are friends, asked me afterwards if I would reconsider my position on the relationship thing...
So did you or didn't you?? 6 hours of sex left you unsatisfied? And still you go on?
Poor you.. you must be a good lover & he's.. not.
Better luck next time... or next guy. You might as well just stay - friends.

Since: Feb 09

Wherever I feel like being.

#411 Feb 4, 2009
Alright I have a question.
My boyfriend does NOT like to give oral.
I don't understand why- I am clean, I have tasted myself and it's nothing bad at all, I keep myself shaved, there's really nothing to not like about it.

Can someone please tell me a way that I could maybe get him to want to give me oral?
I know you can't make someone want to do it to you, and I don't want to force him to do it, just maybe something that will make it more appealing to him.
I have never had an orgasm, sadly. I've heard that oral is a great way to achieve it.

I do give him oral, almost every time I see him, but I don't want anyone to suggest that I withhold oral because I do NOT want to do that, I enjoy doing it, it would be like a punishment for me, too.
And also, I'm not going to "find someone who will", I love him very, very much, and him not giving oral isn't a deal breaker, it just would be nice.

Any ideas?

“I'm not bad..”

Since: Aug 08

I'm just drawn that way

#412 Feb 5, 2009
biiguy wrote:
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So did you or didn't you?? 6 hours of sex left you unsatisfied? And still you go on?
Poor you.. you must be a good lover & he's.. not.
Better luck next time... or next guy. You might as well just stay - friends.
i orgasmed several times! Very good sex session. But I always want more. Maybe I need to get that checked into! LOL After the 5th time he was afraid I'd get sore but I assured him I was fine.

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