Only have one testes, am slowly losing self-esteem

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Slowly reproaching

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Oct 9, 2010
 

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Here's something interesting that isn't going the way I would think it would...

I have a nice penis, and apparently earn rave reviews from most of the women I've slept with, but as I only have one testes (was born this way), I am slowly becoming more and more self-conscious of it DESPITE most of the women who were in my life generally not giving a crap about it.

It's to the point, now, where - approaching 40 (and still single... WAS having a good time for a long time), I don't have the confidence to even go through that first encounter with women.

So nervous, now, in fact, that I'm scared that I may not get it up at all (despite having pretty good success with a temporary g/f four months ago).

I would figure I would have become more confident with it, especially knowing the accolades I've received from my overall bedding-performance.

I don't know if it is, in part, a loss of some testosterone as I age, or if I believe that material women these days will care that much more, but I wish I could just have an implant that would make me look normal.

Anyone have any suggestions?

I've even thought about hiring a few hookers (one at a time) to just get my groove back on, as they are temporary, I won't have to care what they think, and eventually I'm pretty sure that I'd get my confidence back in, at least, my size and performance.

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Oct 9, 2010
 
Slowly reproaching wrote:
Here's something interesting that isn't going the way I would think it would...
I have a nice penis, and apparently earn rave reviews from most of the women I've slept with, but as I only have one testes (was born this way), I am slowly becoming more and more self-conscious of it DESPITE most of the women who were in my life generally not giving a crap about it.
It's to the point, now, where - approaching 40 (and still single... WAS having a good time for a long time), I don't have the confidence to even go through that first encounter with women.
So nervous, now, in fact, that I'm scared that I may not get it up at all (despite having pretty good success with a temporary g/f four months ago).

I would figure I would have become more confident with it, especially knowing the accolades I've received from my overall bedding-performance.
I don't know if it is, in part, a loss of some testosterone as I age, or if I believe that material women these days will care that much more, but I wish I could just have an implant that would make me look normal.
Anyone have any suggestions?
I've even thought about hiring a few hookers (one at a time) to just get my groove back on, as they are temporary, I won't have to care what they think, and eventually I'm pretty sure that I'd get my confidence back in, at least, my size and performance.
First of all, get to your doctor and get your testosterone level checked. Low T is easily supplemented with testosterone cream!
Next, that same urologist who checks your T level, can recommend a testicular prosthesis! I was a uro nurse for yers and saw men who lost a teste to cancer gretly improve their self esteem with a simple procedure. It is easily done and heals as quickly as a vasectomy. Nobody will be able to tell it is not real - they are that good.
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Oct 9, 2010
 
la la la lola wrote:
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First of all, get to your doctor and get your testosterone level checked. Low T is easily supplemented with testosterone cream!
Next, that same urologist who checks your T level, can recommend a testicular prosthesis! I was a uro nurse for yers and saw men who lost a teste to cancer gretly improve their self esteem with a simple procedure. It is easily done and heals as quickly as a vasectomy. Nobody will be able to tell it is not real - they are that good.
Thank you for that info.

Years ago, in the 1990's, when I looked into the protheses I was told they were all taken off of the market, and that none were available to be bought in the USA.

I guess I will go to a doctor.

I do know that my body got used to a very high testosterone level for nearly two-years due to a job (unlike any other, indescribable, and very tough - not worth getting into it here though) I had that made me as strong and fit as I've ever been, and I'm wondering if this is just like 'coming down' off of caffeine from coffee in that I'm not used to having this easy of a job, nor this low of testosterone.

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Oct 9, 2010
 
Don't worry about it. Nature compensates. Loose 1 testie and the other takes over and enlarges. It does the job of 2.
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Oct 10, 2010
 
I think that you should get ur T checked cuz it can have bad effects on a man. And if all is well, I think the in a way you are starting to think about ur future, stop looking for random women or hookers, start looking for that special women that you will like to have a healthy relationship. Maybe in a way subconsciously you are putting stress on ur shoulders because of this. If you had no problem with women before and dude, a girl wants a good d**k so what if you only have one testicle. It sucks but some times we must learn to move on. It's just in ur head. Good luck and think about it.

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Oct 10, 2010
 
I don't understand what males you feel self conscious, but Lola has given great advice and covered all the bases here.
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Oct 10, 2010
 
Start racing bikes.
Apparently, guys with one testicle are fast!

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Oct 10, 2010
 
Slowly reproaching wrote:
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Thank you for that info.
Years ago, in the 1990's, when I looked into the protheses I was told they were all taken off of the market, and that none were available to be bought in the USA.
I guess I will go to a doctor.
I do know that my body got used to a very high testosterone level for nearly two-years due to a job (unlike any other, indescribable, and very tough - not worth getting into it here though) I had that made me as strong and fit as I've ever been, and I'm wondering if this is just like 'coming down' off of caffeine from coffee in that I'm not used to having this easy of a job, nor this low of testosterone.
The Silicone implants were taken offthe market - just like silicone breast implants. The new devices contain saline and the chances of rejection and harm to the body have been greatly reduced.

I know that when one testicle is absent or removed, the existing organ takes over and becomes stronger - just like a person with one kidney, for example. If I lost a breast, I know I would definitely get a prosthesis. For a man, the testicle is not outwardly visible through clothing, etc, but it still contributes to your self esteem & body image. Do what YOU feel is necessary to be happy.

Yes - physical activity can boost the testosterone levels. Maybe you can work out to give your body a natural boost?

Good luck to you !
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The Silicone implants were taken offthe market - just like silicone breast implants. The new devices contain saline and the chances of rejection and harm to the body have been greatly reduced.
I know that when one testicle is absent or removed, the existing organ takes over and becomes stronger - just like a person with one kidney, for example. If I lost a breast, I know I would definitely get a prosthesis. For a man, the testicle is not outwardly visible through clothing, etc, but it still contributes to your self esteem & body image. Do what YOU feel is necessary to be happy.
Yes - physical activity can boost the testosterone levels. Maybe you can work out to give your body a natural boost?
Good luck to you !
what about the testosterone Cyplonate shots,to build your "T" back up? Can you take a lil more than the Dr.Says,to help you?Can you buildit up to high?I was thinking about takeing an extra shot.lol
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Oct 10, 2010
 
la la la lola wrote:
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The Silicone implants were taken offthe market - just like silicone breast implants. The new devices contain saline and the chances of rejection and harm to the body have been greatly reduced.
I know that when one testicle is absent or removed, the existing organ takes over and becomes stronger - just like a person with one kidney, for example. If I lost a breast, I know I would definitely get a prosthesis. For a man, the testicle is not outwardly visible through clothing, etc, but it still contributes to your self esteem & body image. Do what YOU feel is necessary to be happy.
Yes - physical activity can boost the testosterone levels. Maybe you can work out to give your body a natural boost?
Good luck to you !
Would like to ask you a couple of questions.You seem very sharp,and may be some help for me.Thanks for you replying,and look foward to chatting with you!

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Slowly reproaching wrote:
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Thank you for that info.
Years ago, in the 1990's, when I looked into the protheses I was told they were all taken off of the market, and that none were available to be bought in the USA.
I guess I will go to a doctor.
I do know that my body got used to a very high testosterone level for nearly two-years due to a job (unlike any other, indescribable, and very tough - not worth getting into it here though) I had that made me as strong and fit as I've ever been, and I'm wondering if this is just like 'coming down' off of caffeine from coffee in that I'm not used to having this easy of a job, nor this low of testosterone.
Men are born with a pair so they will have a spare. Like Lola said having one doesn't reduce your testosterone levels.

I have known a few men and boys with only one and even knew a guy who lost both at a tragic skinny dipping party. Not a good idea to swing across a creek by a rope in the buff.

It's no big deal and you should have no problem performing. Most women aren't going to say anything and many won't even notice. Guys with two sometimes have one play hide and seek.

Around midlife a lot of guys notice a change in performance. Having only one testicle shouldn't have anything to do with it but like Lola has already advised seeking a physician's counsel is the best thing to do.

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interesting wrote:
<quoted text>what about the testosterone Cyplonate shots,to build your "T" back up? Can you take a lil more than the Dr.Says,to help you?Can you buildit up to high?I was thinking about takeing an extra shot.lol
Hell noooo!! That stuff is an anabolic steroid only for use in primary hypogonadism, testicular failure, orchidectomy, or pituitary hypothalamic injury from tumors, trauma, or radiation.

Simple low T is better treated with topical testosterone.

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Slowly reproaching wrote:
Here's something interesting that isn't going the way I would think it would...
I have a nice penis, and apparently earn rave reviews from most of the women I've slept with, but as I only have one testes (was born this way), I am slowly becoming more and more self-conscious of it DESPITE most of the women who were in my life generally not giving a crap about it.
It's to the point, now, where - approaching 40 (and still single... WAS having a good time for a long time), I don't have the confidence to even go through that first encounter with women.
So nervous, now, in fact, that I'm scared that I may not get it up at all (despite having pretty good success with a temporary g/f four months ago).
I would figure I would have become more confident with it, especially knowing the accolades I've received from my overall bedding-performance.
I don't know if it is, in part, a loss of some testosterone as I age, or if I believe that material women these days will care that much more, but I wish I could just have an implant that would make me look normal.
Anyone have any suggestions?
I've even thought about hiring a few hookers (one at a time) to just get my groove back on, as they are temporary, I won't have to care what they think, and eventually I'm pretty sure that I'd get my confidence back in, at least, my size and performance.
Most women are more concerned by who you are as a man and not the penis as much as you think if you are associating with good women and besides I don't think that many women pay attention to the balls very much.
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Oct 10, 2010
 
la la la lola wrote:
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Hell noooo!! That stuff is an anabolic steroid only for use in primary hypogonadism, testicular failure, orchidectomy, or pituitary hypothalamic injury from tumors, trauma, or radiation.
Simple low T is better treated with topical testosterone.
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la la la lola wrote:
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Hell noooo!! That stuff is an anabolic steroid only for use in primary hypogonadism, testicular failure, orchidectomy, or pituitary hypothalamic injury from tumors, trauma, or radiation.
Simple low T is better treated with topical testosterone.
Thanks.I go back in 2 weeks,and the Dr.will do test to see if its brought my level up to where it suppose to be.I have taken a shot every 2 weeks,for the last two months.Will this bring my level up to where it suppose to be,and if it does,will I have to continue takeing these shots? Thanks for your help.
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Oct 11, 2010
 
Wow, this thread turned out better than I thought it would.

Thanks for the encouragement and the words of wisdom.

Throughout, and after, high school I had a g/f of six years who, some time after we separated, informed me that the single teste that I do have is bigger than a lot of guys', so that was interesting to learn. I guess it did make up for it in size.

I am going to start exercising again, and while that will help to some degree, I do need to look into the costs of surgery, too, to see if I can afford to try to look normal.

I have had some very understanding women in my life, but I've also had a few who just weren't sure how to react. I don't blame any of them for any reaction they may have, as I understand what it must be like to be faced with a new situation when one was expecting another.

I still can't get over how this is affecting me more, psychologically, then less as I grow older and, now, worrying about worrying is what can hurt my performance in bed (if that makes any sense).

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Oct 13, 2010
 
Makes sense, I just can't help but wonder how many women would actually notice such a thing if it wasn't pointed out to them. Few women in my experience pay a whole lot of attention to that part of our anatomy.

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