Wife doesn't orgasm anymore

Wife doesn't orgasm anymore

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NoMoOs

Flushing, NY

#1 May 18, 2010
Ok folks, here is an interesting one. My wife and I have sex about 1-2 tines a week. Last year I was about 60/40 getting her to orgasm during sex. This year, it's only happened about 4 times. I wonder what would cause such drastic drop in her orgasms.
Either I suck now or maybe she is having an affair? Any advice from someone else that has been in this situation? Sure is a hit to the ego. I feel like I'm not doing the job I should be doing. She says I'm trying to hard. Any thoughts?
N

Since: Jun 08

Location hidden

#2 May 18, 2010
NoMoOs wrote:
Ok folks, here is an interesting one. My wife and I have sex about 1-2 tines a week. Last year I was about 60/40 getting her to orgasm during sex. This year, it's only happened about 4 times. I wonder what would cause such drastic drop in her orgasms.
Either I suck now or maybe she is having an affair? Any advice from someone else that has been in this situation? Sure is a hit to the ego. I feel like I'm not doing the job I should be doing. She says I'm trying to hard. Any thoughts?
N
it does depend on the foreplay ,,,, really,,,,,, how long do you spend sucking licking and fingering,,,,, really it's down to how much your turning her on!!
Dreamer1

Phoenix, AZ

#3 May 18, 2010
NoMo, how old are the two of you? Could be she is experiencing a hormone fluxuation, any possibility of a slight depression due to life factors other than your "private" life? Dont start pointing fingers, just try to rationally talk and figure it out, together.
NoMoOs

Bronx, NY

#4 May 18, 2010
Not much forplay at all, but that's really her desicion. Our sex life is pretty lame most days, but we also have two small kiddies so not like we can hang off the rafters and go crazy.

We are 31 and 35, only thing that has change is I got a vesectomy early this year. Not sure if that would have any effect or not.

Since: Jun 08

Location hidden

#5 May 18, 2010
NoMoOs wrote:
Not much forplay at all, but that's really her desicion. Our sex life is pretty lame most days, but we also have two small kiddies so not like we can hang off the rafters and go crazy.
We are 31 and 35, only thing that has change is I got a vesectomy early this year. Not sure if that would have any effect or not.
no,,,, i can't see your vesectomy a problem,,,,,,, how old are your children?? i only ask this as she may be suffering from post natal depression ,,,,,, and believe me,,,, this is not a good day out!! if you manage to get to her intimately then use lube,,,,,,, but warm it first,,,,,,,,

“CAUTION: I SPEAK MY MIND.”

Since: Sep 09

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#6 May 18, 2010
NoMoOs wrote:
Not much forplay at all, but that's really her desicion. Our sex life is pretty lame most days, but we also have two small kiddies so not like we can hang off the rafters and go crazy.
We are 31 and 35, only thing that has change is I got a vesectomy early this year. Not sure if that would have any effect or not.
Kids can affect the woman's sex drive. She is worn out. How old are the kids?
NoMoOs

Bronx, NY

#7 May 18, 2010
Children are 5 and 10 months, so yes post partum might be an issue. But she doesn't seem much different on the outside, but women are good about hiding their emotions.

Lube huh? So a warm lube make hitting the spot a little easier? Nice I like that. Funny how a guys mind works, I was thinking a big double dong could help! Lol... Kidding
Dreamer1

Phoenix, AZ

#8 May 18, 2010
Difficult as it will be you must find some just you and she time. If she is struggling with the life with the kids and the hubby and the rest of the world that will make her realize that you are in it with her. You think she knows it, and she does, but having that demonstrated by you will speak volumes to her heart and her head. It will also give you a little more insight into what makes her tick. You do deserve a bit of consideration in this . Hopefully that will make her remember why you two got together in the first place. :)

Since: Jun 08

Location hidden

#9 May 18, 2010
NoMoOs wrote:
Children are 5 and 10 months, so yes post partum might be an issue. But she doesn't seem much different on the outside, but women are good about hiding their emotions.
Lube huh? So a warm lube make hitting the spot a little easier? Nice I like that. Funny how a guys mind works, I was thinking a big double dong could help! Lol... Kidding
from what your saying i think your wife is suffering ,,,,,,,, personally if she is feeling ,,,,,,,,,, the way i did,,,,,,,,, there is nothing you can do, but get her to a doctor,,,,,,,,,, be gentle in suggesting she may have a problem,,,,, cos she already knows,,,,,, let her get to the docs herself,,,,let her think she's sorting it herself,,,,,, she needs help ,,,, really,,,,, let her get it,,,,, i know you might be thinking your not going to get your hole for a while,,, but you have to let her heal,,,,, and really she needs to,,,, with help.
Don D

United States

#10 Mar 17, 2013
My wife and I have been married for about 12 years. She has never shown much interested in sex, it's been me pushing her most of the time. We do it about 6-8 times a year. I can't stand it and go to sleep most night wanting to make love to her She has not had an organism in almost 2 years. She is 61 and I am 63. What am I doing wrong.
Don D

United States

#11 Mar 17, 2013
There is nothing I won't do to her. I just don't think she likes it. I could be the problem. Just not sure what to do.
Any suggestions?
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