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Since: Jul 08

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#1 Jan 23, 2009
ok, just as the title says everyone! ive NEVER given a handjob..go figure. i just feel werid if the mouth isnt involved down there! ive used my hands while giving a bj..but im talking about purely a handjob.

haha ok so i could probably give a decent hand job from what i know, but i wanna know some good stuff and advice.

Since: Nov 08

Melbourne, Australia

#2 Jan 23, 2009
Don't be too rough, most women are too rough, well thats what I found.

“I want a piece of that steak”

Since: Apr 07

Tazmania

#3 Jan 23, 2009
magnanimousness wrote:
Don't be too rough, most women are too rough, well thats what I found.
First of all make sure she is a woman.

Since: Jan 08

Iroquois Falls, Canada

#4 Jan 23, 2009
...no 'Indian arm-burn' technique...

Since: Jan 08

Iroquois Falls, Canada

#5 Jan 23, 2009
On a more serious note... ;-)

a) I'm intact, so lubrication isn't a huuge concern, but since you're in the US, you should probably consider lube...

b) One thing I've always enjoyed is instead of an "up and down" motion, try the "hand over hand" motion where both hands (one after the other) go from the bottom up and vice versa (careful going downwards if they're sensitive like me!)

c) Talk dirty during it!... I love having a girl lying next to me and talking while she does it.

and if all else fails?... ask him what he likes!
Shaker

United States

#6 Jan 23, 2009
Visitor from Mars

United States

#7 Jan 24, 2009
Rock Out,
Some women give lousy handjobs and some give incredible handjobs. However, don't feel wierd if the mouth isn't involved at all. Handjobs can be hot and as erotic as hell.

Assuming no mouth is involved at all, you're probalby not going to have any readily available lube handy...saliva. That being the case, be wary of your grip. If you're going for long strokes, all the way up and down the shaft, use a very light grip and let your hand slowly glide over his skin. If you grab too tightly with long strokes, you'll end up pulling too hard on the shaft skin and end up pulling hard down and away from his head....which becomes painful and burns.

Use short quick strokes when grabbing near the base of his head. When stoking like this, you can use a firmer grip but concentrate the grip between your thumb and opposing index and middle finger only. Short, quick strokes right at the base of his head like this will make him go crazy and you'll probably get him to cum right away. So, if you want it to last, don't do this too long or maybe do it intermittently.

If you decide to use some saliva by either licking your hand or just spitting on his d*ck, use a twisting motion with your entire hand while you slowly stoke the full lenghth of him. Not too many women do this and it truly separates the amature handjobbers from the pro's (so to speak). This absolutely drives me crazy!

Lasly, keep in mind that most guys jerk themselves with their hand pointing outward (thumb and index finger near end of d*ck, little finger toward body and on the underside of the d*ck). If you grab a guy in the opposite way (thumb and index toward the body, little fingers near end) you'll give him a sensation that he's rarely or possibly never experienced, which can be very arousing. Jerk him like this and be sure to have the palm of your hand rub the top of his head while your two smallest fingers rest and rub the underside of his head. Do this in more of a pulling away from the body motion (like you're tugging and pulling on his d*ck) rather than a pushing toward the body motion, but be sure to rub the underside of his head while doing it. This should make him crazy too.

For some reason I've only mentioned what to do with your guy's d*ck, figuring that's what you are referring to. However, by all means, don't forget the balls! I cannot stress enough how much more awsome a handjob or bl*wjob is when a woman is working my balls. Hold em, feel em, roll em around in your hand, grab em, kneed em, even squeeze em while you're working his d*ck. Watch his reactions for how much or how little to work em...just work on those too and he'll love you for it!

Good luck and have fun experimenting....and don't forget to write back and tell me your results!

“Men should be submissive”

Since: Nov 07

Location hidden

#8 Jan 24, 2009
Visitor from Mars wrote:
Rock Out,
Some women give lousy handjobs and some give incredible handjobs. However, don't feel wierd if the mouth isn't involved at all. Handjobs can be hot and as erotic as hell.
Assuming no mouth is involved at all, you're probalby not going to have any readily available lube handy...saliva. That being the case, be wary of your grip. If you're going for long strokes, all the way up and down the shaft, use a very light grip and let your hand slowly glide over his skin. If you grab too tightly with long strokes, you'll end up pulling too hard on the shaft skin and end up pulling hard down and away from his head....which becomes painful and burns.
Use short quick strokes when grabbing near the base of his head. When stoking like this, you can use a firmer grip but concentrate the grip between your thumb and opposing index and middle finger only. Short, quick strokes right at the base of his head like this will make him go crazy and you'll probably get him to cum right away. So, if you want it to last, don't do this too long or maybe do it intermittently.
If you decide to use some saliva by either licking your hand or just spitting on his d*ck, use a twisting motion with your entire hand while you slowly stoke the full lenghth of him. Not too many women do this and it truly separates the amature handjobbers from the pro's (so to speak). This absolutely drives me crazy!
Lasly, keep in mind that most guys jerk themselves with their hand pointing outward (thumb and index finger near end of d*ck, little finger toward body and on the underside of the d*ck). If you grab a guy in the opposite way (thumb and index toward the body, little fingers near end) you'll give him a sensation that he's rarely or possibly never experienced, which can be very arousing. Jerk him like this and be sure to have the palm of your hand rub the top of his head while your two smallest fingers rest and rub the underside of his head. Do this in more of a pulling away from the body motion (like you're tugging and pulling on his d*ck) rather than a pushing toward the body motion, but be sure to rub the underside of his head while doing it. This should make him crazy too.
For some reason I've only mentioned what to do with your guy's d*ck, figuring that's what you are referring to. However, by all means, don't forget the balls! I cannot stress enough how much more awsome a handjob or bl*wjob is when a woman is working my balls. Hold em, feel em, roll em around in your hand, grab em, kneed em, even squeeze em while you're working his d*ck. Watch his reactions for how much or how little to work em...just work on those too and he'll love you for it!
Good luck and have fun experimenting....and don't forget to write back and tell me your results!
I don't get it!! Maybe you will have to show me in person? It may take a really long time for me to catch on, so we will have to practice for hours. I know you will be a really good teacher.
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Visitor from Mars

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#9 Jan 24, 2009
la la la lola wrote:
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I don't get it!! Maybe you will have to show me in person? It may take a really long time for me to catch on, so we will have to practice for hours. I know you will be a really good teacher.
Well, why don't you name a time and a place. We'll make sure it's a time in which we have hours and hours so I can be sure that you get it down perfectly. I don't mind taking extra time and doing things over and over in order for you to get it just right!:)
Let me know when and where!

Since: Jul 08

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#10 Jan 24, 2009
thanks everyone! hmm i think theres this guy that im going to lose my handjob virginity to! haha..but uhh..hes kind of a scumbag sometimes so idk if hes worthy of any action, oh well, we'll see!

Since: Jul 08

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#11 Jan 24, 2009
fishbulb80 wrote:
...no 'Indian arm-burn' technique...
HAHAHA. i wasnt planning on that, but thanks =]

Since: Nov 08

Dayton, OH

#12 Jan 24, 2009
i love getting hand jobs, most of the time though we either end up screwing or i get a bj,, but to be finished with a hand job is awsome

Since: Nov 08

Dayton, OH

#13 Jan 24, 2009
Rock_Out wrote:
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HAHAHA. i wasnt planning on that, but thanks =]
rock out u can practice on me anytime

“Men should be submissive”

Since: Nov 07

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#14 Jan 24, 2009
Rock_Out wrote:
thanks everyone! hmm i think theres this guy that im going to lose my handjob virginity to! haha..but uhh..hes kind of a scumbag sometimes so idk if hes worthy of any action, oh well, we'll see!
Oh my goodnes, not a scumbag! No, no! You're much too good for that. You are young, pretty and smart. You can have any man you want and they will kiss your ass - literally AND figuratively. Pick a man who is worthy of you..... even if it's just to practice your technique.

Since: Jul 08

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#16 Jan 24, 2009
la la la lola wrote:
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Oh my goodnes, not a scumbag! No, no! You're much too good for that. You are young, pretty and smart. You can have any man you want and they will kiss your ass - literally AND figuratively. Pick a man who is worthy of you..... even if it's just to practice your technique.
wow, thanks lola! that means a lot.

its like sometimes this guy can be soo nice and sweet, and then sometimes a scumbag. and idk if hes just sweet talking me. im not sure.

Since: Jul 08

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#18 Jan 24, 2009
Baked Potatoes Are Sexy wrote:
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You know, Rock_Out, I could let you practice on me, and then when I gush sour cream you could put your mouth on the geyser and drink it down. We don't even have to use a potato, but I might warn you that my efflux will probably have a tinge of potato essence, no doubt.
gahhh. ew. never again.
A Happy Wife

Danville, KY

#19 Jan 25, 2009
Visitor from Mars wrote:
Rock Out,
Some women give lousy handjobs and some give incredible handjobs. However, don't feel wierd if the mouth isn't involved at all. Handjobs can be hot and as erotic as hell.
Assuming no mouth is involved at all, you're probalby not going to have any readily available lube handy...saliva. That being the case, be wary of your grip. If you're going for long strokes, all the way up and down the shaft, use a very light grip and let your hand slowly glide over his skin. If you grab too tightly with long strokes, you'll end up pulling too hard on the shaft skin and end up pulling hard down and away from his head....which becomes painful and burns.
Use short quick strokes when grabbing near the base of his head. When stoking like this, you can use a firmer grip but concentrate the grip between your thumb and opposing index and middle finger only. Short, quick strokes right at the base of his head like this will make him go crazy and you'll probably get him to cum right away. So, if you want it to last, don't do this too long or maybe do it intermittently.
If you decide to use some saliva by either licking your hand or just spitting on his d*ck, use a twisting motion with your entire hand while you slowly stoke the full lenghth of him. Not too many women do this and it truly separates the amature handjobbers from the pro's (so to speak). This absolutely drives me crazy!
Lasly, keep in mind that most guys jerk themselves with their hand pointing outward (thumb and index finger near end of d*ck, little finger toward body and on the underside of the d*ck). If you grab a guy in the opposite way (thumb and index toward the body, little fingers near end) you'll give him a sensation that he's rarely or possibly never experienced, which can be very arousing. Jerk him like this and be sure to have the palm of your hand rub the top of his head while your two smallest fingers rest and rub the underside of his head. Do this in more of a pulling away from the body motion (like you're tugging and pulling on his d*ck) rather than a pushing toward the body motion, but be sure to rub the underside of his head while doing it. This should make him crazy too.
For some reason I've only mentioned what to do with your guy's d*ck, figuring that's what you are referring to. However, by all means, don't forget the balls! I cannot stress enough how much more awsome a handjob or bl*wjob is when a woman is working my balls. Hold em, feel em, roll em around in your hand, grab em, kneed em, even squeeze em while you're working his d*ck. Watch his reactions for how much or how little to work em...just work on those too and he'll love you for it!
Good luck and have fun experimenting....and don't forget to write back and tell me your results!
You're advice was very helpful and inspiriring. I used it on my husband yesterday morning, let's just say we both were VERY satisfied afterward. It was the first time, during a hand job, that I actually felt like I was accomplishing more than..just 'getting the job done', no pun intended. Now, I just need to figure out a way to get him to verbalize what he wants to me, more than he does. Yes, I do ask, but he's just the quite type. I think we'll try again in a few hours <:)
Visitor from Mars

United States

#20 Jan 26, 2009
Rock_Out wrote:
thanks everyone! hmm i think theres this guy that im going to lose my handjob virginity to! haha..but uhh..hes kind of a scumbag sometimes so idk if hes worthy of any action, oh well, we'll see!
Well, if he's a scumbag, don't waste your time trying to do a good job on him. Maybe he should get the "Indian rub burn" instead.

Why in the world would you do anything with a scumbag anyway?? Why not wait until you meet a guy you really are hot for??
Visitor from Mars

United States

#21 Jan 26, 2009
la la la lola wrote:
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Oh my goodnes, not a scumbag! No, no! You're much too good for that. You are young, pretty and smart. You can have any man you want and they will kiss your ass - literally AND figuratively. Pick a man who is worthy of you..... even if it's just to practice your technique.
Rock Out, I second Lola's comments! She's right, the right guy will literally kiss and lick your @ss!! LOL Seriously, wait for a guy who is worth of you! I'm sure then you'll have LOTS of time to practice technique then.
Visitor from Mars

United States

#22 Jan 26, 2009
A Happy Wife wrote:
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You're advice was very helpful and inspiriring. I used it on my husband yesterday morning, let's just say we both were VERY satisfied afterward. It was the first time, during a hand job, that I actually felt like I was accomplishing more than..just 'getting the job done', no pun intended. Now, I just need to figure out a way to get him to verbalize what he wants to me, more than he does. Yes, I do ask, but he's just the quite type. I think we'll try again in a few hours <:)
WOW Happy Wife, glad I was able to assist you. I hope what I wrote made you feel a little more confident in your handjob technique. Most women are not confident at all with handjobs...that's why I wrote as much as I did (and there is so much more to write too!). I love handjobs and when a woman is confident in her skills, it is awesome when she does her thing!

Anyway, I hope your husband appreciated my little write up too. You're right, having him tell you what he likes is very important in order to get it right. Ask him what he liked and disliked and keep working at it. Let me know if you need any other advice...I'm glad to assist.

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