abc

Leichhardt, Australia

#1 Dec 7, 2007
I went to an escort tonight because I got depressed waiting around. I don't know what I can really say. I am disappointed, I couldn't get an erection. I can get an erection watching porn, but when I'm next to a women I can't. I think its because I was really nervous. I don't want to goto prostitute but I want to get experience and confidence. I thought it would be the easiest way. I have no idea what I can do now.
IWasTooYoungToEn joyIt

Nevada City, CA

#3 Dec 7, 2007
abc wrote:
I went to an escort tonight because I got depressed waiting around. I don't know what I can really say. I am disappointed, I couldn't get an erection. I can get an erection watching porn, but when I'm next to a women I can't. I think its because I was really nervous. I don't want to goto prostitute but I want to get experience and confidence. I thought it would be the easiest way. I have no idea what I can do now.
I think going to a sex therapist would help if the laws in your area allow sex positive sex therapy. I thought escorts should know some sex therapy or how to teach someone how to have sex. Maybe try a different escort. Unfortunately, in my area there are no escorts listed in the phone book.

Since: Dec 07

Killeen, TX

#4 Dec 7, 2007
IWasTooYoungToEnjoyIt wrote:
<quoted text>
I think going to a sex therapist would help if the laws in your area allow sex positive sex therapy. I thought escorts should know some sex therapy or how to teach someone how to have sex. Maybe try a different escort. Unfortunately, in my area there are no escorts listed in the phone book.
I agree, you need to talk to a Doctor about this too, maybe get a referal to someone to make sure there is not a root cause to your problem. I know for the most part we all do some smart ass comments here, but ths is something that needs to be addressed in a helpful way.
happy woman

Memphis, TN

#5 Dec 7, 2007
abc, it might also be helpful to consider finding an escort you're comfortable with and trying to build a repore with her before pushing the sex issue. I know that could become expensive quickly but I have never been overly fond of sex with someone you hardly know, even if you really like them. Exposing the most intimate side of yourself is tough, especially for a man because you guys have performance issues that women don't have to deal with as much.

From having read some of your posts, however, I do think the first thing you need to do is make a list daily of the good things you've done that day and about your good qualities. Sounds like you've come to believe all that's been said to you/about you. If you know it really isn't true, start rebuilding your self-image and say screw everybody else that is just mean. You may not be able to control how attractive you are but they certainly could have controlled their behavior. Shame on them!
chuck

Memphis, TN

#7 Dec 7, 2007
tonya harding wrote:
<quoted text>THE THE RED HOUSE IN MINERAL WELLS WEST VIRGINIA HAS THE GIRLS TO DO U PROPERLY......SO DOES PALAMINOS IN EAGLE PASS TEXAS just across the border into mexico.....maybe some readers can sugguest other nice places.........
I don't know about the price of the girls you're talking about but the plane ticket from Australia to TX is going to jack the price up pretty good! LOL
COWBOY

UK

#8 Dec 7, 2007
abc wrote:
I went to an escort tonight because I got depressed waiting around. I don't know what I can really say. I am disappointed, I couldn't get an erection. I can get an erection watching porn, but when I'm next to a women I can't. I think its because I was really nervous. I don't want to goto prostitute but I want to get experience and confidence. I thought it would be the easiest way. I have no idea what I can do now.
Most men experience performance anxiety at some point, ie unable to get an erection or to keep it... you can suffer it with a new woman or just through stress and anxiety... so its no surprise that you had this problem with the escort given your confidence issues. What I'd suggest is that rather than beating yourself up about it, visit an escort again, perhaps the same one as before if you liked her, or else try a different one...(it would be a great help for you to find a 'nice' escort that you can click with) when you see her tell her that its your first time and your nervous, if she is good then she will be extre affectionate and attentive to you, many escorts like having inexperienced men... then I would just concentrate on kissing and exploring her body (hopefully she will be kissing you and showing you some affection) dont even think about an erection or penetration, just concentrate on the 'foreplay' and when you relax enough belive me the erection will come. I had simular issues with women when I was younger and the escorts that I visited acted like therapists to me... I had to visit a few, some were good some not so, but in the end I grew in confidence and had some great sexual experiences... and it was cheaper than visiting a therapist for 20 years!!!.... just dont expect too much all at once....

Since: Dec 07

Arlington, VA

#9 Dec 7, 2007
you just need to man the f*ck up and go chase women and not be afraid.
abc

Leichhardt, Australia

#10 Dec 7, 2007
IWasTooYoungToEnjoyIt wrote:
<quoted text>
I think going to a sex therapist would help if the laws in your area allow sex positive sex therapy. I thought escorts should know some sex therapy or how to teach someone how to have sex. Maybe try a different escort. Unfortunately, in my area there are no escorts listed in the phone book.
Get a local paper, where I live there listed in the paper and in the phone book. I have known some guys that goto them but I didn't really ask them too many questions because I wasn't that desperate at that time. I think the ones that are in my town just travel through, make a quick dollar and goto the next town. The one I went to she was nice, but I wouldn't go back to her. I only like the idea of seeing escorts because of my inexperience, its a way to learn without worrying about having to try and make a good impression. I just a very nervous person most of the time and could never get comfortable. I'm no good at making small talk and never can think of things to say. Then the tension builds up and I get even more nervous. Its not something I can hide.
IWasTooYoungToEn joyIt

Nevada City, CA

#11 Dec 8, 2007
420 Sheriff wrote:
bullet to the brain looser
I don't know why a post encouraging suicide or murder wasn't deleted, nor why 420 Sheriff never apologized. 420 should know that failure to have sex is no excuse for suicide. Or if the "bullet to the brain" ment to murder the escort, the escort's profession or inexperience or lack of skill is no excuse taking a life.

Not all cops want sex workers and johns to be dead. Here is a web site for Law Enforcement Against Prohibition:

http://www.leap.cc/cms/index.php
IWasTooYoungToEn joyIt

Nevada City, CA

#12 Dec 8, 2007
Thanks for the tip. The internet newspapers seem to have some ads that MAYBE helpful in sex therapy.

I wonder if you'd have luck asking the escort what help is available for the problem of not getting an erection. I'd think any client would worry about it, especially if they spent thousands to fly to Bangkok only to be too tired or nervious to have sex. I wish you luck in finding what you need. What you need is probably what COWBOY described above.
IWasTooYoungToEn joyIt

Nevada City, CA

#13 Dec 8, 2007
I'd like to ask anyone reading this: Under pressure of time constraints, what is a sex worker to do when a client wants to have sex but fails to get an erection?

I think it's something that happens very often, especially when the client is young or old, and when the professional or client is traveling therefore has a very restricted time contraint to work with. Also a new professional may have difficulty helping new clients feel comfortable. Also, in American culture, males as well as females, seems to expect men to always be ready to have sex, when you least expect it the woman says that you "have one opportunity right now, and if you fail I'll never try to give you any again".
Whatever

Seongnam, Korea

#14 Dec 9, 2007
drink a lot of beer and take a little blue pill

Since: Mar 13

Newport, UK

#16 Mar 2, 2013
Escorts that know what they are doing can help. I've helped a lovely gentleman like yourself abc, and now he gets an erection at ease and enjoys his sessions. Come to the UK.
lincs32

UK

#17 Jun 22, 2013
Any in north Lincolnshir available tonight?
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