I need help with my cheating ex

I need help with my cheating ex

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tiredofmyex

La Puente, CA

#1 Oct 15, 2013
I have a pretty nasty story to tell and I need some advice! I grew up with a girl that I almost immediately fell in love with. Time passed on, she dated a lot of guys. There was just no way that we could ever be anything! After a lot of years had gone by, we reconnected as friends and out of the blue she told me that she's in love with me and that she had been in love with me for several years. She didn't tell me before because she wasn't sure I like girls but I do and I was sooo in love with her for a long time. Imagine my surprise when she confessed her true feelings for me! I was beyond ecstatic! I was sooo happy! So we immediately started dating. We had sex, well sort of. Everything was going great...Until she started cheating on me. She cheated on me within the first 2 months of us being together! I was crushed! I confronted her on it, she apologized and told me it was just a slip up and that it wouldn't happen again. But it kept happening! She cheated over and over again! I finally had enough of her cheating but I couldn't get myself to end the relationship. I was tooo whipped and in love with her to do anything to put a stop on the relationship! She pretty much had a tight hold on me. She kept telling me she was sorry and none of those other girls meant anything to her, that I was her number one and I actually believed her. I became very very angry through out the relationship because of her cheating but I stayed with her because I didn't want to lose that blissful feeling of being in love with her. Yeah stupid, I know! So as I grew angrier and angrier at her, she decided to turn things around on me and ended our relationship and she stated that because I was so angry at her, she was going to end it all based on my anger! Crazy huh? So being that we were friends for 30 years now, we went back to being friends. It was not what I wanted but she wanted it. She was controlling the relationship and when I would call her out on her cheating, she accused ME of being the controlling one. She never takes any responsibility for her actions and she wants to blame me for the demise of our relationship. Recently, I found out from her own words that she was doing another girl who recently got married to her girlfriend! This idiot was doing my ex while setting herself up to get married. I got even more angry and I called my ex out on all the stupid things she's doing! I am in still in love with her but I am extremely angry at her too! I know the relationship with her is not good for me. I know I deserve better! I know that she does not deserve to have me in her life, not even as a friend! I know that she is the problem and she messed up badly,not me! I need advice on how I can cope with all of the crap she is putting me through. I just need some support. How can I get this girl out of my heart being that the feelings I've had for her are deeply entrenched. I hurt so bad and I need help!
twistedheartache

United States

#2 Oct 15, 2013
tiredofmyex wrote:
I have a pretty nasty story to tell and I need some advice! I grew up with a girl that I almost immediately fell in love with. Time passed on, she dated a lot of guys. There was just no way that we could ever be anything! After a lot of years had gone by, we reconnected as friends and out of the blue she told me that she's in love with me and that she had been in love with me for several years. She didn't tell me before because she wasn't sure I like girls but I do and I was sooo in love with her for a long time. Imagine my surprise when she confessed her true feelings for me! I was beyond ecstatic! I was sooo happy! So we immediately started dating. We had sex, well sort of. Everything was going great...Until she started cheating on me. She cheated on me within the first 2 months of us being together! I was crushed! I confronted her on it, she apologized and told me it was just a slip up and that it wouldn't happen again. But it kept happening! She cheated over and over again! I finally had enough of her cheating but I couldn't get myself to end the relationship. I was tooo whipped and in love with her to do anything to put a stop on the relationship! She pretty much had a tight hold on me. She kept telling me she was sorry and none of those other girls meant anything to her, that I was her number one and I actually believed her. I became very very angry through out the relationship because of her cheating but I stayed with her because I didn't want to lose that blissful feeling of being in love with her. Yeah stupid, I know! So as I grew angrier and angrier at her, she decided to turn things around on me and ended our relationship and she stated that because I was so angry at her, she was going to end it all based on my anger! Crazy huh? So being that we were friends for 30 years now, we went back to being friends. It was not what I wanted but she wanted it. She was controlling the relationship and when I would call her out on her cheating, she accused ME of being the controlling one. She never takes any responsibility for her actions and she wants to blame me for the demise of our relationship. Recently, I found out from her own words that she was doing another girl who recently got married to her girlfriend! This idiot was doing my ex while setting herself up to get married. I got even more angry and I called my ex out on all the stupid things she's doing! I am in still in love with her but I am extremely angry at her too! I know the relationship with her is not good for me. I know I deserve better! I know that she does not deserve to have me in her life, not even as a friend! I know that she is the problem and she messed up badly,not me! I need advice on how I can cope with all of the crap she is putting me through. I just need some support. How can I get this girl out of my heart being that the feelings I've had for her are deeply entrenched. I hurt so bad and I need help!
I'm goin thru the same mess it sux. I'm sorry and I wish I could help. I just found out about the cheating so it's all fresh so please if you figure it out before I do please share
tiredofmyex

La Puente, CA

#4 Oct 15, 2013
Merle...Normal and Decent Hetero who fell in love with her back then best friend.

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