Hi ya Wastey, Che si deech?<quoted text>
What will you do when most states have legalized marriage equality?
Hi ya Wastey....Che si dice (deech)?<quoted text>
The trajectory of justice moving toward equality for all citizens.
Here's a few excerpts for you:
Yes, really. While the Supreme Court and the rest of us are all focused on the human right of marriage equality, lets not forget that the fight doesnt end with same-sex marriage. We need to legalize polygamy, too. Legalized polygamy in the United States is the constitutional, feminist, and sex-positive choice. More importantly, it would actually help protect, empower, and strengthen women, children, and families.
Finally, prohibiting polygamy on feminist groundsthat these marriages are inherently degrading to the women involvedis misguided. The case for polygamy is, in fact, a feminist one and shows women the respect we deserve. Heres the thing: As women, we really can make our own choices. We just might choose things people dont like. If a woman wants to marry a man, thats great. If she wants to marry another woman, thats great too. If she wants to marry a hipster, wellI suppose thats the price of freedom.
And if she wants to marry a man with three other wives, thats her damn choice.
We have a tendency to dismiss or marginalize people we dont understand. We see women in polygamous marriages and assume they are victims.They grew up in an unhealthy environment, we say.They didnt really choose polygamy; they were just born into it. Without question, that is sometimes true. But its also true of many (too many) monogamous marriages. Plenty of women, polygamous or otherwise, are born into unhealthy environments that they repeat later in life. Theres no difference. All marriages deserve access to the support and resources they need to build happy, healthy lives, regardless of how many partners are involved. Arguments about whether a womans consensual sexual and romantic choices are healthy should have no bearing on the legal process. And while polygamy remains illegal, women who choose this lifestyle dont have access to the protections and benefits that legal marriage provides.
As a feminist, its easy and intuitive to support women who choose education, independence, and careers. Its not as intuitive to support women who choose values and lifestyles that seem outdated or even sexist, but those women deserve our respect just as much as any others. Its condescending, not supportive, to minimize them as mere victims without considering the possibility that some of them have simply made a different choice.
The definition of marriage is plastic. Just like heterosexual marriage is no better or worse than homosexual marriage, marriage between two consenting adults is not inherently more or less correct than marriage among three (or four, or six) consenting adults. Though polygamists are a minoritya tiny minority, in factfreedom has no value unless it extends to even the smallest and most marginalized groups among us. So lets fight for marriage equality until it extends to every same-sex couple in the United Statesand then lets keep fighting. Were not done yet.