Nicely put.<quoted text>
I disagree. The expectations to be straight experienced in the 50's and 60's remained strong through the rest of the century and while less intense in some areas of the country, remains today. Kids and adults as well still give out those messages as evidenced by the lingering popularity of demeaning phrases like "that's so gay" and others. We still see kids killing themselves because they have been taught since early childhood it is better to be dead than to be gay. I worked closely with school aged youth until recently, and I saw the peer pressure and pressure from adults to be straight on a daily basis. While true there is more room for acceptance in many university settings, for most in a regular public school and especially in a religiously run private school, the pressure to be straight remains strong. For those who went into the military, that social expectation was encoded in law until a year ago.
But acceptance in adult years has improved greatly, and now that gay people can have legal recognition and protections for their marriage in 10 states, more are feeling comfortable having their own children. Parents need not give up the hope of grandchildren just because a child turns out to be gay.
The hard part is getting the gay teens THROUGH the rough years before adulthood.