Fair enough, and well put. I am not against it, but I won't *come hell or high water* word it as you do; you are almost as if respectful toward those who "don't get it," as you said well and accurately. I call them stupid, weak-willed and afraid, but it's much the same thing. In fact, sir, I *don't* single them out: I think humanity is so stupid, weak-willed and afraid that I'm shocked, shocked beyond words, that life on earth is not that much worse. I constantly see my own limitations; some irritate me and others, I live with. This "antigay" shit is pretty blatant, though; I detect many clues and much evidence that the antigay *THEMSELVES KNOW THEY ARE LYING* by now, but keep lying out of fear, a sense of "pride," and a refusal to pronounce themselves wrong as hell.I sincerely doubt the court will go against the stream of progress however it is our duty to work towards a measured process with this issue. To have them issue a blanket decision that the house of cards built in part by state constitution and bigotry be blown up with an atomic bomb would be an absolute disaster for all concerned.
Keep in mind that we are in a major financial crisis and need to keep some oil on the waters of national emotion. Immediate removal of the state laws would only feed a seething discontent that could very well rip our country apart. That is not something any of us should wish for in our battle for equal rights.
We need to remove the definition of marriage from DOMA and just go about our business of change in a manner which allows for understanding and respect of those who don't yet "get it". By turning the dripping faucet into a steady trickle will get us further than blowing up the dam.
If we do so we should see a complete change by the end of this decade and we may very well end up with a raft of equal rights for all of us. Slow and steady as we go.
So I can live with the slower, steadier course if I am almost literally vicious in my assessment of it; that makes it OK enough for me to realize and to believe that I have been honest with myself, and see the *real* reasons that justice is so slow: In fact, there *is* no other reason. None.
Thank you for your post; I think it's very well done.