Mike, no offense, but Rick came on here to try to get some help and advice. To just tell him that what his wife is doing is wrong isn't of help. The guy loves his wife, but right now is confused and hurt.btw linda, new terms in a contract can only be incorporated if the present contract is terminated. I really doubt if this guy married this woman on the pretext that she would start ` finding herself ` sexually outside their relationship with another person. If she wants to do that, according to your argument, they should get divorced and re-marry with a new set of terms.
I think it shows what a good man he is that he is exploring all his options, trying to educate himself, and is willing to stick by his wife while she goes through this. And nobody knows what the outcome is - which is one of the main things scaring him.
How things worked out for you may not be how they work out for him. I admire his courage to not only stand by his wife, but that he is maintaining the open communication with her and is sharing his feelings with the rest of us - and I'm sure those feelings are very raw at the moment.
Rick, nobody's situation is the same as somebody elses. Only you and your wife can decide what is best for the two of you. My only advice is that you shouldn't compromise what you want or how you feel. It's just as important to be honest with yourself as it is to be with your wife. And, I offer sincere best wishes for the both of you and hope the outcome is a positive one. Please keep us posted.