that some churches perform gay marriages doesn't man most of them do...<quoted text>
I see no need for anyone to give up any equal rights or recognition.
Again, gay people are already getting married in churches, and allowing everyone to participate under the same name, rules, and rights, does not require anyone to give up any of those rights. Churches that don't support equality are still free to discriminate for any reason they choose.
Since gay people already marry in many churches, only non-believers would give up "marriage".
and in 32 states, gays do not participate under the same name, rules, and rights.
I would think this was a sweet deal for gays, I am very surprised to see it rejected ...