Possible gay friend
Question for gays

Tallinn, Estonia

#3 Feb 5, 2014
Yes, I suspected as much.

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Since: Oct 07

Appleton WI

#4 Feb 6, 2014
Question for gays wrote:
Ok, I'm 30 m and straight, I've known my friend (same age) since highschool. I have never known him to actually have had a gay relationship. He's married with 3 kids.
Just after secondary school I went to do some farm work with him. We stayed at his Grandparent's house in the country but instead of sleeping inside (there was enough space), he said we should sleep in a 2 man tent outside. I didn't really think anything of it.
Then in the middle of the night I woke up and his hands were touching my back. I pretended to be asleep while acting as if I was swatting off insects or something. It stopped, but then it happened once again before he stopped completely.
I am fairly sure it was intentional. However, can't be 100% sure. I acted as if nothing had happened the next day, and nothing else strange happened the rest of the trip.
He was once caught in secondary school wanking off while sleeping in a straight male's room at the straight male's parent's house.
When we were about 25 we were at a bar and while playing pool he reached up and felt the back of my head, I asked what he was doing and he said he was feeling for a bump because it is a sign of being religious or something.
Over the years he has made comments such as "look at that guy riding the bike in lycra, that kind of stuff should be banned", he once said he found a banana wrapped in toilet paper in his cousin's house.
So, is he gay or not?
This story actually brings up more questions about you than your friend. It si possible your friend is gay or bisexual, but not one of your clues really suggests that at all, but it suggests that you certainly think about it a lot. Let's see what we've got here...

1) 2 boys in a small tent... one inadvertently touches the other ones back while sleeping. Nope. This would make just about everybody gay. But it is more telling that you imagine, not only that your friend is gay, but that YOU are... or were... the object of his affections.

2) Young boy wanking off... Nope. Doesn't matter that it was in the room of a "straight male." In the history of mankind, young boys have been "caught" masturbating just about anywhere you can think of. The vast majority of them, regardless of WHERE they were caught, or the sexual orientation of the other persons normally occupying the space, were not gay.

3) Young man feels the back of your head and claims he was "feeling for a bump because it is a sign of being religious or something." Nope. Very odd, but nothing to do with being gay. Even odder that you would associate this with possibly being gay.

4) Making comments such as "look at that guy riding the bike in lycra, that kind of stuff should be banned" Nope. but this one's actually a possibility. An openly gay guy generally would not complain about athletic men in tight clothing. A closeted gay man might say something like this to attempt to portray a masculine heterosexual image for himself. Or a "straight" man who is insecure about being perceived as one who admires the male physique might say something like this to mask what he's really thinking. But certainly not an automatic "gay" here.

5) "he once said he found a banana wrapped in toilet paper in his cousin's house." Huh? I don't know what this means, but I have no clue how it suggests he is gay. again, it is more telling about YOU that this is the way your mind works.

I'm 50 and I have a friend (same age) I've known for longer than you've been alive. Over the years he's said or done more things that might hint at him possibly being gay than what you've mentioned about YOUR friend. And to this day he's never had a girlfriend, never married, and yet... I'm 100% certain that he's 100% heterosexual.

You need to ask yourself why you are wondering about your friend's sexual orientation. Would you not be his friend if you knew he was gay? Why do you associate every little thing with the possibility of him being gay? Are you attracted to him? Are YOU gay??

“Equality marches on! ”

Since: Apr 08

Location hidden

#6 Feb 6, 2014
But you took the time to reply, Pierre1. Just a little peek from over there in France?

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Since: Oct 07

Appleton WI

#7 Feb 7, 2014
Pierre wrote:
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Wow you put WAY too much thought into that one.
Sorry... I know thinking isn't exactly your favorite pastime. It's not only too much for YOU to think, but it also makes you uncomfortable when OTHER people think. How insensitive of me not to THINK about people who don't like too much THINKING.
Rainbow Kid

Alpharetta, GA

#8 Feb 7, 2014
Question for gays wrote:
Ok, I'm 30 m and straight, I've known my friend (same age) since highschool. I have never known him to actually have had a gay relationship. He's married with 3 kids.
Just after secondary school I went to do some farm work with him. We stayed at his Grandparent's house in the country but instead of sleeping inside (there was enough space), he said we should sleep in a 2 man tent outside. I didn't really think anything of it.
Then in the middle of the night I woke up and his hands were touching my back. I pretended to be asleep while acting as if I was swatting off insects or something. It stopped, but then it happened once again before he stopped completely.
I am fairly sure it was intentional. However, can't be 100% sure. I acted as if nothing had happened the next day, and nothing else strange happened the rest of the trip.
He was once caught in secondary school wanking off while sleeping in a straight male's room at the straight male's parent's house.
When we were about 25 we were at a bar and while playing pool he reached up and felt the back of my head, I asked what he was doing and he said he was feeling for a bump because it is a sign of being religious or something.
Over the years he has made comments such as "look at that guy riding the bike in lycra, that kind of stuff should be banned", he once said he found a banana wrapped in toilet paper in his cousin's house.
So, is he gay or not?
No
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You are. Your friend is trying to get you to admit it

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