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10 Easy Ways to Reduce Homophobia: A Guide for Straight People

There are 12 comments on the www.huffingtonpost.com story from Jun 25, 2013, titled 10 Easy Ways to Reduce Homophobia: A Guide for Straight People. In it, www.huffingtonpost.com reports that:

This week, a taxi driver in Managua asked a friend and me why we weren't married. I responded that I'm gay and she is a lesbian and that marriage isn't an option for us at the moment. The taxi driver proceeded to laugh for the remainder of the ride, chortling with tear-moistened eyes even as we exited the cab, unable to muster a goodbye.

I know how I was "supposed" to respond in that situation, something along the lines of, "Oh, we're just friends," or, "I don't know, we're just not ready to tie the knot yet," or, "Gross! She's my cousin!" But every time we do something like that, we are conceding to the historic and systematized invisibilization of LGBT people, a system that relegates us to the shadows purely based on our sexual orientations.

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“Building Better Worlds”

Since: May 13

Europa

#3 Jun 25, 2013
Remus wrote:
Homophobia? I've never met anyone in my life that had a fear of homosexuals. Now I've met plenty of folks who were disgusted by them, sick and tired of hearing about them or even just plain hated them, but none that had a phobia of them.
I can't stand cats - hate them. When I see a cat I feel like kicking the damn thing into a wall. But I don't have ailurophobia.
As a matter of fact I bet the documented cases of real clinical homophobia are extremely rare if any exist at all.
I've certainly met people who have a deep-seated fear of gay people (and you can have some fun with that too, and laugh at them when they get hysterically upset when you say something to them like: "NICE shirt you got on there, Jim !")

And I have 4 cats, all rescues including a 3-legged cat I adopted as a kitten. Now please explain to me why your apparent dislike of one of God's Beautiful Creations, would lead to you violence so heinous and heartless, that you would be surely guilty of a criminal offense if you carried it out.

I eagerly await your scholarly reply !

And PEACE to you, brother !

Since: Jun 13

Phoenix, AZ

#4 Jun 25, 2013
Remus wrote:
Homophobia? I've never met anyone in my life that had a fear of homosexuals. Now I've met plenty of folks who were disgusted by them, sick and tired of hearing about them or even just plain hated them, but none that had a phobia of them.
I can't stand cats - hate them. When I see a cat I feel like kicking the damn thing into a wall. But I don't have ailurophobia.
As a matter of fact I bet the documented cases of real clinical homophobia are extremely rare if any exist at all.
Your attempt to redefine the word is noted and dismissed. Gay isn't commonly used to mean happy anymore either. Sorry to disappoint you.
The Troll Stopper

Chesapeake, OH

#5 Jun 25, 2013
AdamAZ wrote:
<quoted text>Your attempt to redefine the word is noted and dismissed. Gay isn't commonly used to mean happy anymore either. Sorry to disappoint you.
You'll never change the meaning of these words either. [email protected] and QUEER Both are universal and needs no Introduction or interpretation.

“Building Better Worlds”

Since: May 13

Europa

#9 Jun 25, 2013
Jesse wrote:
<quoted text>
They're not afraid of you, they're afraid you're gonna try to grab their ass or try to suck their d!ck.
And I am SO GOOD, that once I do that, I'VE CONVERTED THEM !:)

And right away they're plastering their bedrooms with Bette Midler posters, scavenging the bargain bins for Johnny Mathis LP's, and they spend LOTS of time "shopping" !

:)

“I Am No One Else”

Since: Apr 12

Seattle

#10 Jun 25, 2013
Remus wrote:
Homophobia? I've never met anyone in my life that had a fear of homosexuals. Now I've met plenty of folks who were disgusted by them, sick and tired of hearing about them or even just plain hated them, but none that had a phobia of them.
I can't stand cats - hate them. When I see a cat I feel like kicking the damn thing into a wall. But I don't have ailurophobia.
As a matter of fact I bet the documented cases of real clinical homophobia are extremely rare if any exist at all.
You just contradicted yourself, saying you know no one who has feared them then describing the traits of fear in people you do know.

“God made in the image of man”

Since: May 07

Sausalito, CA

#11 Jun 26, 2013
If it was 'fear of homoSEXUALS", the word would have been homoSEXOphobia or something similar. Instead, homo is derived from the Greek word meaning "same". I know many men, especially in the Anglo culture, who are very afraid of being seen showing a fondness for someone of their own gender, even if it's a close friend. God forbid that they should be seen touching another man -- what would people think?! Instead it always has to be a very FIRM handshake, or a SLAP on the back or a PUNCH on the shoulder -- but never a reassuring touch with the open hand.

And even if they felt close to another male, it is to be hidden at all costs to keep up their macho pretense, which often manifests itself by verbally abusing or physically assaulting homosexuals whose presence reminds them of their own insecurity.

THAT is homophobia! Not fear of homosexuals, but an exaggerated fear of inadvertently revealing affection for someone of one's own gender and being considered gay. A heterosexual who is truly confident about his own sexuality has no such fear.

“I Am No One Else”

Since: Apr 12

Seattle

#12 Jun 26, 2013
Umninimuzi wrote:
If it was 'fear of homoSEXUALS", the word would have been homoSEXOphobia or something similar. Instead, homo is derived from the Greek word meaning "same". I know many men, especially in the Anglo culture, who are very afraid of being seen showing a fondness for someone of their own gender, even if it's a close friend. God forbid that they should be seen touching another man -- what would people think?! Instead it always has to be a very FIRM handshake, or a SLAP on the back or a PUNCH on the shoulder -- but never a reassuring touch with the open hand.
And even if they felt close to another male, it is to be hidden at all costs to keep up their macho pretense, which often manifests itself by verbally abusing or physically assaulting homosexuals whose presence reminds them of their own insecurity.
THAT is homophobia! Not fear of homosexuals, but an exaggerated fear of inadvertently revealing affection for someone of one's own gender and being considered gay. A heterosexual who is truly confident about his own sexuality has no such fear.
Actually, the problem is not that homophobia is inaccurate, it is a fear. Fear manifests in many ways, the most common is fight or flight. Fight is seen in things like actual assaults, bullying, violence, and even condemnation. Flight includes things like bans, "cures," and denial. Homophobic bigots display all of these.
The Troll Stopper

United States

#14 Jun 26, 2013
KittenKoder wrote:
<quoted text>Actually, the problem is not that homophobia is inaccurate, it is a fear. Fear manifests in many ways, the most common is fight or flight. Fight is seen in things like actual assaults, bullying, violence, and even condemnation. Flight includes things like bans, "cures," and denial. Homophobic bigots display all of these.
You're REPORTED for being a MORON

“God made in the image of man”

Since: May 07

Sausalito, CA

#15 Jun 26, 2013
KittenKoder wrote:
<quoted text>
Actually, the problem is not that homophobia is inaccurate, it is a fear. Fear manifests in many ways, the most common is fight or flight. Fight is seen in things like actual assaults, bullying, violence, and even condemnation. Flight includes things like bans, "cures," and denial. Homophobic bigots display all of these.
Yes, that's exactly my point -- as you say, it IS a fear, but of what?? It is not necessarily a fear of homosexuals per se, but rather of the stigma of being thought homosexual. That is why we are all fighting so hard to get rid of that perceived shame by establishing the biological legitimacy of being homosexual.

Since: Jun 13

Shipman, VA

#16 Jun 26, 2013
It's not a medical term. It's a common term. It doesn't have to follow taxonomy for naming phobias.

“Building Better Worlds”

Since: May 13

Europa

#17 Jun 26, 2013
AdamAZ wrote:
It's not a medical term. It's a common term. It doesn't have to follow taxonomy for naming phobias.
Like Obamaphobia ?:)
The Fabulous Rainbow Kid

Alpharetta, GA

#18 Jun 26, 2013
Remus wrote:
Homophobia?
Look in the mirror; sugar

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