Dear Abby: Bisexual wife of two minds on coming out

There are 5 comments on the Monterey County Herald story from Jan 2, 2013, titled Dear Abby: Bisexual wife of two minds on coming out. In it, Monterey County Herald reports that:

Dear Abby: After years of denial I have come to realize that I am bisexual. I'm happily married to a straight man, and we have a great marriage I wouldn't change for the world.

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Scarborough, Canada

#1 Jan 2, 2013
How would you react to your husband saying that he is bisexual?

“ reality, what a concept”

Since: Nov 07

this one

#2 Jan 2, 2013
And with one letter, one woman, has every married man in the deep south wondering if and/or praying for or against it being his lawfully married wife. In whose lives does this little hand grenade have the potential of going off? What percentage of married men would be more than pleased to help pull the pin on it, especially if they get to play with the explosion? What percentage of married men would be totally freaked out by even the very thought of it? Kind of like the lottery, ain't it?

Edmonton, Canada

#3 Jan 2, 2013
Bi or hetero or gay, when you are married and want to stay married, there's no option for "other" relationships...unless you both decide to have an "open" relationship, and risk how huge the percentage of break-ups that result.
I don't believe discovering you are bi is a huge issue, but discovering you're attracted to another person, IS.

Brooklyn, NY

#4 Jan 2, 2013
I'm bi, a happily married man, and my wife knows I'm attracted to both women and men. I really don't see the problem here... suppose I was hetero, and just attracted to women. So should my wife worry if I see a sexy woman? Why should she worry more if I see a sexy man? We originally agreed that our marriage includes a commitment to a closed relationship, and that's that.

Grove City, PA

#5 Jan 2, 2013
Good answer, "Abby."

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