Is Everybody Really Bisexual?

Is Everybody Really Bisexual?

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TheTimeIsNow

Horicon, WI

#1 May 9, 2008
I have my doubts about the born-that-way theory, but I'm positive that homosexuality and bisexuality are not disorders.

Does anyone else find it odd that while exclusive attraction to one sex or the other is common people you rarely ever hear of someone being exclusively attracted based on anything else? People may have preferences for certain traits, but with the exception of gender these preferences typically aren't exclusive.

Think about it. Most people were bisexual in some ancient cultures and even some more recent cultures(men in Japan during the middle ages), but today in our culture most people are heterosexual? Let's see what do all those old cultures have in common? Homosexual sexual relationships weren't seen as taboo. In new cultures where most people are heterosexual they are seen as taboo.

And what certain subcultures? In high school goths and emos were more likely to be bisexual. What do these subcultures have in common? They both put a strong emphasis on noncomformity to social norms. Social norms concerning homosexuality included.

I think I'm seeing a pattern here. Societies where homosexual relations are taboo wind up being mostly 'heterosexual'. Societies where there is no taboo wind up being mostly, if not exclusively bisexual.

Could it be that everyone is really bisexual? No doubt there could be some genes that make one favor one sex more than the other, but can genes really extinguish sexual feelings for one sex completely? Think about it. There are several different physical traits that have to do with gender. Therefore the odds of there being a single gene that determines sexual orientation are slim. More likely there are several genes for attraction to specific physical traits. And then it might be possible that other factors, such as environment and nutrition have an effect. Of course being attracted to one sex more than the other is not the same as being exclusively attracted to one sex. A person may be attracted mostly to blondes for what ever reason (maybe even genetics) but I've never heard of someone exclusively attracted to blondes.

The question then is what causes homosexuality (as opposed to bisexuality) if society doesn't disapprove of heterosexuality? I think the reason might be that society encourages a binary viewpoint. You're either this or you're that, and even people who don't absorb the social teaching that there's something wrong with homosexuality might still fall into society's "us versus them", "with us or against us", "black-and-white" ideas.
Robin Hood

Alpharetta, GA

#2 May 9, 2008
Are you talking about this?

http://www.kinseyinstitute.org/research/ak-hh...

In this representation 80% of the population is, to one degree or the other, bisexual.

10% of the population is 100% heterosexual.
10% of the population is 100% homosexual.

In our homophobic society, a large number of bisexuals may be lying about their sexuality in order to give the impression of conformity.

“Married as I can be!”

Since: Jun 07

Las Vegas

#3 May 9, 2008
Interesting proposition and certainly worth discussion.

That said, I can only speak from my own experience. I am not bisexual. I am homosexual. From my earliest memories, I have never been physically attracted to females. The sight of female genitalia does not excite me at all, and when it is presented sexually, as it is in porn,(and I apologize for the strong term) female genitalia disgust me. I find breasts inappropriately large (even on small breasted women), and the look and feel of muscle on a man I find to be particularly erotic.

So while I find your theory interesting (and it may even prove to be right, after all. Perhaps my preferences were set by something psychological, and I am bi-sexual after all), my own experience says that it is in error.
Blond Prince

Chattanooga, TN

#4 May 9, 2008
If homosexuality is a disorder then so is heterosexuality.

If people have a choice in sexual orientation then everyone is born bisexual, but people are born bisexual, homosexual, or heterosexual. Add the bisexual with homosexual and you have the majority of the population. Heterosexuality is the minority so in that way it is deviant to be born heterosexual. That is how math works.
Lea

Los Angeles, CA

#5 Oct 15, 2008
ltndncr59 wrote:
Interesting proposition and certainly worth discussion.
That said, I can only speak from my own experience. I am not bisexual. I am homosexual. From my earliest memories, I have never been physically attracted to females. The sight of female genitalia does not excite me at all, and when it is presented sexually, as it is in porn,(and I apologize for the strong term) female genitalia disgust me. I find breasts inappropriately large (even on small breasted women), and the look and feel of muscle on a man I find to be particularly erotic.
So while I find your theory interesting (and it may even prove to be right, after all. Perhaps my preferences were set by something psychological, and I am bi-sexual after all), my own experience says that it is in error.
as a woman i see ur point of view as far as erotic. Same perspective of the male body. I love the tight, lean muscle feel of a strong man. In contrast we women are soft and mushy. A womens breast can feel like jelly, whereas a man chest feels erotic. We carry female body fat and have cellulite throughout our bodies. I dont understand how men eat some women out. If they only knew what came out of us on a daily basis.Trust me u dont want 2 know. So, as i straight female i could see why u think women are unattractive, but at the same time everyone had their own opinion!!
bisexualbitch

Atlanta, GA

#6 Mar 12, 2010
everybody is bisexual and just to afraid to admit it

“a t-girl "in progress"”

Since: Dec 09

Location hidden

#7 Mar 13, 2010
I think everyone is bisexual to some degree or another. I identified as a gay boy, but have always been particularly feminine. So much so that my straight friends in school didn't mind hooking up with me "in a pinch" even knowing I was a boy, and gay. They were attracted to femininity more than to female genitalia, as I am attracted to masculinity.
lene

Berlin, Germany

#9 Mar 14, 2010
Lea wrote:
<quoted text>I dont understand how men eat some women out. If they only knew what came out of us on a daily basis.Trust me u dont want 2 know. So, as i straight female i could see why u think women are unattractive, but at the same time everyone had their own opinion!!
Just read that line and I would like to correct it a bit :-D I don't want our fellow gay men - and potential bisexual beeings!- to get such a wrong idea about women!
Women having liquids coming out of their vaginas have a problem. They have candida or another genital disorder. A healthy woman can keep the same underpant for a week and it will still be clean and not smelly. If you have this kind of problems, a good idea is to make a low intestine cleaning with herbs and it will go.
Cheers!
Sophia

Stanford, KY

#10 Feb 1, 2011
bisexualbitch wrote:
everybody is bisexual and just to afraid to admit it
I'm not bisexual, but if I were, I wouldn't be afraid to admit it at all.
jack

Lynbrook, Australia

#13 Apr 23, 2011
innate bisexuality is an outdated freudian idea who failed to consider the biological factors involved in human sexual orientation development. "Penis envy?" "Castration anxiety?". Really? C'mon?! And why say humans are born bisexual as if people are the only thing you can be attracted to. Have you forgotten about the vast amount of paraphillia's and fetishes that have nothing to do with gender that sexually excite people? So I think it's wrong technically not morally to say people are born bisexual and that everyone has homosexual tendencies to some extent. I think it's far more accurate to say as far as sexual orientation goes humans are born with an undeveloped blank state with predispositions towards certain people or objects which may or may not manifest themselves based on factors some of which we do know and some of which we don't. Also the other study that supports innate bisexuality is Kinsey's hardly representative of the normal population of people considering a large sample of these test subjects were prostitutes and prisoners that latter engaging in both acts of sex due to lack of opportunity for monosexual behavior or their own perverted reasons of intimidation etc etc.

“Shoot for the stars”

Since: Dec 10

Planet Earth

#14 Apr 23, 2011
IMO people are born according to their genetic make up. Genetics decide who we are.

Since: Apr 11

Valley, AL

#15 Apr 24, 2011
I am 100% homosexual. I crave cock 24/7, not to be graphic about it.
jack

Northcote, Australia

#17 Apr 27, 2011
no doubt in today's modern world where everything is sexualised and it's all over facebook, the tv , the school ground, and the media incessantly bombarding us with sexual images, and also the shift from the social right to the social left side of the conservative liberal continiuum that people have been more free to experiment with their sexuality. But do not confuse bisexual experimentation with an underlying enduring bisexual orientation, as sexual thoughts and fantasies of both sexes are not the same as sexual attraction, such thoughts need not even arouse you but many will do it because as human beings we are curious creatures and certain social taboos have been lifted. Fair enough if a straight person says I'm 100% straight, you could say they're homophobic and compensating, possible but not probable, but what do you say to man who has been married to a woman for 20 years had sex with her and perhaps multiple other women, spent money on conversion therapy along with endless hours and at the end of the day still identifies as 100% homosexual , surely if someone was capable of discovering their bisexual potential a man such as the one described would have done so given that he gave it his best shot. As this can be said of gays, so to can it be said of their straight counterparts. Indeed it's bisexual's who are on a contiuum not their monosexual counterparts and there is a common misconception that in order to be bisexual that you must be attracted to both sexes equally. FALSE. If your 90% attracted to the same sex and only 10% to the opposite sex that is still bisexual and the same for people who are 90% attracted to the opposite sex and only 10% attracted to same sex, that too is still bisexual

Since: May 11

Fremont, CA

#18 Jul 4, 2011
Its not a bad thing to discover and can be a little fun too, its nice that he is comfortable and not like usual guys anyways, I talk to plenty of bi guys and girls at ==Bigbisexual com== and find that they are usual really nice and genuine people, just look at the commitment to you in any case.
rmr123

Miami Beach, FL

#19 Jun 25, 2012
i'm sorry i have to say this philosophy is absolutely wrong, maybe that's the way you want it to be because u are gay , but the fact is most people are heterosexual , homosexual , then bisexual, maybe that's what u believe , i choose to believe what i see in the everyday life
Blond Prince wrote:
If homosexuality is a disorder then so is heterosexuality.
If people have a choice in sexual orientation then everyone is born bisexual, but people are born bisexual, homosexual, or heterosexual. Add the bisexual with homosexual and you have the majority of the population. Heterosexuality is the minority so in that way it is deviant to be born heterosexual. That is how math works.

Since: May 12

Location hidden

#20 Jun 26, 2012
You are born either heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. At times gay persons have feelings for the opposite sex, as str8 persons also have feelings for the same sex; this does not make them bisexual. It is merely part of complex attraction ~ appreciation of an individual, also an emotion/attraction of the moment. Bisexuals are potentially attracted to both sexes at any time, not part of the time; might be more attracted to one sex than the other but always both. This is in my experience.
Nolan

Biddinghuizen, Netherlands

#21 Jun 26, 2012
KONAMI55 wrote:
I am 100% homosexual. I crave cock 24/7, not to be graphic about it.
You are just a typical perverted queer. Thanks for sharing.
Katy

Haslet, TX

#22 Jun 26, 2012
Homosexuality is a mental disorder usually acquired after an encounter with a Jerry Sandusky type when the boy is still a young lad and impressionable!!!
i am a Bisexual i----

Japan

#23 Jul 16, 2012
I think you can go to www.bisexualflirting.com.Th e site is designed for bisexual and bi-curious individuals to
chat and hook up with.There you can find sexy and open-minded singles &couples looking to explore their sexuality. it also offer many featuresto facilitate people looking for anything from lovers to intimate relationships.
Ihatebisluts

Singapore, Singapore

#24 Dec 25, 2012
Robin Hood wrote:
Are you talking about this?
http://www.kinseyinstitute.org/research/ak-hh...
In this representation 80% of the population is, to one degree or the other, bisexual.
10% of the population is 100% heterosexual.
10% of the population is 100% homosexual.
In our homophobic society, a large number of bisexuals may be lying about their sexuality in order to give the impression of conformity.
Nicely made up statistics that don't seem to be anywhere on that page you linked.
Are you filthy bisluts done propagating your everyone-is-bi most-people-are-bi bullshit?

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