Am I gay or bi?
trent

Concord, Canada

#612 Aug 9, 2007
hi everyone i'm not gay but i enjoy masturbating
to shemales and guys what does this mean?
I do not look at guys at all but love to jerk to them .
lee

UK

#613 Aug 10, 2007
hi im a boy but im not sure if i should be cuz when i was young i use to wear girls clothes but my mum said no.now im 17 i dream of a pink bedroom and to wear girls clothes such as knickers/thongs/bras/tops/and skrit dut im not sure if i want a boy or a girlfriend can someone please
HELP
Dominique

Scarborough, Canada

#614 Aug 12, 2007
i'm 13 and i don't know if i'm bi gay or strate i have kissed and made out with other girles and liked it so i am varry confused if i'm bi gay of strat can you help me
Freddy

Swansea, UK

#615 Aug 15, 2007
Hi, i'm 19 and very confused, i have been straight for all of my life. But recently i have been having gay feelings. But still find women attractive but not as much as i used to . Am i Gay??
kaitlynn

Red Springs, NC

#616 Aug 17, 2007
Laura wrote:
Hi, i'm 19 and very confused! I've always had a feeling that I might be gay, and I've only had crushes on girls. I've slept with a couple of boys but I've been drunk at the time. I've kissed one girl and enjoyed it a lot. Occasionally though I think boys are good looking, but it never really goes further than that. Am I gay or bi? I need to be sure. I'd love to get people's opinion!
Laura.
hey if uve kissed girls and u liked it and u only think guys r cute but u would never go out with one id say ur probably gay
Adam

Gloucester, UK

#617 Aug 18, 2007
Hi i'm 16 and I just left secondary school. For ages now ive had loads of sexual fantasies about guys and only a few chicks turn me on. with guys, i look at them and get turned up but with a girl i have to get to know her before i become sexually attracted to her. I have only had one sexual dream that was heterosexual and im just really confused about what exactly that makes me? id appreciate some advice.
Thanks, Adam
unknown

New Orleans, LA

#618 Aug 18, 2007
I have never been attracted to girls. But I have had a crush on Marie Osmond (Don't laugh) since I was 11. I loved looking at her exotic dark looks. Now, lately when I see her on TV or see her on the internet, I stare at her, every inch of her and wonder what it would be like to make love to her. I think that if I ever met her, I'd want to kiss her full on that heart-shaped mouth and hope she kissed me back. I was watching her on Entertainment Tonight the other day and she had this low-cut black dress on and you could see alot of clevage. Very Breath-taking to say the least. And her ass looked extra tight with that dress. But here's the kicker, I was also in love with her Brother Donny and was oggling him too. But I think that if I had to choose between the two, Marie wins hands down.I don't get it, I don't like other females. What does this say about me? Gay or BI?
Midnight

Australia

#619 Aug 18, 2007
Jimmy W wrote:
Hi, i'm 17 and very confused! I've always had a feeling that I might be gay, and I've only been with girls and I have a girlfriend. But when my gay friend touches me in a sexual way and even warms up next to me, I kinda like it and become kinda attracted to him. I do find a few guys attractive but i'm the same with the ladies.
Does this mean I'm bi,gay or straight ? I'm so confused.
Please give me some advice.
Id go with Bi
Midnight

Australia

#620 Aug 18, 2007
Connor wrote:
hi im connor and im 14 and i have a problem, for about 2 years now i have been attracted to mostly guys but some girls. im so confused its making me feel suicidal, can anyone help me
-hugz- I'm 14 to ^_^ add my msn [email protected] om and we can talk..looks like you need someone hu understands

Since: Aug 07

UK

#621 Aug 19, 2007
am i gay or bi or did i just oversteped the mark with my best mate? My mate and i have kissed many time's. We talk a lot about how we both feel, 4 each other. She as decide 2 stay as best mates. Dont want 2 loose me. But she flirts all the time with me. we text constant about nothing. Wen we're not together we miss each other. Trouble is i've just ended a 10yr marriage. Cos i did not love him. She is still married. Saying she's got 2 much 2 loose. But she's been ere before but last time she made the choice 2 leave & her pal bottled it at last minute. But i've told her i dont or dont think i want anything just yet, as i'm very confused about my sexuality. I love this girl got major crush 4 her & yes i'd live with her 4 rest of my life. But the sex i've never been with anyone else apart from my hubby. So how can i be a lesbian. All my mates say i'm they r all lesbians they new from day one that i was 2. I just ad 2 relise it myself.
white guys

United States

#623 Aug 19, 2007
Jimmy W wrote:
Hi, i'm 17 and very confused! I've always had a feeling that I might be gay, and I've only been with girls and I have a girlfriend. But when my gay friend touches me in a sexual way and even warms up next to me, I kinda like it and become kinda attracted to him. I do find a few guys attractive but i'm the same with the ladies.
Does this mean I'm bi,gay or straight ? I'm so confused.
Please give me some advice.
Ok this means you are NORMAL! Even straight younger boys feel sexually attached to other males. This is a combination of things. Number one is HORMONES, they make us guys want to hump the car LOL. Just kidding, but hormones make us guys desperate sometimes, it's nothing to worry about. As long as you have a brain to control the urges and dont get stupid and wreckless. Yes unsafe sex is wreckless and stupid. Because it can lead to death.
Number 2.
Guys are close to guys because we are familier with the males mind, body and attitudes, so we tend to feel comfortable with our own and later we appreaciate the female much more. This doesn't make anyone gay or Bi or straight. Only sex will determine that afterwards. But if you are going to have sex and might regret it then wait, nothing is more confusing that regret. Sex is over rated. Why? Because with sex comes lots of other issues people tend to NOT tell you about. Emotions are one of those things we forget about. Gay groups will tell you that you must be gay, why this is simple they promote their lifestyle. DUH!
Church Groups tell you you need to be straight. Why? same reason Duh....

I am Bisexual, I know gay men and few are happy, because it's still hard to be gay these days, societies attitudes, and the gay promiscuity leads to few long term relationships and marrige has NOTHING to do with it. People married still cheat.

The gay lifestyle is full of bars and drunk promiscous gay men who want to sleep around, I know I been there. This is not to say that straight people don't do this, because they do also, in the USA 50% of marriges end in divorce and many marriges are a shame where both people cheat on each other.

heres the best advice anyone can give you. look at all sides of the situation, listen and make sure your bullsh*t detector is on. Because both sides will lie to you equally. All you can do is investigate all the sides of the story and decide for yourself, if you want to be or are bisexual. Eventually after age 21 or later you will have less sexual confusion and be able to find out who you really are, maybe sooner only time will tell.

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gayorBi

United States

#624 Aug 19, 2007
Connor wrote:
hi im connor and im 14 and i have a problem, for about 2 years now i have been attracted to mostly guys but some girls. im so confused its making me feel suicidal, can anyone help me
Connor many straight guys your age also have that problem, its called hormones. Nothing to be suicidal about. For me it was rough and I was past 21 when I finally decided to give Bisexuality a test. I survived it! At your age exprerimentaion is normal, it's just 90% of guys never admit it. When the wind blows I get excited, thats just being a male. Even if you give in to the urge you are still not gay or even Bi, because you are going throught typical puberty and it's urges and sometimes experimentations. So many males I have talked to who are straight told me they experimented with guys till age 18 and even 21 and decided they were sctually straight and just hormonally challenged like 99% of guys your age. If and I say IF you try something with a guy be warned do it with a guy with the same confusions, not some gay guy who wants to convert you over. Theres many like you, and you dont need to be brainwashed either way. You will survive this buddy. And later will look back and laugh, trust me I already did.
I am happy to say you are extremely NORMAL..
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gayorBi

United States

#625 Aug 19, 2007
Freddy wrote:
Hi, i'm 19 and very confused, i have been straight for all of my life. But recently i have been having gay feelings. But still find women attractive but not as much as i used to . Am i Gay??
Freddy

you are typical and normal.

Many and most guys who are having hormones get these feelings. Not a big deal. Most guys have this problem, and most lie about it. If you try a guy it still wont mean you are gay it might be experimentation or maybe even your Bisexual. either way its no biggie...
gayorBi

United States

#626 Aug 19, 2007
hoopsnow wrote:
If you get the urge to have random, frequent, anonymous sodomy with male strangers at outdoor toilets, playgrounds, rest stops ..., you're gay.
I hope hes not that foolish with his health and safety. Between STD's and Psychos that would be crazy at best.

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gayorBi

United States

#627 Aug 19, 2007
lee wrote:
hi im a boy but im not sure if i should be cuz when i was young i use to wear girls clothes but my mum said no.now im 17 i dream of a pink bedroom and to wear girls clothes such as knickers/thongs/bras/tops/and skrit dut im not sure if i want a boy or a girlfriend can someone please
HELP
In all honesty this problem has nothing to do with sex, its probably a little OCD issue or compulsion. Even girls dont obsess about pink and these things. You are associating these things with feelings, its pretty much normal in many ways. People often associate things with certain other things in life. Being a girl isnt about colors, clothes or anything like that. If you are worried see a psychologist who can easily help you deal with the associations you are making, its normal. People who smoke often associate alcohol with smoking and people sometimes associate food with troubles and comfort thus they eat a lot when upset. Women sometimes use chocolate as a mood enhancer. Human beings do this often. You mayt be totally straight but somewhere a while back you had this association with a love of things that feel good and look good to you and sex. lets face it girls dont wear sexy silky things to attract girls, its to attract males who like smooth silky things like a womans skin. yea I know some guys are freaking out right now, but deep inside you all know its true. Girls dont put dirty green coverals on to get guys..... They wear sliky soft things because men associate the feel and color with feminity. Pink is the color of the vagina, and soft lacy silky feels like a sexy womans skin. Men are rough feeling and hairy...

So you may be very straight and are just associating things slightly incorrectly. No big deal really...

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gayorBi

United States

#628 Aug 19, 2007
Adam wrote:
Hi i'm 16 and I just left secondary school. For ages now ive had loads of sexual fantasies about guys and only a few chicks turn me on. with guys, i look at them and get turned up but with a girl i have to get to know her before i become sexually attracted to her. I have only had one sexual dream that was heterosexual and im just really confused about what exactly that makes me? id appreciate some advice.
Thanks, Adam
It makes Adam a normaly healthy hormonally challenged boy, thats all....
This is so normal, I wish other guys were a little more honest about this, it's not like anyone in here will find out who you are. It's hard to see these poor normal kids worry about things every guy has gone through but are to cowardly to tell the truth about.
Adam at least you are man enough to ask this question...
Things will sort themselves out eventually. if you are straight so be it, if you evetually relaize you are Bi so be it. And if you are gay then thats how it is. Don't be in such a hurry to label yourself, lables can be permanant.
I found out I was bi well into my 20's, there were feelings about guys when I was in my teens then they went completly away and then in my late 20's discovered I was slightly Bisexual. I have dated sexually both and I am still alive LOL.
Oh I am no sissy either, I am a tough, well muscled man whos all man, very masculine. I go hunting, fishing, and all the male things, except once in a while I enjoy the company of another male sexually, and even then I tend to still be the dominant male type.
This doesn't mean because I am Bi, that you should or shouldn't be anything. Be your own man and let nature decide and accept it, just don't rush into this you are way too young to have a label.
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jacie

Savannah, GA

#629 Aug 19, 2007
Laura wrote:
Hi, i'm 19 and very confused! I've always had a feeling that I might be gay, and I've only had crushes on girls. I've slept with a couple of boys but I've been drunk at the time. I've kissed one girl and enjoyed it a lot. Occasionally though I think boys are good looking, but it never really goes further than that. Am I gay or bi? I need to be sure. I'd love to get people's opinion!
Laura.
All i have to say is that you should do what you think is right, and if it leads you to girls then you should do it...you should be happy and if that isn't with boys then what does it matter???? happiness is the only thing you really have to work for and money can't buy it...so you should think about it from that point of view
cortney

Reading, MA

#630 Aug 20, 2007
im bi && my parents dont accept that wht do i do??
tim

Leith, Australia

#631 Aug 22, 2007
im 13 i had anal sex with my friend when he slept over once i really enjoyed it,,, but i have a girl friend . am i gay?
brett

Sunderland, UK

#632 Aug 22, 2007
Connor wrote:
hi im connor and im 14 and i have a problem, for about 2 years now i have been attracted to mostly guys but some girls. im so confused its making me feel suicidal, can anyone help me
Connor i am 12 i have strange feeling about men add me on msn and we will try to get rid or continue our gay obsession
my email is [email protected] m
p.s: all corby gays contact me

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