Gay Couples Vulnerable to HIV When Monogamy Is Unsure

Jul 15, 2010 Full story: HON 17

A new study finds that 8 percent of gay male couples surveyed in the San Francisco area have differing views about whether their relationships are monogamous -- potentially putting some men at an unknowing risk of being infected with HIV.

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“Unconvinced”

Since: Nov 09

Seattle, WA

#1 Jul 15, 2010
Ugh. Seriously?

THIS JUST IN - BREAKING NEWS: Diseases can spread! Details at 11.

Let's have a similar survey of straight couples, shall we? Lemme try to predict the outcome. 99% of wives are sure their husbands are loyal. 49% of husbands are sure their wives don't know what they're really up to.

With more honest disclosure, will come greater disease prevention. What gay couples DO know about one another must DWARF what straight couples DON'T know about one another. Ladies, are you SURE your "straight" husbands aren't satisfying some secret urges and bringing HIV into YOUR marriage? Don't you watch Oprah?

Frightening people with dumb-ass, blindingly obvious surveys like this won't help anyone. Just try a simple dose of education on how to prevent disease and get checked regularly.

WAW

Since: Dec 07

T.O.

#2 Jul 16, 2010
@EdmondWA-I was thinking the exact same thing as I read the title. I didn't even have to go to the article to dismiss it as smear on gays.
Disgusted American

Cranbury, NJ

#3 Jul 16, 2010
WAW wrote:
@EdmondWA-I was thinking the exact same thing as I read the title. I didn't even have to go to the article to dismiss it as smear on gays.
absolutely! like str8 men don't cheat? hmm, whats that show on tv called again...ummmm CHEATERS!!!!!

Since: Feb 07

Lansdale, PA

#4 Jul 16, 2010
So was this a sexuality study or an HIV study? It claims to be sexuality but for some reason they focus on the risk of HIV infection.

News Flash - You are risk to ANY sexually transmitted disease if you are not monogamous. I also notice the study neglected to ask if these men were practicing safe sex.

And then of course the obvious fact that these situations are not limited to the Gay community.

“Marriage Equality”

Since: Dec 07

Lakeland, MI

#5 Jul 16, 2010
"Gay Couples Vulnerable to HIV When Monogamy Is Unsure"

Well, DUUUUHHH!!! So are straight couples. And everyone else.

Did someone actually PAY for this "study"???

“Created Equal”

Since: Feb 08

USA

#6 Jul 16, 2010
Alongside this should be the statistic that 75% of heterosexual married men will cheat on their wives.

This article is entirely built around studies which claim that 8% of bay area coupled gay men do not agree with their partner as to whether their relationship is monogamous or not.

Fortunately, new technology has substantially reduced the risk of sexually transmitted disease... this technology is called a condom.
Bienvenido

Irving, TX

#7 Jul 16, 2010
not sure why orientation is even mentioned in the title line. It should begin with "Couples Vulnerable..."

“Greetings!”

Since: Dec 06

Tampa, FL

#8 Jul 16, 2010
In the venerable words of President Clinton - it all depends on what the definition of IS, is!

This kind of report is fodder for the relious-right-wing-wackos that want to paint gay male couples as "disease-spreading-predat ors" that can't control their urges and therefor don't "deserve" the rights of marriage!

Ironically, the gay community in general is much more open about the topic of monogamy, open relationships, etc. Because of that, definitions need to be VERY CLEAR!

For example, if a gay couple agreed on being "monogamous" but have engaged in mutually consensual 3-way - one partner might see that as simply a unique incident while the other partner - being literal - might say, no, we're open.

The assumption, as i read this, is that ONE person in the relationship is a cheater - which isn't a fair assumption.

And, as was stated in a prior post - if you were to ask a heterosexual couple (prior to a divorce over infidelity) if they were monogaous - they would both say YES - even tho one party was already engaging in sex outside the marriage.

Very risky report - or poorly reported!

Since: Feb 08

Iowa City, Ia.

#9 Jul 16, 2010
This is stupid. When monogamy is unsure, anyone is at risk.

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#10 Jul 16, 2010
That has got to be one of the most stupid articles I have ever seen.

It was posted by roboblogger.

I say we have roboblogger killed!!
Not duped

Grove City, PA

#11 Jul 16, 2010
Most revealing is that in more than 45 percent of the so-called relationships, both partners were openly pursuing sex with other partners. I defy you to find anywhere near that high a percentage of straight couples who are openly seeking sex with other people.
Frank Stanton

Saratoga Springs, NY

#12 Jul 16, 2010
TampaBob wrote:
In the venerable words of President Clinton - it all depends on what the definition of IS, is!
This kind of report is fodder for the relious-right-wing-wackos that want to paint gay male couples as "disease-spreading-predat ors" that can't control their urges and therefor don't "deserve" the rights of marriage!
Ironically, the gay community in general is much more open about the topic of monogamy, open relationships, etc. Because of that, definitions need to be VERY CLEAR!
For example, if a gay couple agreed on being "monogamous" but have engaged in mutually consensual 3-way - one partner might see that as simply a unique incident while the other partner - being literal - might say, no, we're open.
The assumption, as i read this, is that ONE person in the relationship is a cheater - which isn't a fair assumption.
And, as was stated in a prior post - if you were to ask a heterosexual couple (prior to a divorce over infidelity) if they were monogaous - they would both say YES - even tho one party was already engaging in sex outside the marriage.
Very risky report - or poorly reported!
Thank God he was IMPEACHED for that !

:)

?!

Can we do it again ?!

YES, We Can !

:)
flyboy

Richmond, VA

#13 Jul 16, 2010
Not duped wrote:
Most revealing is that in more than 45 percent of the so-called relationships, both partners were openly pursuing sex with other partners. I defy you to find anywhere near that high a percentage of straight couples who are openly seeking sex with other people.
True. Most straight couples simply have the partners cheating without their consent. Guess that's why most can't stay in relationships.
flyboy

Richmond, VA

#14 Jul 16, 2010
Anyway, as has been said, the title of this article is silly. All couples are vulnerable to any STD with monogamy is unsure. And given the fact less than 10% of gay couples even fit this scenario, that just makes it all the more head scratching.

The fact is, unless you know someones' status, wear a condom every time you have sex. As far as these relationships and the confusion of their situation, obviously communication is needed, which is the same for any couple. Communication is the key to happiness.

Since: Dec 08

Location hidden

#15 Jul 16, 2010
Not duped wrote:
Most revealing is that in more than 45 percent of the so-called relationships, both partners were openly pursuing sex with other partners. I defy you to find anywhere near that high a percentage of straight couples who are openly seeking sex with other people.
hmmmm 50% divorce rate....

Do a Google search for "Top 10 reasons for divorce" and you will get 1000's of hits.

What do the relevant sites have in common? The #1 reason for divorce is infidelity.

Making you look stupid should be more of a challenge than that.

“Brutally honest. ”

Since: Nov 08

Location hidden

#16 Jul 17, 2010
Wait, people aren't monogamous all the time?

Oh that's right. That's why we can have babies at any time of the year and we fuck like rabbits, causing the overpopulation of this planet.

Jesus, really? This is NEWS? I could have done this research with limited resources and a couple telephone calls. To think that I spend hours in a lab reading brain scans. Ugh.

WAW

Since: Dec 07

T.O.

#17 Jul 17, 2010
So someone thought that my calling the title a smear on gays 'clueless'. Let me tell you something, the title would have had more credence had it left out the word 'gay'. All couples are vulnerable, not just 'gay' couples. BTW, is there a website that would be the gay equivalent to ' AshleyMadison.com '?

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