When did you realize you were gay?
braxxes

Fort Worth, TX

#899 Aug 2, 2013
about 18
George

Bloomfield, CT

#900 Aug 9, 2013
I began recognizing an attraction to and desire for other men in my early 20s, but I was afraid of being gay, I guess. I had 2 encounters with men but the second was uncomfortable, and though I continued with fantasies I avoided moving forward with other men. I got married to a woman and continued with fantasies and many, many gay thoughts. We divorced when I was in my mid-40s and though I dated women regularly, those desires for men never left. When I was 48, I found online chat entertaining and discovered that chatting with other men was all that and more. Soon, I met a local man and for the first time in my life I took a penis in my mouth. Though not a totally good experience, I couldn't stop thinking of how enjoyable the sensation was. At first I was terrified that I might actually be gay. After a while I began to realize that I had to find out if what I felt was the real thing or not, so I sought out that man again and got that much closer to accepting my gay sexuality. Over the next several months, I encountered a number of other men, and my enjoyment was ratcheted up a notch or two. Still, I lived a straight lifestyle otherwise and dated women regularly, though not sexually. In dating, I actually came to love one of those women, and we married. For the next few years I met no men at all but my sexual desires, I discovered, didn't change. I still was compelled to think of men, to look at men as possible partners. Finally, getting back online in chat rooms, I met a man who changed my life. He and I met briefly and on that first meeting he kissed me as I was about to leave. It wasn't expected, but I drove away thrilled and we kept in touch. It took several months for me to work on my courage but I finally met him again and he invited me over to his apartment. I happily accepted, and when we next met, our initial greeting was a passionate kiss. For the last 4-plus years he and I have had a sexual relationship. He opened up and told me he was in love with me about 2 years ago. I acknowledged my love for him not long after. Falling in love with another man was something I never expected in my life, but I'm so proud to say that I'm gay, that I'm in love with another man, and that my life is so much better for my having accepted my true sexuality.
Britney

Verona, NY

#901 Aug 23, 2013
When I look back, I realize I always had a fascination with girls. But I came out as bi to my friends in middle school. I will admit I did have a few boy crushes but only like three. Anyway it wasn't until I was in ninth grade I realized I don't have feeling for guys like I do girls. I came out to some people already, but I'm not telling everyone. Yet.
TNmatt

United States

#902 Aug 23, 2013
George wrote:
I began recognizing an attraction to and desire for other men in my early 20s, but I was afraid of being gay, I guess. I had 2 encounters with men but the second was uncomfortable, and though I continued with fantasies I avoided moving forward with other men. I got married to a woman and continued with fantasies and many, many gay thoughts. We divorced when I was in my mid-40s and though I dated women regularly, those desires for men never left. When I was 48, I found online chat entertaining and discovered that chatting with other men was all that and more. Soon, I met a local man and for the first time in my life I took a penis in my mouth. Though not a totally good experience, I couldn't stop thinking of how enjoyable the sensation was. At first I was terrified that I might actually be gay. After a while I began to realize that I had to find out if what I felt was the real thing or not, so I sought out that man again and got that much closer to accepting my gay sexuality. Over the next several months, I encountered a number of other men, and my enjoyment was ratcheted up a notch or two. Still, I lived a straight lifestyle otherwise and dated women regularly, though not sexually. In dating, I actually came to love one of those women, and we married. For the next few years I met no men at all but my sexual desires, I discovered, didn't change. I still was compelled to think of men, to look at men as possible partners. Finally, getting back online in chat rooms, I met a man who changed my life. He and I met briefly and on that first meeting he kissed me as I was about to leave. It wasn't expected, but I drove away thrilled and we kept in touch. It took several months for me to work on my courage but I finally met him again and he invited me over to his apartment. I happily accepted, and when we next met, our initial greeting was a passionate kiss. For the last 4-plus years he and I have had a sexual relationship. He opened up and told me he was in love with me about 2 years ago. I acknowledged my love for him not long after. Falling in love with another man was something I never expected in my life, but I'm so proud to say that I'm gay, that I'm in love with another man, and that my life is so much better for my having accepted my true sexuality.
Awesome! I was in a "traditional" marriage for 11 years before truly coming out... Actually I was caught in my affair at the time. My ex had askede for years of I liked men.... She had found porn online and new of "experimentation" before we were married. Living as an openly gay man is so much more fun and is who I am..
John

New York, NY

#904 Aug 24, 2013
Wen I walked in on my dad jerking off in the shower with the curtain open
SeekingReplies

Arlington, TX

#905 Oct 14, 2013
I was once 4, 5, 11.. etc. I do not recall even thinking about "attractions" towards either male or female at those ages. Hope nobody gets upset, but are you sure this isn't retro-active reflection (where you take what you feel now and project it back in time as a memory?)
BisexualGirl

Feltham, UK

#907 Nov 30, 2013
I realised I was "different" when I was only about 9 years old, when I had a crush on my female gym teacher. But didn't really know what it was, I just thought she was very pretty and got butterflies around her. I figured out I was bi when I was about 11, and was extremely grateful for my open-minded mother and friends. I didn't actually tell them until I was 14, when my male best friend came out (awkwardly I had a crush on him a couple years earlier lol) and then two weeks later I told my friends as well.:)
Alex

Sydney, Australia

#908 Dec 8, 2013
My names Alex and I've always had an emotional attachment to women. When I watch a movie I always picked a female as my favorite character, I despised the men. I played GTA ONLINE and picked a female and would go to the strip club.
But I first realized that I was a lesbian when I was in 10 grade in High School, 15 years of age. I had never used a sex toy or masturbated before or even watched porn so I never knew until this day.

So it was a hot summer day and I was at my best friends (Ellie)house. She had a pool and we were swimming in it for hours on end. Then at mid-day her mother came out and said that both Ellie's parents were heading out until 9 at night and that I could stay the night. So I did.
After another half hour of swimming we decided to head for the showers. But I had no extra clothes so I used some of Ellie's.

After ten minutes of showering we were both dressed and sitting on the couch watching an episode of Gossip Girl when Ellie asked me a question.
"Hay Alex" she asked and I looked across at my best friend.
"Yeah what Ellie" I replied and she took a deep breath.
"I'm not ordinary" she said but I was puzzled at what she meant.
"What do you mean" I asked.
"I mean that I don't like men in the way that you do and I'm very attached to women" she replied. We sat in silence for a minute than I replied.
"Well Ellie, I've been having the same emotional problems and I think that I'm a lesbian" I replied.
She nodded and soon she leaned in for a kiss, I let our lips meet and soon we were making out. I tongued each others mouths for a while than I moved down to her top and undid the buttons, she moans softly and my pussy started to become wet. She unbuttoned my shirt and I moaned softly at the thought of fucking Ellie. She let go of the kiss and undid my bra (which was really hers). The pale blue fabric fell from my medium sized breasts and she looked at them with intriguing eyes.
"Should we be doing this" she asked and I just nodded. She said ok than and started to nibble on my nipples. I moaned in pleasure and soon my vagina and panties were soaked, it was the time of my life. She circled the nipples with her tongue and I moaned louder. She laughed and I did the same to her. Then we removed our skirts and we were left sitting in our panties. Hers were a hot pink and mine were a pale blue like the bra that I was using (yes we're around the same size). She dropped down on her knees and pulled down the wet pantie to reveal my bare pussy (yes I shave get over it). She smiled and started to play games with her tongue, making me moan louder and louder. A burning sensation built within my stomach and when it was just about to release she stopped and made me do the same to her. After that we continued until we both exploded into an orgasm, our first orgasm.
So that was how I realized I was a lesbian and now Ellie and I hook up each weekend and she fucks me with her sex toys and I fuck her with mine, yes we finally convinced my older sister (who was the first to know) to go to a store and buy us some.

Being a Lesbian is so much cooler than being straight I recon.
Seth

Sydney, Australia

#909 Dec 10, 2013
Gays are a natural part of the community and isn't a sin against God, so just drop the thoughts you Christians. Yes I'm Christian and I believe that God made me Gay for a reason, he choose to make me gay because he thinks its the best opportunity for me.

Yes I know there are many stories of when people realized that they were gay and I've read all of them and found that they are quite interesting. Before a couple of days ago I didn't know that I was gay, I thought I was sexually confused or some other reason for me to not believe in myself being gay but when the day came I knew that I was gay. I don't dress different, act different or even act different around people. Well except for in the change rooms but that's not my point.

I had a friend, a friend that understood me for who I was. We are close and a couple of months ago he came out of the closet, well to me and his family. He told me at a random time of the day that he was gay and for me not to judge. And in fact I didn't judge I was happy for him to have the courage to come out of the closet. His name is Matt and he is one of the greatest and bravest men in the world.

Matt and I were at the pool, goofing around as people usually do and I didn't realize that he was checking me out the entire time. It was past 2 in the afternoon and I knew that we should go home so I went to the change rooms.

I was in there for a minute before I felt a hand rub against my ass and move upwards. Feeling its way up my spine, shivers ran down my back and than the hand dropped over my shoulder. I went to turn around but a strong hand stopped me, the other hand crept down my chest and continued down. Fear and panic rose in my chest but I was paralyzed and couldn't utter a word. The hand cupped my crotched and I knew who it was.

I turned around and stared into Matt's eyes, he had a gleam within them and I knew what he wanted. Playing dumb I asked what he wanted and why he did that to me even though I liked the feel of the muscular hands. He said that he wanted me and that he couldn't wait any longer.

I smiled and he moved forward, his lips touched mine and I was kind of surprised but parted my lips for his tongue. He shut the door behind us and the shower continued to run.

For several minutes we played with each others tongues before he broke the kiss and stepped back. Then he dropped his back to reveal speedo's, the same kind that I was wearing. Some how I knew that I wanted him and dropped to my knees. He smiled and leaned against the wall.

I pulled down his speedo's slowly and stared at his erect cock hungrily. I opened my mouth and pushed it into my mouth. I slid my head back and forth, taking all of it in my mouth. It tasted good and I loved every moment of it.

Then suddenly he pulled me up and pulled down my speedo's. He knelt before me and took my erect cock in my mouth. He sucked my cock for a few minutes and then we put on our clothes and left, all innocent.

I didn't talk to Matt for a few days and when he finally came over he apologized for what happened in the shower but I kissed him instead. Now we've reached a point where we want each others cocks inside our asshole but haven't done anything risky yet.

So that is how I knew I was gay and am very proud of the fact. Just before I go I must say that today's society is a very screwed up hole because they mock, tease and humiliate use Gays. Society should be more kind towards people like us, racism is a no so why not being mean to Gays be a no and a fine.

So see you some other time and good luck in the future my Gay buddies.
Nate

Owatonna, MN

#911 Dec 28, 2013
I guess as I look back at 10 yrs messing with other boys my age. than never gave it much thot thru out ther yrs had girlfreinds but the sex didn't do much for me. than in my 30's gave oral to some guys and liked it than anal sex with a guy and that was it been gay since 38 now and like it tho I like men that have no body hair and are kinda fem.
Rob

Doonside, Australia

#913 Jan 3, 2014
I guess I figured out I was gay when I was around seven or eight but didn't admit it to myself until a month ago. When I was around seven and eight I'd stay over my cousins house for days because my parents worked out of town. And at my cousins house I'd play with her dolls because I had nothing else to do, that was when I realized that I'd rather be a girl than a male. When I was ten my mother quit her job and became a home mum, so I stopped playing with the female toys. Than last month my parents went out on a week trip to Perth so I had to go to my uncles place for the week. My uncle is gay so, this is where I came out. I asked him what it was like to be gay and he replied with an hour description of what life was like. He loved talking about it and in the end I asked if I could touch is cock out of curiosity. He asked why I was curious and I said that I wanted to know if I was gay. He finally pulled down his pants and underwear and let me touch his wobbling cock. Than I took it in my mouth and began to suck him off like the pornos I watch. He was in shock at first but began to enjoy it and came in my mouth. I swallowed the hot cum and smiled, he smiled back and asked me if I wanted to take it to a better experience. I said yes and he pulled down my trousers and underwear. Then he reached into a draw and grabbed a dildo and a condom. He put lob onto the condom which was now on the dildo and shoved it up my ass. He turned the dildo on and I sucked his dick as the dildo vibrated in my ass.

I knew this moment that I was gay and go to my uncles house every weekend, my parents know what for. I came out and my father just sighed and said that he guessed so.
nathan

Minneapolis, MN

#914 Feb 7, 2014
I was around age 10.
YtseJam58

Bradford, PA

#915 Feb 8, 2014
This is kind of a confusing area for me because im not exactly sure what to call myself. But what i do know is, im 18 in college, involved with a man and i love it. I feel more comfortable with him than any of the girls in my life.(Except maybe Kelly "sis" but thats a whole nother ball of twine)
When i was younger, around 14, my step brother and i used to experiment with our sexuality, but there was no feeling with it. I only saw him once a week and it felt nice good to suck him. After he moved out, i started craving that again but i was always too shy to do anything about it. Even during my relationship with my last girlfriend, i was thinking about that. We didnt last long.
I guess i started thinking about the possibility of me being gay one day at youth group. We were practice this place and allie kind of caressed my back and i freaked out a little. But then when i was leaving, kelson gave me a bear hug and i liked it. Thats when i started suspecting. I didnt want to explore further being i was afraid of what my only friends at youth group would think. But i knew once i moved to college id explore more.

So i didnt figure out as early as most people did. And theres not an exact day where it clicked that i was gay. But im happy with where i am now.
YtseJam58

Bradford, PA

#916 Feb 8, 2014
We were practicing this play.... Sorry i type faster than i think.
mac

Tulsa, OK

#917 Feb 21, 2014
BORNGAY wrote:
4 years old... nothing taught to me, no abuse , nothing negative in the environment.. realized I felt this "attraction" or wanting this "closeness' to men..Looking at them and saying "he's cute' he's hansom! wanting the "closeness" for strong arms around me.. not sexual,, that came later as I was growing up..
and as I look back,, never a desire for the female body even as I was realizing my attraction for men was become stronger.. This was NOT A CHOICE... this was THERE.. GOD MADE ME THIS way. and I'm not the least bit confused or discouraged. I NEVER & WOULD NOT ever considering changing my orientation,... the same way a heterosexual feels about theirs.. Anyone out there have this experience as well??
i first noticed at about 3.5 years that i was attracted to my sisters boyfriend--not in a sexual way but simply wanting to be close and to be held by him--he was about 22 at the time and quite handsome.. i know my age because that was when they started dating---was fascinated with his hands and arms and legs etc. didn't even know what sex was- but knew i wanted to be close to him.... i know exactly what you mean......
Matt

Sydney, Australia

#919 Jul 13, 2014
Unlike many homosexuals I found out that I was gay when I was fifteen. I don't know why but it just was. Before that I think that I was bisexual, but leaning more to gay than straight. But as I grew older I knew that I like men more than women. Don't get me wrong, women are beautiful but there is something about men's abs and their manly cock that made me who I am. When I was fifteen I prayed to God. I begged him if he could decided what I was and from the day after that I haven't felt a lust for women. I watched straight porn and the only thing that got me off while watching it, was imagining to be the woman. Having a guy ram is rode into you. Then I watched gay porn and cam in a few minutes. Now I know that I'm gay. God made his choice and so have I to accept it.
nate

Minneapolis, MN

#920 Jul 25, 2014
I wanted to be a girl at age 5 dressed in secret. age 10 gave bj to a boy my age. liked it around 15 liked girls, 20's wanted to be one. at 39 like guys.
Tfadal_striy_hu

Denver, CO

#921 Sep 20, 2014
First or second grade. I didn't want a pink backpack for school or anything like that. I found a J.C.Pennys catalogue and I gravitated toward the men's underwear selections.
I would have sleepovers at my best friend Mark's house. We would re-enact scenes from the Hardy Boys where we were captured and tied together. I was more fascinated than my friend in the "I'll show you mine if you show me yours game."

“pretty, playful, feminine gay ”

Since: Jul 14

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#922 Sep 22, 2014
I was always naturally effeminate. All my childhood friends were girls and I didn't do much "boy stuff" as a little kid. I took dance class instead of team sports, and wished my school would let boys be cheerleaders. My first sexual experience was with a male friend of the family who knew I was gay before I ever knew how to say so. When I came out to my friends none of them was surprised to hear it.
U B U

Buffalo, NY

#923 Dec 1, 2014
Around age 10 was in a health club all the men were getting massages and I was watching I had this strange tingling exciting feeling being around those nude men . I also was in a open shower area with these men.

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