My wife is turning gay

Since: Oct 10

Aberdine, Nebraska

#1 Oct 4, 2010
My wife who I feel is my soul mate, has a friend. This friend is a work "friend" that is gay. A gay female that dresses like a man, looks like a man, acts like a man and uses mens hygiene products. My wife and her began hanging out after her last partner dropped her. I began to notice a difference in my wife in the following weeks towards me. She began to get short with me over ridiculous things, and try to "talk down" to me in front of her gay friend. As a man I began seeing things I would not be comfortable having a man do to my wife. When the "friend" is around, they area always talking in low voices. And the "friend" is always sitting what I consider to be too close to my wife. When I confronted my wife about it, of course she didn't understand why I was getting upset. I tried making the example of "What If" I had a male friend who dressed like a woman, used womens make up, hygiene products and acted like a female. And acted towards me the same her "friend" acts towards her. She acted like she understood, so I asked her not to bring the friend around to our home again. Here is the next piece of the puzzle.....now my wife who has always been a fashion maven is dressing "more comfortably". Recently my wife asked me if her "friend" could move in since she did not have a place to stay. When I said no, I could tell my wife, who was upset at my rebuttal had already told her she could. I stood my ground and did not allow it, ever since then my wife has not been the same towards me. I feel that my family is about to be torn apart by my wife's change of lifestyle. I guess she thinks I am ignorant as this charade continues. Any advise would be appreciated.
cinbadd

AOL

#3 Oct 4, 2010
AAAAaaaaawwwwwwww, Donate2NOM, your Humanity is admirable.

gunther07, people don't "turn gay". They either is, or they aint. Your wife has simply found someone with whom she feels waaaaay comforable-- AND IT'S NOT YOU. Please just let her go. If all else fails, make fun of Donate2NOM-- maybe he'll put you out of your misery.
Rainbow Kid

Alpharetta, GA

#5 Oct 4, 2010
Lesson 1
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Sex and Love are two different things
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Sex is merely ONE of a thousand-and-one ways to share love with a woman
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Using sex the wrong way; or overdoing it; can destroy your marriage in a heartbeat. You wife may feel sexually battered; not loved
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Try some of the other ways to show love:
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Example: When is the last time YOU brought home a dozen long-stemmed Red Roses; and gave them to you wife with a hug and a kiss? along with an "I Love YOU"?......then took her to dinner at ***HER*** favorite restaurant?
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without requiring sex
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I thought so :-(
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Marriage is NOT AUTOMATIC!
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You have EARN it to get it;; and you have to WORK to keep it *every day*; not just when YOU want something for your little 'ole arrogant self
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More likely than not, your wife has been looking for a graceful way out for quite a while; but she is giving it one last chance before she walks out on the marriage forever
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She is using the 3rd person as an example for how she WISHES you would *SHARE* your life with her
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A 3rd person is filling the void in your marriage. Your job is to learn how to fill the void in your marriage YOURSELF; by learning from their example
__________
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Lesson 2:
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UNFORTUNATELY; your natural reaction is arrogance; which EXACERBATES the situation (heats it up//makes matters worse)
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If you want to keep your wife; you MUST become her 50/50 PARTNER IN LIFE; NOT her Lord and Master

Do things for her that SHE LOVES
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LOVE the things SHE does for you; but never make demands that are based on your inner need to control; because YOUR control does not co-exist with marriage;; never, ever, ever! Period!
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Make up your mind which one you want:
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1. marriage
or
2. control (that destroys your marriage)
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She and her friend (symbolically dressed as you) are showing you the way
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Are you learning?....or are you too blind to see
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Open you eyes and your heart
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The only effective tool left in your toolbox is "Unconditional Love"; and plenty of it!
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Unconditional Love Conquers All
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My only wish is that you are not too late to save your marriage
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Get busy; NOW!
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chop! chop!
Rainbow Kid

Alpharetta, GA

#7 Oct 5, 2010
Donate2NOM wrote:
<quoted text>You're dumber than a bag of hammers. You don't even know this guy, but somehow you know it's all his fault. You think he doesn't know that stuff you posted?
The bytch is cheating on HIM, f**kwit. Just because it's homosex doesn't make her automatically the hero and him some neanderthal rapist. Idiot.
Pretty predictable. I knew you hateful crazy people would be in here to rip this poor guy to shreds for the "cause".
Sorry, sweetheart; but NOM's track record is zero

Since: Oct 10

Aberdine, Nebraska

#8 Oct 5, 2010
I do everything I can to make her life easier. I cook, clean, laundry, take of our son, take care of the dog so she can have time to relax....which leaves me with no time. I work more hours than she does, I have to answer my phone 24/7 and she works a 40 +/- hours work week ...how much more can I do. I tell her I love her multiple times a day...I am at a loss.

Since: Oct 10

Aberdine, Nebraska

#9 Oct 5, 2010
I spoke with her parents today, even they expressed to me that they are not comfortable with her dyke friend.
SmackwaterJack

Medford, OR

#11 Oct 5, 2010
gunther07 wrote:
I do everything I can to make her life easier. I cook, clean, laundry, take of our son, take care of the dog so she can have time to relax....which leaves me with no time. I work more hours than she does, I have to answer my phone 24/7 and she works a 40 +/- hours work week ...how much more can I do. I tell her I love her multiple times a day...I am at a loss.
F*ck the dishes: take her in the bedroom, lay her on the bed, put a pillow under her ass and for the next four hours have a sexual session that is ALL ABOUT HER.
Rainbow Kid

Alpharetta, GA

#12 Oct 6, 2010
gunther07 wrote:
I do everything I can to make her life easier. I cook, clean, laundry, take of our son, take care of the dog so she can have time to relax....which leaves me with no time. I work more hours than she does, I have to answer my phone 24/7 and she works a 40 +/- hours work week ...how much more can I do. I tell her I love her multiple times a day...I am at a loss.
She wouldn't have as much time to hang out with her friend if she had more household responsibilities
Rainbow Kid

Alpharetta, GA

#13 Oct 6, 2010
gunther07 wrote:
I spoke with her parents today, even they expressed to me that they are not comfortable with her dyke friend.
When you do something like that, it sends a signal to your wife that you are losing the fight, and are looking for reinforcements
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Is your wife older than you are?

Since: Oct 10

Aberdine, Nebraska

#14 Oct 6, 2010
No, she is younger.
I do what I do more for my young son than for her.
imtherewitu

Baltimore, MD

#15 Mar 17, 2011
o my goodness, i am going through the same thing omg.
but my wife got caught and finally confess, but she said that she has not had sex. but get this every night they txt each other at 12am or later because this what time the other woman get off from school. i ask her why not end it if you two are just friends and she says that they have been friends for 1 year and how can she do that to her. i already ask her to pick me and her 3 year old son and can you believe she would not get rid of her omg.

on tues she made up some fake plans and hook up wit her. get this just to hang out right. i think that was the first time that they had sex. its has been more than 8 days since i made her cum you know in my mouth. so tonight which is wed and i made a move to eat that cat again and she was like no. however i had txt her early in the day and told her i wanted to eat on something to make her cum and she told me I ALREADY DID wow. she tried to play it off but for real that hurt knowing how long she was out on tues. her mother also told me that she is not happy with this whole thing.lol
get this today in the drive through she told me o yea starting every tues i have a class \ for the day care job she works at, this is why i said she had her first sex date yesterday and now it has gotten good to her and she wants to make it their day to hook up and swap panties lol.
i already know its over, please, i just need the info to keep our son.
o yea get this the woman is moving in june of this year and i this is another reason why i think my wife is going to go all the way with her no telling when they will see each other again so why not get it on. when i said but they can only eat your beaver she corrected me and said no they also make strap on's for them o boy "TMI"

BOTTOM LINE I THINK SHE WILL TRY AND COME BACK WHEN EITHER THIS WOMAN MOVES OR WHEN THIS WOMAN GET TIRED OF HER AND GET BACK WITH HER OLD GIRLFRIEND AND WHEN SHE COME KNOCKIN I WILL BE GONE TO SOMETHING JUST AS SOFT. NO MAN CAN TURN A WOMAN AROUND WHO HAS DECIDE TO GO OVER THE FENCE SHE HAS TO WANT TO COME BACK TO HIM ON HER OWN NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO THIS IS THE HONEST TRUTH AS MUCH AS I DONT WANT TO BELIEVE IT BUT ITS TRUE..........
Shorty

Deerfield Beach, FL

#17 Aug 29, 2013
Rainbow kid is our of his / her mind! He acts like he knows you. Your wife is gay. Get over it. She probably didn't realize it until now. Gay women love to "convert" "straight" women into lesbians. But, it isn't possible unless the woman was a lesbian to begin with. Your wife may be bi but obviously prefers women and is having trouble admitting this to her self. Leave her, stay friends and get on with your life. Your relationship with her is over now. I'm sorry.
Gary

San Mateo, CA

#18 Dec 5, 2013
As difficult as this me sound, you have to let her go. She has to decide on her own that she wants to be with you. If you get too lonely and she is not there for you, start dating. Not for sex but for companionship. Be honest about your situation with who you decide to date. Maybe someone who is in a similar situation. If your wife has anyone for you, she may eventually see that she could lose you and wake up. But it also could backfire and go the other way. You have to take action regardless. Desperate situations require desperate measures. Don't go down without a fight. But if you fight for her and she does not come around, it's time to move on
Fred

Cobham, UK

#19 Feb 28, 2014
Lucky man. I want my wife to get a lesbian lover - how do you make this happen?

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