Mormon who is running. Can you help ...

Mormon who is running. Can you help me with this new world?

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Nashotah, WI

#1 Jun 14, 2013
I'm in a dill of a pickle. I'm 26 and I was raised a strict Mormon. I went to BYU and was Mormon thru and thru. When I was young I sometimes felt very strong feelings for my girl friends...Actually I have always felt strongly for my girlfriends...the joke was i would only get a boyfriend when my best girlfriend would so we could still hang out hahaha...I'm not sure if the feelings were of attraction sexually or just emotionally. But i'm a 26 year old virgin. I have recently discovered that the Mormon faith is a pile of doo doo and i'm running like Hell!

Now i'm straddling two worlds. I have not told my family i am leaving the church. I'm starting to learn about the real world. I drank coffee last week! I have been doing research about these sort of drastic life changes. Turns out lots of people struggle with the same issue of being accepted for who they are. I have a blog and i was wondering if any of you can relate to my story.

I've also been exploring my *blush* Sexuality. Just by myself. See I was never really attracted to my Boyfriend but at BYU that is normal. You are supposed to not feel attraction because it is a sin. You are only supposed to date people like as friends. I have made out with boys and i did very much enjoy it but honestly i would rather be with my girlfriend...i have one friend who i...i really really care about like i like her more than any boy...Gosh it is funny admitting to myself all this. Anyway i guess it is hard because i'm 26 and i'm just now figuring all this out. Sex is sooooo odd to me. I'm on page one of the sex talk. Any advice for a guilt stricken girl who my not like boys?

“Be an independent thinker”

Since: Jul 10

Greenville, Ohio

#2 Jun 15, 2013
Give it time.

Wherever your feelings lead you, go.

Be honest with yourself; if you don't, you'll never be honest with others.

If you still feel a desire to be religious but not a Mormon, there are denominations that are gay-friendly. It may be that you will find it natural to be religious but not be a churchgoer. Remember when Jesus chastised the Pharisees for observing the letter of the Law but not its spirit (Matt. 23: 23, 24; Lk. 18:10-14) and showed God valued humility over high station in life? Sometimes religion can be an impediment to faith.

Since: Mar 09

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#3 Jun 16, 2013
Hon, you sure can WRITE, but you need to clear up on some of the words you misuse.

Think you might be gay or bi?

Check out this site:

Go to a couple meetings. They're good people, and PFLAG Moms are da BOMB. If you are, it will help. If you discover you aren't, it won't hurt and will have helped with that. Regardless, you will have found a very supportive group of people, and that will help with your other transitional issues.

Bear in mind that you just may not like Mormon guys.

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