Straight Dope: Should I Let My (Maybe...

Straight Dope: Should I Let My (Maybe) Gay Teenage Son Have Sleepovers With Boys?

There are 62 comments on the City Paper story from Feb 13, 2013, titled Straight Dope: Should I Let My (Maybe) Gay Teenage Son Have Sleepovers With Boys?. In it, City Paper reports that:

I'm a 37-year-old single father with a 14-year-old son. I've raised him on my own basically since birth, with help from some good friends and nearby family.

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DNF

“Judge less, Love more”

Since: Apr 07

Born in Newark Ohio

#47 Feb 15, 2013
WeTheSheeple wrote:
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Hmmmmmm, funny how that "right" to a mother & father doesn't show up anywhere in the constitution.
I guess we'll just keep having kids while you keep whining about it.
Ask him if he can provide a link that shows a child who was born without a mother or father.

Unless it's a clone, it's biologically impossible.

And even in cloning there is still a "parent" involved.

This is just another catch-phrase that makes no sense but gets a lot of traction because too many people don't think it through. It's the same as "alternate lifestyle" and "re-defining marriage".

DNF

“Judge less, Love more”

Since: Apr 07

Born in Newark Ohio

#48 Feb 15, 2013
WeTheSheeple wrote:
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The only fact is we'll keep having kids and you'll keep whining about it.
You left out a very important point:

"We the people of the United States, in order to form a more perfect union, establish justice, insure domestic tranquility, provide for the common defense, promote the general welfare, and secure the blessings of liberty to ourselves and our posterity,..."

“ WOOF ! ”

Since: Nov 12

Coolidge, AZ

#49 Feb 15, 2013
DNF wrote:
<quoted text>Ask him if he can provide a link that shows a child who was born without a mother or father.
Unless it's a clone, it's biologically impossible.
And even in cloning there is still a "parent" involved.
This is just another catch-phrase that makes no sense but gets a lot of traction because too many people don't think it through. It's the same as "alternate lifestyle" and "re-defining marriage".
I agree. It's an example of the "BIG LIE" technique.

It's like when Democrats always say: "I'm from the government and here to help you.:)"
Tyler

New York, NY

#50 Feb 15, 2013
If your not a troll, which strongly suspect, the point is 14 year old's dont have "sleepovers". If they are, and you suspect he is gay, then his friend is gay. And if they are gay, then they are already having sex, sleepover or not. so what would you prefer, they sneak around in deserted public places and have sex, have sex when your not home, or have sex on sleepovers. Hey at least they are safe, and who knows, maybe in love, and just want to cudle after sex. Buy him a box of condoms, some Astroglide, and let him have his friend over.

DNF

“Judge less, Love more”

Since: Apr 07

Born in Newark Ohio

#51 Feb 15, 2013
Fa-Foxy wrote:
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I agree. It's an example of the "BIG LIE" technique.
It's like when Democrats always say: "I'm from the government and here to help you.:)"
I've decided it's time to start asking people to add you to the David Moore Honest AbeL list.

I don't judge all Republicans based on the legacy of Bush/Cheney. Nor do I judge all Democrats based on the actions of guys like DuBurns from Maryland.

I know it makes your world much simpler when you create some boogy man to blame everything on. IMHO you are as bad as the people who demonize all gays based on what a small segment of our community (drag queens for example or gays like you).

DNF

“Judge less, Love more”

Since: Apr 07

Born in Newark Ohio

#52 Feb 15, 2013
Tyler wrote:
If your not a troll, which strongly suspect, the point is 14 year old's dont have "sleepovers". If they are, and you suspect he is gay, then his friend is gay. And if they are gay, then they are already having sex, sleepover or not. so what would you prefer, they sneak around in deserted public places and have sex, have sex when your not home, or have sex on sleepovers. Hey at least they are safe, and who knows, maybe in love, and just want to cudle after sex. Buy him a box of condoms, some Astroglide, and let him have his friend over.
I'm curious about who you are addressing.

“ WOOF ! ”

Since: Nov 12

Coolidge, AZ

#53 Feb 15, 2013
DNF wrote:
<quoted text>I've decided it's time to start asking people to add you to the David Moore Honest AbeL list.
I don't judge all Republicans based on the legacy of Bush/Cheney. Nor do I judge all Democrats based on the actions of guys like DuBurns from Maryland.
I know it makes your world much simpler when you create some boogy man to blame everything on. IMHO you are as bad as the people who demonize all gays based on what a small segment of our community (drag queens for example or gays like you).
i LOVE drag queens. My first LTR was with a drag queen, and I ran with taht crowd, although I've never done drag. And it was teh drag queens that finally fought back at Stonewall. So you're just as bad as other anti-gay bigots.

DNF

“Judge less, Love more”

Since: Apr 07

Born in Newark Ohio

#54 Feb 15, 2013
I'm sort of shocked at the double standard I'm seeing from some other gays on here.

We all go on and on about equality, but in this case it appears a lot of gays on this thread want to apply special exemptions for gay teen boys to the rules that would normally apply to straight children of the same age group.

I'm not going to endorse that double standard and then claim I want "equal rights".

DNF

“Judge less, Love more”

Since: Apr 07

Born in Newark Ohio

#55 Feb 15, 2013
Fa-Foxy wrote:
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i LOVE drag queens. My first LTR was with a drag queen, and I ran with taht crowd, although I've never done drag. And it was teh drag queens that finally fought back at Stonewall. So you're just as bad as other anti-gay bigots.
Yes I know. Funny that you don't think that dead Republican committeeman who spawned you isn't spinning in his grave over you chasing chicks with dicks.

“ WOOF ! ”

Since: Nov 12

Coolidge, AZ

#56 Feb 15, 2013
DNF wrote:
<quoted text>Yes I know. Funny that you don't think that dead Republican committeeman who spawned you isn't spinning in his grave over you chasing chicks with dicks.
My parents, my siblings, my aunts, my uncles, and my cousins, ALL treated her as family and treated her better than her own flesh and blood did.

“ WOOF ! ”

Since: Nov 12

Coolidge, AZ

#57 Feb 15, 2013
Tyler wrote:
If your not a troll, which strongly suspect, the point is 14 year old's dont have "sleepovers". If they are, and you suspect he is gay, then his friend is gay. And if they are gay, then they are already having sex, sleepover or not. so what would you prefer, they sneak around in deserted public places and have sex, have sex when your not home, or have sex on sleepovers. Hey at least they are safe, and who knows, maybe in love, and just want to cudle after sex. Buy him a box of condoms, some Astroglide, and let him have his friend over.
I agree with most of what you say. I was also going to suggest his father put a tube of lube under his pillow along with some condoms.

Since: Mar 09

Location hidden

#58 Feb 16, 2013
DNF wrote:
I'm sort of shocked at the double standard I'm seeing from some other gays on here.
We all go on and on about equality, but in this case it appears a lot of gays on this thread want to apply special exemptions for gay teen boys to the rules that would normally apply to straight children of the same age group.
I'm not going to endorse that double standard and then claim I want "equal rights".
BINGO!

A gay kid needs to learn self-discipline and how to wait till they're older just like hetero kids. It's part of character development. We have entirely too many people deficient in positive character qualities in this world.

Since: Mar 07

Location hidden

#59 Feb 16, 2013
Lady Evil wrote:
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.........
I'm speaking of the natural order of the family structure. Male and female. Something gays 'forfeited' entirely yet wish to redefine.
..........
The natural order of family structure is male/male or Female/female for some of the population. Not a difficult concept.

No one is redefining a thing, since this simple fact has no bearing on any straight person's family structure.

Who in their right mind spends time worrying about other people's families? Wouldn't it make more sense to work to strengthen your own?
Popers39

United States

#61 Feb 18, 2013
Quest wrote:
<quoted text>
The natural order of family structure is male/male or Female/female for some of the population. Not a difficult concept.
No one is redefining a thing, since this simple fact has no bearing on any straight person's family structure.
Who in their right mind spends time worrying about other people's families? Wouldn't it make more sense to work to strengthen your own?
yes! I definitely agree!

DNF

“Judge less, Love more”

Since: Apr 07

Born in Newark Ohio

#62 Feb 19, 2013
snyper wrote:
<quoted text>
BINGO!
A gay kid needs to learn self-discipline and how to wait till they're older just like hetero kids. It's part of character development. We have entirely too many people deficient in positive character qualities in this world.
Big Red Heart.

Thanks for hearing me through all the noise!

I WILL NOT stand for equal rights and endorse special treatment. To do so would make me the ultimate hypocrite.
Oscar

Perris, CA

#63 Mar 15, 2013
I love boy can help for ur son ?
Sid

Queensbury, NY

#66 Jun 17, 2016
Go fish wrote:
Of course wouldnt you rather he be safe at home?? Hes going to do whatever hes going to do anyway
I agree, they will do it anyway . When I was a teen I experimented, didn't you. My buddy and I slept over a lot and yes we sucked each other off. We are both straight and married to women. Let nature take its course.

“ WOOF ! ”

Since: Nov 12

Coolidge, AZ

#68 Jun 17, 2016
Tyler wrote:
If your not a troll, which strongly suspect, the point is 14 year old's dont have "sleepovers". If they are, and you suspect he is gay, then his friend is gay. And if they are gay, then they are already having sex, sleepover or not. so what would you prefer, they sneak around in deserted public places and have sex, have sex when your not home, or have sex on sleepovers. Hey at least they are safe, and who knows, maybe in love, and just want to cudle after sex. Buy him a box of condoms, some Astroglide, and let him have his friend over.
Ya gotta get em while their Cute !:)

And after they turn 19 and are too old, just thrown em away and find ANOTHER Cutieboi ! WOO-HOO !
Christaliban

Philadelphia, PA

#69 Jun 17, 2016
Fa-Foxy wrote:
<quoted text>
Ya gotta get em while their Cute !:)
And after they turn 19 and are too old, just thrown em away and find ANOTHER Cutieboi ! WOO-HOO !
I thought you were dead or in prison. Perhaps you happily are dead and someone else is using your account.

We know you think 19 is too old. The only question is for you whether it's four or five that is too young.

“Headed toward the cliff”

Since: Nov 07

Tawas City, Michigan

#71 Jun 17, 2016
Fa-Foxy wrote:
<quoted text>

Ya gotta get em while their Cute !:)

And after they turn 19 and are too old, just thrown em away and find ANOTHER Cutieboi ! WOO-HOO !
OMG, look what's back.

Did you finally finish your prison sentence for pedophilia?

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