My girlfriend wants an abortion And I...

“Reality is better than truth.”

Since: Nov 09

Indianapolis

#21 Sep 20, 2012
The chances of the girl's father beating the living crap out of you go up precipitously as well. Of course, she can call the guy's parents and tell them she's aborting their grandchild and that they should talk to their kid's boorishness.

Who the hell do you think you are? You do not have the right to interfere with everyone's lives because you're cranky. You should have used birth control, something christian men are often remiss about. Why does the term "christofascism" come to mind?

BTW--I'm SURE you can back up that 40% figure. Right?
George wrote:
Also, most girls want to have abortions because they are too scared to tell their parents. Tell her nothing. Walk up. Knock on her door. Walk directly to her parents and tell them straight out that she is pregnant. It is going to take real courage - but the chances of the baby being born go up about 40%.

“Reality is better than truth.”

Since: Nov 09

Indianapolis

#22 Sep 20, 2012
Christianity is all about death.
George wrote:
Google this legal organization that might take on your case if you seek Christian burial of the remains:
Alliance Defense Fund
I cant post a link in this forum

“Reality is better than truth.”

Since: Nov 09

Indianapolis

#23 Sep 20, 2012
In utero, the fetus has no rights and the woman makes all decisions concerning what is in her body. Once born, rights adhere to the baby, and one of those rights is to be supported by both biological parents unless both waive those right in the process of adoption.
phil wrote:
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This is an old post and you probably will not ever see my reply but I felt I had to say something to your ridiculous post. I know many male friends that are single dad's because their girlfriends/wives ext... said the same thing and left them high and dry because of different reasons. Women are not the only ones that get screwed over with pregnancies.
Your last sentence about men getting pregnant is one of the dumbest things I have ever read on the internet. I don't like to assume but I bet you have been hurt by a few men in your life and now think that all women are innocent and that men destroy families. Thinking that if men got pregnant "abortion would have been legal from the get-go" and that it would "never have become a social issue" makes me feel very sorry for your distorted and twisted view of life and men.
What if the title read "Girlfriend is pregnant and want to keep it, but I don't want to be a father". I assume you would be saying things like "It's your baby too and you need to take responsibility". So whats the difference? If she wants it and he doesn't, then man becomes evil because he doesn't want to take responsibility for "his baby". But if the women doesn't want it and he does, "It is her choice and you can't force her to do anything".
This is the conundrum I am currently in. Which is why I care so deeply about this situation.
Ocean56

AOL

#24 Sep 21, 2012
cpeter1313 wrote:
Ah, and the worm turns...
You take no risks during pregnancy. She does. She decides which reasons are important, not you. Personally, I would worry bout having a baby with someone who apparently doesn't work.
Yep. The ONLY one who gets to make the choice whether to continue the pregnancy or not is the WOMAN who is pregnant. Guys who don't want to see a girlfriend abort an unwanted pregnancy need to be a LOT more careful about birth control.
Voice of Reason

Winter Park, FL

#26 Sep 10, 2013
pbfa wrote:
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Yup.
Butt out.
It's her decision to make, not yours.
Thanks for asking.
You are one cold worthless bitch... this man is telling how much he loves this woman and wants his child and you say some shit like that. I've been thru this with a girl I loved. she had an abortion without even telling me she was pregnant and only told me after her conscience started killing her from doing both. needless to say, I kicked her ass to the curb. have some heart you cold bitch

Morgana 9

“And the Horse You Rode in On”

Since: Sep 08

Minneapolis

#27 Sep 10, 2013
Voice of Reason wrote:
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You are one cold worthless bitch... this man is telling how much he loves this woman and wants his child and you say some shit like that. I've been thru this with a girl I loved. she had an abortion without even telling me she was pregnant and only told me after her conscience started killing her from doing both. needless to say, I kicked her ass to the curb. have some heart you cold bitch
Read your above post genius. You are nothing but a control freak. Women OWE you nothing.

Don't be to puffed up about kicking her ass to the curb,obviously she did not find you much of a catch when she failed to confide in you. The posters GF confided in him, obviously you were not worth it.
Ocean56

AOL

#28 Sep 10, 2013
Voice of Reason wrote:
You are one cold worthless bitch... this man is telling how much he loves this woman and wants his child and you say some shit like that. I've been thru this with a girl I loved. she had an abortion without even telling me she was pregnant and only told me after her conscience started killing her from doing both. needless to say, I kicked her ass to the curb. have some heart you cold bitch
NO woman has to gestate a pregnancy that she probably never wanted in the first place, goofy. You seem to have the attitude that if you "love" a woman, she is automatically your PROPERTY, which of course she isn't. HER pregnancy, HER decision, not yours.

Maybe you should have taken the simple step of asking her what she would do about a pregnancy if it happened BEFORE you slept with her, and ended the relationship (or stopped a one-night hookup) before the sex occurred. No sex, no pregnancy...no problem.

Motherhood: OPTIONAL, not required.
George OLoughlin

Portsmouth, RI

#29 Sep 10, 2013
CPeter1313 you miss the point entirely. The arguement would be over the remains. Yes, outside the uterus. Your argument was based on in-utero law. Not that you care about facts.

“Reality is better than truth.”

Since: Nov 09

Indianapolis

#30 Sep 10, 2013
He didn't even mention the remains. If he wants them so badly, give them to him. What's he gonna do--make stir-fry?

BTW--extro-uterine law demands that the remains be destroyed as medical waste or buried/cremated in accordance to state requirements.
George OLoughlin wrote:
CPeter1313 you miss the point entirely. The arguement would be over the remains. Yes, outside the uterus. Your argument was based on in-utero law. Not that you care about facts.
zef

Marina Del Rey, CA

#31 Sep 13, 2013
cpeter1313 wrote:
In utero, the fetus has no rights and the woman makes all decisions concerning what is in her body. Once born, rights adhere to the baby, and one of those rights is to be supported by both biological parents unless both waive those right in the process of adoption.
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Human rights are inherent. Your vile bigotry against young people is disgustingly obtuse.
zef

Marina Del Rey, CA

#32 Sep 14, 2013
Ocean56 wrote:
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Ah, so for you it comes back to OWNERSHIP, I see. Do you really believe both the fetus (no baby until birth) and the woman are your PROPERTY? Here's a little news flash for you; they AREN'T.
Whatever reasons your GF has for not wanting to continue the pregnancy, it is HER decision to make. SHE will be taking on ALL the risks and possibly serious complications of pregnancy, and has decided NOT to do so. Whether you choose to accept it or not, it is still HER decision to make, not yours.
Well, he was humming this hum to himself, and walking along gaily, wondering what everybody else was doing, and what it felt like, being somebody else, when suddenly he came to a sandy bank, and in the bank was a large hole.
MutualMcFly

Fairport, NY

#33 Apr 5, 2014
Ocean56 wrote:
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Ah, so for you it comes back to OWNERSHIP, I see. Do you really believe both the fetus (no baby until birth) and the woman are your PROPERTY? Here's a little news flash for you; they AREN'T.
Whatever reasons your GF has for not wanting to continue the pregnancy, it is HER decision to make. SHE will be taking on ALL the risks and possibly serious complications of pregnancy, and has decided NOT to do so. Whether you choose to accept it or not, it is still HER decision to make, not yours.
Saw this response to another comment and the person never mentioned ownership or property. They simply said "the baby is mine too". Nothing to do with ownership, and nothing to do with property. I don't see anything wrong with a man respectfully expressing that he wants the decision to be mutual. I mean if you were happily expecting to have a child and it turns out you wouldn't be having one, wouldn't you "fight" for at least your opinion on the matter. Personally, I would be devastated if my partner gave me news that they wanted to have an abortion. For me it has nothing to do whether or not one thinks abortion is right or wrong; or if one is pro-life or pro-choice. It just has to do with wanting to have and support your child and support your loved one along the difficult 9 month journey and process. Now if there are complications along the way, then yes, of course that deserves immense consideration. I just think it should be a mutual decision with both parties respecting the wishes of each. Nothing to do with ownership. Nothing to do with property.

“Reality is better than truth.”

Since: Nov 09

Indianapolis

#34 Apr 6, 2014
"Mine" is a possessive; it indicates ownership. Moreover, you have a right to an opinion, but you take no risks whatsoever in pregnancy, which is why you don't get a say in it.
MutualMcFly wrote:
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Saw this response to another comment and the person never mentioned ownership or property. They simply said "the baby is mine too". Nothing to do with ownership, and nothing to do with property. I don't see anything wrong with a man respectfully expressing that he wants the decision to be mutual. I mean if you were happily expecting to have a child and it turns out you wouldn't be having one, wouldn't you "fight" for at least your opinion on the matter. Personally, I would be devastated if my partner gave me news that they wanted to have an abortion. For me it has nothing to do whether or not one thinks abortion is right or wrong; or if one is pro-life or pro-choice. It just has to do with wanting to have and support your child and support your loved one along the difficult 9 month journey and process. Now if there are complications along the way, then yes, of course that deserves immense consideration. I just think it should be a mutual decision with both parties respecting the wishes of each. Nothing to do with ownership. Nothing to do with property.
YES

Parkersburg, WV

#35 Apr 6, 2014
in some states, the father of the child can get an injunction to prevent it.

why should I allow someone to kill something I helped create? I say the only reasons for abortion are if it was a rape, or if it will kill the mother/child to keep the baby.

tell your girlfriend you will poop in her food if she does it or something, idk. tell her you will tell everyone what she did to shame her into keeping it and then at least giving it to a family who will adopt.

hell, look in the classified, there are families who will PAY you to let them adopt the child thru legal channels. the money is supposed to be for pre-natal care, but can be used for anything...

“Reality is better than truth.”

Since: Nov 09

Indianapolis

#36 Apr 6, 2014
In absolutely NO states can a man stop a woman from aborting.

You don't "allow" a goddamn thing; she's the only one with a voice in this matter. And judging your maturity level (Poop in her food? Are you 12?), it's a strong signal that no woman should get involved with you, much less get tied to you through having a baby.

I love my fetus and want to take care of...HOLY SHIT, we can make some money off this thing! Yeee-hawwww!
YES wrote:
in some states, the father of the child can get an injunction to prevent it.
why should I allow someone to kill something I helped create? I say the only reasons for abortion are if it was a rape, or if it will kill the mother/child to keep the baby.
tell your girlfriend you will poop in her food if she does it or something, idk. tell her you will tell everyone what she did to shame her into keeping it and then at least giving it to a family who will adopt.
hell, look in the classified, there are families who will PAY you to let them adopt the child thru legal channels. the money is supposed to be for pre-natal care, but can be used for anything...
Guppy9898

Romeoville, IL

#40 Mar 29, 2016
pbfa wrote:
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Yup.
Butt out.
It's her decision to make, not yours.
Thanks for asking.
------- shame on you for being so cold. Legally it's her decision... But it isn't a just law... It's unjust and an opposing view deserves to be heard.
yourmom

UK

#41 May 18, 2016
pbfa wrote:
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Yup.
Butt out.
It's her decision to make, not yours.
Thanks for asking.
Shut the fcuk up you stupid bicyh it takes two to make a child and it should take two to kill one too. Fuckwhit.

Thanks for being a ccok &#128522;

“Reality is better than truth.”

Since: Nov 09

Indianapolis

#42 May 18, 2016
How many does it take to gestate? How many men become ill and/or die from pregnancy and childbirth? How many men have little if anything to do with the spawn they create?
yourmom wrote:
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Shut the fcuk up you stupid bicyh it takes two to make a child and it should take two to kill one too. Fuckwhit.

Thanks for being a ccok &#128522;
Anonymous

Sanford, ME

#43 Oct 11, 2016
pbfa wrote:
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Yup.
Butt out.
It's her decision to make, not yours.
Thanks for asking.
As it's her decision , he still is allowed his input, it is his child after all, he doesn't need to butt out. Your answer was very vague and rude
BananaSmash

Bristol, VA

#45 Oct 21, 2016
Also,
Men need to quit sleeping with these lunatics. That is why I will NEVER have any kind of relationship with a woman. They use the fact that they can get pregnant as a weapon.

Sorry ladies, you have a vagina and the parts to create children. You know this yet you have unprotected sex and then kill your children like it's nothing. You don't care about how the man feels about the situation but expect him to cater to your every need. It's PATHETIC. You are all worthless trash.

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