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Tonya

Williamsburg, VA

#28 Nov 11, 2008
Dove wrote:
My current boyfriend gained my trust in that way. He told me straight off that he would under no circumstances leave me, and that he considered a pregnancy to be an equal responsibility, involving both parties.
While you do bring up a wonderful point about knowing what to expect if pregnancy does occur, I just have to say that people change. My boyfriend of two years became so afraid when I got pregnant, it made me contemplate abortion. Also, men if you do make a promise to a woman about staying, then you should.
mayeth

Wilmington, DE

#29 Sep 21, 2010
OMG!!!.Leave your ex-gf alone. Who cares if she had an abortion?..it's her body, so it's her choice. You men don't deal with pain for the last 9 months. We females were the one who stuck with it
jane

New Castle, DE

#30 Aug 8, 2011
You need to mind your own business. It's her body, it's her choice
jonathan

Chatsworth, GA

#31 Nov 5, 2011
pbfa wrote:
If she didn't tell you about it, you need to mind your own business & move on. She has. If she wanted you to know, she'd have told you. If she wanted you in her life, she wouldn't have broken up with you. I know it's harsh, but you need to get real & move on. If she did have an abortion, how do you know it's yours? What difference would it make?
Lets get real its her body her choice his mid that got blasted! what about father's rights no one gives a hoot. But we feel too. Just a thought for all you little girls who can't step up to what it is to be real. Life sucks all the way around and they don't look at a life of happiness and smiles with a child.
jonathan

Chatsworth, GA

#32 Nov 5, 2011
I think they get to focused on them witch shows a great deal of selfishness!
Ocean56

AOL

#33 Nov 7, 2011
jonathan wrote:
Lets get real its her body her choice his mid that got blasted! what about father's rights no one gives a hoot. But we feel too. Just a thought for all you little girls who can't step up to what it is to be real. Life sucks all the way around and they don't look at a life of happiness and smiles with a child.
NOT all women want to be mothers, especially teen girls and young women who haven't finished high school or college yet. Funny how immature male LOSERS in high school and college put constant pressure on their girlfriends to have sex with them are usually the first ones to dump these girls when they get pregnant.

Yes, you're right, life DOES suck for teen girls who get pregnant and then find themselves abandoned by the very guys who demanded sex in the first place. They have the right to abort an unwanted pregnancy if they decide they don't want to be pregnant. IMO there's NOTHING good about getting pregnant as a teenager. Life becomes ten times HARDER for teen girls who get pregnant, especially for those who become teen moms afterward. I completely understand teen girls who DON'T want to go down that road.
Ocean56

AOL

#34 Nov 7, 2011
jonathan wrote:
I think they get to focused on them witch shows a great deal of selfishness!
Actually, what's REALLY selfish is for immature guys who usually can't be bothered to use a condom to demand that their girlfriends gestate UNWANTED pregnancies that result from lack of protection.

You can whine how "selfish" they are all you want. Girls can still abort if they decide they don't want to be pregnant.
Nesee

Cumming, GA

#35 Jun 4, 2012
pbfa wrote:
If she didn't tell you about it, you need to mind your own business & move on. She has. If she wanted you to know, she'd have told you. If she wanted you in her life, she wouldn't have broken up with you. I know it's harsh, but you need to get real & move on. If she did have an abortion, how do you know it's yours? What difference would it make?
this person has never been in love or been loved by a special sone one. This was his gf and they were obviously intimate which means there was a high percentage that this could have beed hos child. As a man why wouldnt you wanna know if your girlfriend was pregnant with your child...or someone elses?

“The one who knows”

Since: May 12

Location hidden

#36 Jun 4, 2012
Cpetr13 wrote:
I'm seeing why she broke up with you--you;re self-centered and give the clear impression that your relationship is based on sex. Asking for sex on your birthday even though you understood the relationship was over is pretty much a dead cert clue there.
There could be any number of reasons why she wouldn't have sex with you--maybe she just didn't want to and found various reasons to put you off because she didn't want to just knee you in the groin to get you to shut up bout it.
The pregnancy tests would imply to me that she found someone else when finds more acceptable while away at school. Maybe this person doesn't see her as a support system for a vagina, and maybe this person doesn't go through her things to find "clues" that are none of his business.
It's over, grab a clue and move on. She doesn't have to tell you if she had a abortion or a yeast infection or a new boyfriend.
<quoted text>
You understand nothing of heteronormal relations, Pete, so why don't ya sit back and learn something.
Ocean56

AOL

#37 Jun 8, 2012
Nesee wrote:
this person has never been in love or been loved by a special sone one. This was his gf and they were obviously intimate which means there was a high percentage that this could have beed hos child. As a man why wouldnt you wanna know if your girlfriend was pregnant with your child...or someone elses?
Actually, whether he created the pregnancy or not is irrelevant, since it is the WOMAN'S decision whether or not to continue it. If she didn't, it was HER decision, and she had no obligation to tell him.

Given the fact that the OP has the appearance of being a stalker, I think she made the right choice to break up with him.
ccrumbum

Carlsbad, CA

#39 Feb 6, 2013
pbfa wrote:
If she didn't tell you about it, you need to mind your own business & move on. She has. If she wanted you to know, she'd have told you. If she wanted you in her life, she wouldn't have broken up with you. I know it's harsh, but you need to get real & move on. If she did have an abortion, how do you know it's yours? What difference would it make?
YOUR A DOU$HE BAG
raccad

Pittsburgh, PA

#42 Feb 27, 2013
http://youtube.com/watch...
So she had a aborition?
Jake

Shorewood, IL

#44 Apr 22, 2013
Um I'm pretty sure he has every right morally speaking, to know, maybe not legally but come on like really? From what I hear its very obvious but if I were you I'd just forget it dude. If she just dropped you like that, she probably wouldn't be a very good mother anyway
me-sh

Clanton, AL

#46 Nov 17, 2014
Track_Star wrote:
My girlfriend of 3 years suddenly ended our relationship with no warning and I think she had an abortion. I will start with a little background information. I am 24 and she is 22. She goes to college a few hours away from where I live. In the months leading up to the breakup everything seemed to be going great. I visited her several times during the semester and each time she begged me to extend my stay, which I did.
When she came home for winter break, she broke up with me the first day she returned home. I was shocked and repediately asked for a reason and got none, only the standard cliche answers such as we're growing apart, not enough in common, ect. I made it clear that I wanted to be back together but she would not change her mind. I did ask her if we could have sex one last time for my birthday which was in December. She agreed but said she was sick and her doctor ordered her not to have sex for 2 weeks. I was a little skeptical and she went on to further explain that she also wasn't able to bathe during this time, she could only take showers. As the two weeks came closer to it's end I asked again about the sex and she said she would need to be cleared first by her doctor. Despite the effort on my part she never did have sex with me and she left in early Jan to go back to school. At this time she also stopped answering my calls.
In November when I was visiting her I found a grocery bag with 3 pregnancy tests in it. One had the used test which was negative, but the other two only had the empty box. At the time I was out there I asked her why she had them and she said they were from a long time ago. This was definately not true as she had only moved out there 6 weeks earlier, she had been living several hundred miles away for the last year. I highly doubt she would have packed that up with her and brought it along when she made her move.
Over Thanksgiving break, she mentioned that she had a gynecologist exam, saying it was just routine. Obviously, I think it was in regards to the pregnancy and even if not, she still could have found out then and there that she was pregnant. While she was home in December she at one point mentioned that she was switching birth control methods which again begs the question on why.
Unfortunately, I only put all of this together recently, after she left. And now, she isn't answering my calls so I haven't had a chance to ask her about this. I am wondering, is there any other explanation for all of this; the tests, the no sex, no baths, the routine gynecologist apointment, ect. aside from abortion? I looked online and what she said her doctor recommended is exactly what they would have recommended after an abortion. I would love to hear anyone's thoughts on this matter. Thanks.
If she did have a abortion and its yours i think you do have a say in it i mean it is your child to and if she took that inisent babies life without your say or took it at all she should be ashamed that baby didnt ask to be brought into this world and for her to take it away is very self fish and mean and shows how careless she really is if she wasnt ready to have a baby that is her fault yall should have wrapped it before he tapped it im just saying but if she did take taht babies life she need a good a** whooping!

Since: Jun 08

Atrisco Village

#47 Nov 17, 2014
Track_Star wrote:
My girlfriend of 3 years suddenly ended our relationship with no warning and I think she had an abortion. I will start with a little background information. I am 24 and she is 22. She goes to college a few hours away from where I live. In the months leading up to the breakup everything seemed to be going great. I visited her several times during the semester and each time she begged me to extend my stay, which I did.
When she came home for winter break, she broke up with me the first day she returned home. I was shocked and repediately asked for a reason and got none, only the standard cliche answers such as we're growing apart, not enough in common, ect. I made it clear that I wanted to be back together but she would not change her mind. I did ask her if we could have sex one last time for my birthday which was in December. She agreed but said she was sick and her doctor ordered her not to have sex for 2 weeks. I was a little skeptical and she went on to further explain that she also wasn't able to bathe during this time, she could only take showers. As the two weeks came closer to it's end I asked again about the sex and she said she would need to be cleared first by her doctor. Despite the effort on my part she never did have sex with me and she left in early Jan to go back to school. At this time she also stopped answering my calls.
In November when I was visiting her I found a grocery bag with 3 pregnancy tests in it. One had the used test which was negative, but the other two only had the empty box. At the time I was out there I asked her why she had them and she said they were from a long time ago. This was definately not true as she had only moved out there 6 weeks earlier, she had been living several hundred miles away for the last year. I highly doubt she would have packed that up with her and brought it along when she made her move.
Over Thanksgiving break, she mentioned that she had a gynecologist exam, saying it was just routine. Obviously, I think it was in regards to the pregnancy and even if not, she still could have found out then and there that she was pregnant. While she was home in December she at one point mentioned that she was switching birth control methods which again begs the question on why.
Unfortunately, I only put all of this together recently, after she left. And now, she isn't answering my calls so I haven't had a chance to ask her about this. I am wondering, is there any other explanation for all of this; the tests, the no sex, no baths, the routine gynecologist apointment, ect. aside from abortion? I looked online and what she said her doctor recommended is exactly what they would have recommended after an abortion. I would love to hear anyone's thoughts on this matter. Thanks.
It's pretty obvious she doesn't want you to know what's going on. She has no obligation to tell you anything. If she doesn't care enough to share, you would do well to move on and find someone that does.

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