Tragically, studies reveal that spousal abuse is just as common within the evangelical churches as anywhere else. This means that about 25 percent of Christian homes witness abuse of some kind.<quoted text>How do you explain that MOST child sexual abuse takes place in families where the parents are atheists....like you.
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. What goes on in your shack we all wonder.
These numbers may shock youand they certainly shocked meso you may be wondering if the studies were done by secular researchers hostile to the church. I can assure you, sadly, they were not.
Denise George, a gifted writer and the wife of theologian Timothy George, has published a new book called What Women Wish Pastors Knew. "Spouse abuse shocks us," George writes. "We just cannot believe that a church deacon or member goes home after worship ... and beats his wife." Tragically, however, George notes, some of these men justify their violence "by citing biblical passages."
Well, obviously they're misinterpreting Scripture. In Ephesians 5:22, husbands are told to love their wives as Christ loved the church; beating wives black-and-blue hardly constitutes Christian love. 1 Peter 3:1-7 tells husbands to live with their wives considerately. And the Bible makes it clear that the church has no business closing its eyes to violent men. In 1 Timothy 3:3, the church is told that when it comes to choosing leaders, they must find men who are "not violent but gentle," sober, and temperate.
The amount of domestic abuse in Christian homes is horrifying, and the church ought to be doing something about itnot leaving the problem to secular agencies. But this is one mission field where the church is largely missing in action. And sometimes pastors, albeit with good intentions, do more harm than good.
George sites a survey in which nearly 6,000 pastors were asked how they would counsel women who came to them for help with domestic violence. Twenty-six percent would counsel them the same way Marleen's pastor did: to continue to "submit" to her husband, no matter what. Twenty-five percent told wives the abuse was their own faultfor failing to submit in the first place. Astonishingly, 50 percent said women should be willing to "tolerate some level of violence" because it is better than divorce.
Advice like this, George warns, often puts women "in grave danger"and in some cases, can be a death warrant.
Pastors need to acknowledge that domestic abuse in the church is a problem, and learn how to counsel women wisely.
Stay tuned for more on this subjectone the church has not said enough about.
Obviously, Christians must uphold the sanctity of marriage. But we should never ignore the dangers of violent spousesmen who use the Bible to justify abusing, and even killing, their wives.
*This article published April 20, 2009.
Now don't you feel completely stupid.
I think it is now time for you to post your documentation that *MOST* sexual abuse takes place in families were then parents are Atheists. Do it, as it's the responsible thing to do, otherwise admit that you're just being mean spirited, and lying your ass off. I'll wait!!!
BTW the above article is from RELIGION TODAY!!!!