Or, perhaps, this mother who DOES regret having her children was PRESSURED to have both, by spouse, in-laws, religious community, or all three. Unfortunately, many women aren't strong enough to resist the pressure and tell the guilt peddlers to back off and mind their own business. So they cave to the pressure and have kids they wish they never had. A very sad situation, for the entire family.And she had 2.. thinking she should have figured this all out sooner.
I think it's much better for girls/women to know all about the HARDSHIPS of motherhood NOW, long before a pregnancy happens, so they can make an INFORMED decision about it. One can't make an informed decision without all the facts, and in too many cases, the hardships of motherhood are deliberately kept hidden from girls/women until after a baby arrives, when it is too late for them to make that decision. I think it's time that changed.