Tattle: 'Bombshell' has one for Sandr...

Tattle: 'Bombshell' has one for Sandra Bullock

There are 15 comments on the Philly.com story from Mar 18, 2010, titled Tattle: 'Bombshell' has one for Sandra Bullock. In it, Philly.com reports that:

According to RadarOnline.com, the "Bombshell" who dropped a bombshell on Sandra Bullock yesterday, claiming she'd had an 11-month affair with Sandra's husband, Jesse James , was raised Amish.

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“Experience is a great teacher”

Since: Mar 10

California

#1 Mar 18, 2010
It is really sad to see that very few people respect the sanctity of marriage these days. I am not referring to the random mistresses,(yes they do play their part). I am however referring to the men and women who are without thought taking light of the vows they took. What happend to love, honor and cherish?
flyboy

Richmond, VA

#3 Mar 18, 2010
Sexy Swazi wrote:
It is really sad to see that very few people respect the sanctity of marriage these days. I am not referring to the random mistresses,(yes they do play their part). I am however referring to the men and women who are without thought taking light of the vows they took. What happend to love, honor and cherish?
The truth of the matter is, most people really aren't built for marriage. Doesn't mean they can't do it, or cheating is acceptable. But most people don't marry realizing what the actual responsibilities are, and the full scope of how your life changes after the vows. And in turn, most people cannot handle those responsibilities, and aren't ready for the changes to their lives. The married lifestyle and all of it's intricacies are too much for most people to bear. And this is what happens.

Since: Jan 08

Location hidden

#4 Mar 20, 2010
I think that varies on the people..My husband and I love being married---It is dificult and challenging at times but we love one another and work hard at our marriage-( he was married once before)
-- I don't think society is condusive for marriage esp of famous couples.. The divorce rate is like 60% When there is money involved it is easier to get a divorce because you don't have to work through it.( when you have a couple that couldn't make it on their own- they tend to work through the mess)

I do know that it is human nature to have week moments- but to cheat continously and expect or want to stay with your spouse is terrible-- if they fall out of love and make a life with a new partner- thats different-- but when there are people who seem to have it all I think they become complacient or self destructive or even feel entitled

I hope he didn't sleep with that woman-- It seems that there is some shady business--

“If you don't like my attitude”

Since: Mar 10

bite me

#5 Mar 20, 2010
Sexy Swazi wrote:
It is really sad to see that very few people respect the sanctity of marriage these days. I am not referring to the random mistresses,(yes they do play their part). I am however referring to the men and women who are without thought taking light of the vows they took. What happend to love, honor and cherish?
Marriage looks good on paper,but it's not practical to say the least.

“Experience is a great teacher”

Since: Mar 10

California

#6 Mar 20, 2010
Maverick81 wrote:
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Marriage looks good on paper,but it's not practical to say the least.
I am curious, why do think it is not practical?
Caffeinated

Downers Grove, IL

#7 Mar 20, 2010
Sandra brought some credibility to Jesse James. Now that he is exposed as the pig that he is...Sandra needs to drop him and run. And don't look back.

Besides..anyone who is willing to leave steak for cat food isn't worth the time.
Caffeinated

Downers Grove, IL

#8 Mar 20, 2010
Sexy Swazi wrote:
It is really sad to see that very few people respect the sanctity of marriage these days. I am not referring to the random mistresses,(yes they do play their part). I am however referring to the men and women who are without thought taking light of the vows they took. What happend to love, honor and cherish?
Sadly, I think most men have their fingers crossed when they accept their vows. I don't care how rich, famous, intelligent, or beautiful a woman is...it seems that men can't stay faithful.

Women grow up with the fairy tale of "happily ever after", and men are taught that women are a conquest, and a trophy.

Many times, children are the kiss of death in a relationship. While the woman is feeling all warm and fuzzy inside...the man is disenchanted by his partners changing shape. I have seen more men cheat on their wives while they were pregnant than anything. Sad, but true.

In Sandra's case...I get the impression that Jesse is uncomfortable with her success...and that he feels less of a man because she is so successful. This affair seems very ego driven.

“If you don't like my attitude”

Since: Mar 10

bite me

#10 Mar 20, 2010
Sexy Swazi wrote:
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I am curious, why do think it is not practical?
I don't think marriage is practical overtime because the monotony of only having one person for a sexual and emotional connection seems very bland and restrictive to me. And,most marriages in America fail anyways,around 40% last and who knows how many married people out of the 40% are cheating or just staying together for children or money or whatever reason ?

“Experience is a great teacher”

Since: Mar 10

California

#11 Mar 20, 2010
Maverick81 wrote:
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I don't think marriage is practical overtime because the monotony of only having one person for a sexual and emotional connection seems very bland and restrictive to me. And,most marriages in America fail anyways,around 40% last and who knows how many married people out of the 40% are cheating or just staying together for children or money or whatever reason ?
I get the monotony, but in some cases I think it is about opportuntity. Let's compare marriage to one's career since a lot of people say that marriage is a lot of work. The vast majority of people do not end their careers (and I am not referring to jobs) because it has become monotonous. I am sure having the same partner every day may seem unappealling and for most boring. Maybe this may be my naivety but why not role play with the significant other. Have them don on a wig, a different attire and maybe a different personality to bring the spice back into the relationship. I just think that cheating is the easy way.

“If you don't like my attitude”

Since: Mar 10

bite me

#12 Mar 20, 2010
Sexy Swazi wrote:
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I get the monotony, but in some cases I think it is about opportuntity. Let's compare marriage to one's career since a lot of people say that marriage is a lot of work. The vast majority of people do not end their careers (and I am not referring to jobs) because it has become monotonous. I am sure having the same partner every day may seem unappealling and for most boring. Maybe this may be my naivety but why not role play with the significant other. Have them don on a wig, a different attire and maybe a different personality to bring the spice back into the relationship. I just think that cheating is the easy way.
I get what you're saying,but unlike having to work to survive ,and where just walking away from one's job because it's monotonous can lead to serious survival issues and a poorer quality of life.People don't have to obligate themselves to marriage in the same way with the same risk. I am sure many people would quit their careers if something better came along or if they never had to work again because they hate the monotony of their job.

I think role playing and dress up sounds awesome,but even that would get boring after a while with the same person.It doesn't replace the new feeling people get when they're connecting with someone new.

Since: Jul 09

Harrisburg, IL

#13 Mar 20, 2010
I have a friend who's 2nd wife never did and from what I've heard, has never understood the concept of marriage. When they were married, she acted like they were not married and still dating. She'd call him up and ask, "can I see you?" He'd be like, "Yeah honey, just come home..." You see, she'd practically avoid staying at their home together. Instead, she'd spend most of her time at her parent's house or her own children's home from a previous marriage, or get this...other lovers places as well. Yeah, she had a huge problem with infidelity. And this woman was in her late 30s/early 40s at the time. And now she'd been married and divorced at least two more times since her divorce from my friend in '02. Ironically, my friend has also had his share of marriages and divorces since then too. His 3rd wife turned out to be a drunk, and his 4th wife was an abusive bipolar patient, who ironically is a nurse herself! This woman is a mess...she can turn on a dime moodwise...one minute she wants to be with you, the next she's throwing you out of the house at the snap of a hat. She's in her late 40s.
GentleGyant

Yellow Springs, OH

#14 Mar 21, 2010
Sexy Swazi wrote:
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I get the monotony, but in some cases I think it is about opportuntity. Let's compare marriage to one's career since a lot of people say that marriage is a lot of work. The vast majority of people do not end their careers (and I am not referring to jobs) because it has become monotonous. I am sure having the same partner every day may seem unappealling and for most boring. Maybe this may be my naivety but why not role play with the significant other. Have them don on a wig, a different attire and maybe a different personality to bring the spice back into the relationship. I just think that cheating is the easy way.
Good answer, but I tend to take the root cause back a bit further. I see way too many people entering into relationships (including marriage) without an honest understanding of their SELF! Sometimes these people share very little in common and may not even appear to LIKE one another, let alone truly Love one another. How many times have you seen someone in an abusive relationship say "But I Love him/her!"

Having said that, I think an awful lot of relationships are considerably better founded than my previous example, but they still have elements of an abusive or neglectful relationship. I'm a very monogamous person - that's just the way I am - and the idea of seriously considering cheating would be a big red flag that I need to get my priorities straight and make some serious decisions. Considering the fact that their marriage has been relatively short, I think Jesse didn't bother to really think his decision to propose through. He just wasn't ready to commit his life and soul to Sandra from the start.
Angel

Charlotte, NC

#16 Mar 21, 2010
Caffeinated wrote:
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Sadly, I think most men have their fingers crossed when they accept their vows. I don't care how rich, famous, intelligent, or beautiful a woman is...it seems that men can't stay faithful.
Women grow up with the fairy tale of "happily ever after", and men are taught that women are a conquest, and a trophy.
Many times, children are the kiss of death in a relationship. While the woman is feeling all warm and fuzzy inside...the man is disenchanted by his partners changing shape. I have seen more men cheat on their wives while they were pregnant than anything. Sad, but true.
In Sandra's case...I get the impression that Jesse is uncomfortable with her success...and that he feels less of a man because she is so successful. This affair seems very ego driven.
You're probably right. It leads those insecure men to suffer from the hiscoxadroppin -- or is it hisdixadrupin syndrome and it seems they have to look for an immediate fix. Sandra should throw him out on the street where he belongs.

“Experience is a great teacher”

Since: Mar 10

California

#17 Mar 21, 2010
Maverick81 wrote:
<quoted text>
I get what you're saying,but unlike having to work to survive ,and where just walking away from one's job because it's monotonous can lead to serious survival issues and a poorer quality of life.People don't have to obligate themselves to marriage in the same way with the same risk. I am sure many people would quit their careers if something better came along or if they never had to work again because they hate the monotony of their job.
I think role playing and dress up sounds awesome,but even that would get boring after a while with the same person.It doesn't replace the new feeling people get when they're connecting with someone new.
I understand what you are saying, but I am stuck on one point...your last sentence. Is it that one may be addicted to the euphoric feeling which we feel when we first meet someone and when we first fall in love with someone? The feeling itself can be similiar to that of a drug without narcotics. And if that is the feeling we are constantly trying to recreate, than no, you will not find it with that same person. But I believe in unconditional in which the person with whom you have fallen so madly in love with through the good and the bad times, still renders you speechless with a mere touch or words. People choose to be faithful and or to cheat. I don't adovocate for anyone to remain in a relationship in which they are not happy, but are majority of these marriages failing because one is no longer happy, or because one seeks to have "one" aspect fulfilled, whatever that may be.
Angel

Charlotte, NC

#18 Mar 21, 2010
flyboy wrote:
<quoted text>The truth of the matter is, most people really aren't built for marriage. Doesn't mean they can't do it, or cheating is acceptable. But most people don't marry realizing what the actual responsibilities are, and the full scope of how your life changes after the vows. And in turn, most people cannot handle those responsibilities, and aren't ready for the changes to their lives. The married lifestyle and all of it's intricacies are too much for most people to bear. And this is what happens.
Too much to bear? Oh, I get it; you're another weakling. Be sure to tell that to women right away so she can reject your sorry butt.

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