Sex tips for married men: Think like ...

Sex tips for married men: Think like you're single

There are 13 comments on the Salon.com story from Jul 28, 2010, titled Sex tips for married men: Think like you're single. In it, Salon.com reports that:

I don't listen to my married friends anymore when they complain about their sex lives.

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Married Guy

Pasadena, CA

#1 Jul 29, 2010
When the wives starts bitching, start using sex as a weapon, or refuse to put out, the best solution is just to find a few hos on the side.

Since: Jan 08

Location hidden

#2 Jul 29, 2010
Married Guy wrote:
When the wives starts bitching, start using sex as a weapon, or refuse to put out, the best solution is just to find a few hos on the side.
Married men thinking they are single:EXACTLY THE PROBLEM with married relationships.

“guess who Lois?”

Since: Dec 06

A little hole in the wall.

#3 Jul 29, 2010
chizmarlan wrote:
<quoted text>Married men thinking they are single:EXACTLY THE PROBLEM with married relationships.
did yuo read the article???

The point was not what you seem to think it is.

I will explain the point of the story ... Married men tend to get into a rut and they stop doing the things with thier wives to woo them that they did when they were single .. and so the relationship grows stale. THus the wife stops wanting sex, because it is the same-old, same-old.

The writer suggests that men need to renew their drive "to get laid" to the levels they used when they were single ...

He is not talking about cheating, or anything like that.

The first poster made a point however ... some women could care less how hard their husbands try to be interesting and original ... they prefer if their husbands remain semi-abstinant and no amount of effort on the man's part can get her to have regular sex with him .. althuogh she did it with him regularily when they were single .. because back then SHE was trying to lure herself a husband .. but now that she has him, she won't do what SHE used to do ... the poster was making a point also ... it takes two to tango ... a woman must be open to responding favorably to the ongoing wooing of her husband for it to work ...

Since: Jan 08

Location hidden

#4 Jul 30, 2010
franko wrote:
<quoted text>did yuo read the article???
The point was not what you seem to think it is.
I will explain the point of the story ... Married men tend to get into a rut and they stop doing the things with thier wives to woo them that they did when they were single .. and so the relationship grows stale. THus the wife stops wanting sex, because it is the same-old, same-old.
The writer suggests that men need to renew their drive "to get laid" to the levels they used when they were single ...
He is not talking about cheating, or anything like that.
The first poster made a point however ... some women could care less how hard their husbands try to be interesting and original ... they prefer if their husbands remain semi-abstinant and no amount of effort on the man's part can get her to have regular sex with him .. althuogh she did it with him regularily when they were single .. because back then SHE was trying to lure herself a husband .. but now that she has him, she won't do what SHE used to do ... the poster was making a point also ... it takes two to tango ... a woman must be open to responding favorably to the ongoing wooing of her husband for it to work ...
I understand.
Married Guy

Pasadena, CA

#5 Jul 30, 2010
chizmarlan wrote:
<quoted text>Married men thinking they are single:EXACTLY THE PROBLEM with married relationships.
Wives need to understand that sex is EXTREMELY important to most men! If they don't put out, the men will still be horny as hell, and thus will look for other sexual outlets.
Joe Bob

El Reno, OK

#6 Jul 30, 2010
Married Guy wrote:
<quoted text> Wives need to understand that sex is EXTREMELY important to most men! If they don't put out, the men will still be horny as hell, and thus will look for other sexual outlets.
And exactly how to get them to see it....the $64,000 question. When a woman starts out with a low "drive".....you're really gonna be in trouble later! I know....and very little you do is going to help.

“in the night , and I'll never”

Since: Jul 10

stop loving you

#7 Jul 30, 2010
Joe Bob wrote:
<quoted text>
And exactly how to get them to see it....the $64,000 question. When a woman starts out with a low "drive".....you're really gonna be in trouble later! I know....and very little you do is going to help.
WOO her! Did you not bestow kind words and getures to her before you married? Trust me, sexual desire for us women begins in the mind. Even if you choke on it make a few comments that will make her feel good about herself and lets her know you care and you are paying attention. Perhaps try "Damn you look good baby", "You don't realize just how much you turn me on", "I love your hair", "You inspire me", "God, you smell good", "Thank you for going by the cleaners".
Do a few chores that you never do. Wash a load of clothes, dust, carry the trash out without being asked. Ask her if yall need anything from the grocery store and go pick it up, get in the kitchen and cook the meal with her or volunteer to clean after the meal. See where I'm going with this? See to it that she is happy before you start thinking about the physical act of sex.
When she is ready for sex by all means give her at least one orgasm before you think about yours. We need our's too. Hope that helps with the question.

“Rudeness is the weak man's”

Since: Nov 08

imitation of strength.

#8 Jul 30, 2010
Everyone's situation is different. It's always easier to tell others what they are doing wrong.

For some guys talking about their situation helps them feel better.

Also some guys whine to other women hoping they will help them out. More times than not they find someone more than willing.

If a man doesn't get what he needs at home 9 times out of 10 he'll find it elsewhere.

Since: Jul 10

England

#9 Jul 30, 2010
Married Guy wrote:
<quoted text> Wives need to understand that sex is EXTREMELY important to most men! If they don't put out, the men will still be horny as hell, and thus will look for other sexual outlets.
Works both ways .
When the passion ends which it usually does after the honeymoon period, both the man and the woman have to make the effort to keep the spark alive.

“guess who Lois?”

Since: Dec 06

A little hole in the wall.

#10 Jul 31, 2010
Married Guy wrote:
<quoted text> Wives need to understand that sex is EXTREMELY important to most men! If they don't put out, the men will still be horny as hell, and thus will look for other sexual outlets.
I find there are different attitudes between cultures, but it comes down to individuals.

American women are all over the map ... some could care less if their man wants (or needs) sex ... whatever she wants is how it's gonna go.

SOme American women, and most esatern women, seem to undestand that a happy man is a man who is sexually satisfied, and as the wife they see it as their role to make sure thier husband is not sexually frustrated.

Since: Jan 08

Location hidden

#11 Jul 31, 2010
franko wrote:
<quoted text>I find there are different attitudes between cultures, but it comes down to individuals.
American women are all over the map ... some could care less if their man wants (or needs) sex ... whatever she wants is how it's gonna go.
SOme American women, and most esatern women, seem to undestand that a happy man is a man who is sexually satisfied, and as the wife they see it as their role to make sure thier husband is not sexually frustrated.
THAT sums it up;and the reason why over 50% of committed relationships fail.Relationship based soley on the physical sex act,will never succeed.SEX sounds good,looks good,feels good;however,the larges sex organ on our bodies is our Brain;not what dangles below.
rhiannon

Dayton, OH

#12 Sep 2, 2012
hey girl our you going to the mall this week and i love the dog stuff i was talking tou mat and they did not tipe well i dint look wet
rhiannon

Dayton, OH

#13 Sep 2, 2012
i mean guy i thouthg thow text wier funny lol
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