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CominUpNowToday

Elizabethtown, KY

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Aug 26, 2011
 

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You're wrong for keeping my son a secret from me for over 4 years.

You're wrong for making the courts think that I abandoned you and ran from my respsonsibilities.

I remember clearly the day you and your mother told me I had to leave and move back to KY but you never gave me a reason why. I know now, that you knew you were pregnant and believed it was another man's child.

You should be ashamed of yourself for how you have handled this situation over the past 6 years. Issiah has family here that he deserves to know aswell and it all comes out in the wash.

I have Christmas cards/Birthday cards/letters/pictures and other items that have been returned in the mail as 'undeliverable/no forward address'

I know you're mother lied in court about her contact information to keep me away from our son.

I know you hate it when I refer to Issiah as 'our' son and I do it because I hate the fact you have kept him from me and me from him for so long.

I have faithfully paid my support each and every month over the past 4 years and you won't even budge to be leniant with giving me your phone number so I can talk to Issiah.

Oh yeah, I have a copy where you told the caseworker you weren't interested in my contact information too.

It's going in Issiah's folder beside the hotel recipt for when I came to Wisconsin to see him and you failed to show. How you like those apples??

Do you ever stop to think about what Issiah will think of you when he grows older?? Do you ever think that maybe he needs a father figure in his life??

I don't want anything from you, you have nothing I need. I simply want my son and daughter to have the chance to know their brother that they never see or hear from. I simply want my grandmother to meet her great grandson before it's too late.

As you sit there with your smirk across your face each and every time you shoot down any attempt I have at a relationship with Issiah you're not only punishing me but, you're punishing our son.

It is sad to think that your selfish and personal vendictive attitude is going to hinder Issiah's growth as a human being.

I hope that one day he will forgive you and your mother for these actions.

I sure know when he does get older and when he does come looking for me, I'll have not only answers but proof that I tried. He will see that you intentionally kept him and myself apart.

You know who I am, and you know who you are in this thread. You know how to contact me, it's been there for years...nothing's changed.
Old Dude

Waukesha, WI

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Sep 10, 2011
 
Come up here and request through the courts for visitation rights.
You do have a right to see your son, but the longer you wait the harder it is. Bring all your paperwork to prove to the courts that you have been trying for years to see your son.
Or if you want to "force" her to court "Stop" paying her (but put the money aside) and let her take you to court.
CominUpNowToday

Elizabethtown, KY

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Sep 14, 2011
 
I requested the courts for visitation rights the day paternity/support was established. They gave it to me through the grandmother whom gave false information to the courts.
Not paying my support intentionally does nothing positive, it takes away from Issiah and opens up a new can of worms through the court system.
His birthday was yesterday, he's getting big....I put his 'Happy 9th Birthday' card in his folder for safe keeping, saved a stamp this year :)
All I can do is continue to do what I can do and pray that one day, he's compassionate enough to hear the reasons of why and honest enough to know the truth.
I wish I would win the lottery, i'd start an 800 number for fathers who actually try to be fathers. Keep a team of family law experts retained for the ones who need the help but can't afford the services.

P.S. I say a prayer for you sometimes when I think about our son. I pray that our son truly has the compassion to forgive you. I pray that you never feel the pain of having a child that you can never hug, touch, embrace or praise. I pray for you.
Old Dude

Waukesha, WI

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Sep 18, 2011
 
Issiah is not getting the support $$$ anyway, his mother is spending it.
I say withold it, put it aside, force a court hearing and explain to the judge,via a lawyer,this was the only way you could get a chance to explain your side of the story to the court. Have your atty. handle it, he will be much better at it than you will be and can explain it better in legal terms.
Don't give up hope, but you need to force a court appearance.
I would think that if you hired a "local" atty. he could petition the court for visitation rights on your behalf, especially with all the evidence you have. This would also force her into court to explain herself. Remember you need really strong evidence of what she has done and said to prevent you from seeing your son. Get noterized statement from all who can prove your side of the argument or even better have these people show up in court. Serve papers on her side and when they "lie" under oath bring out your evidence to show they are lying.
The threat of jail for lying under oath might just make them tell the truth for a change.

My brother spent years and thousand to get his kids away from his "ex" he had the evidence to prove his case by hiring a private investigator, but it worked and both kids were given to my brother.

Best of Luck.
ComingUpNowToday

Elizabethtown, KY

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Oct 6, 2011
 
I thought about you today and I wondered how things were at home and in your life. I wish I could ask you but I can't :( So I'm writting for the world to see.

Your brother asked about you today, he asks more frequent as he's getting older. He thinks about you each time he sees the photo in my wallet.

Your sister started crawling and just yesterday, she started to pull up and stand. She's getting so big so fast.

With Halloween approaching, I've wondered what you would be. Your brother wants to dress up as a soldier and we're dressing your sister up as a lady bug.

We're going camping this weekend and I think you would really enjoy it too. We'll be at Church Hill Downs with the local Scout pack doing activities and seeing the horses train. Do you enjoy camping?

I have to leave soon to get the items ready before tomorrow.

I just wanted to tell someone I was thinking of you.

Love,
Dad
ComingUpNowToday

Irvington, KY

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Nov 4, 2011
 
Hey bud!

Saw someone at the store today wearing a Badgers sweat shirt and oddly enough it made me stop and think about you. Wondering how you are today, it's chilly outside and the forecast has called for snow. Have you all gotten any snow yet?

I sent you a card the other day to the caseworker that handles our custody/child support case. Unfortunately, it was returned by her with a note stating she wouldn't be able to forward it to your mother's 'super-secret-m.i.a-unpublishe d' address. It's crazy.

Thanksgiving is coming soon, what are some of your favorite foods? I miss you everyday and I wish I could hug you and tell you how much I love you.

I just wanted to tell someone I was thinking of you.

Love,
Dad
ComingUpNowToday

Irvington, KY

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Dec 7, 2011
 
Tis the season son, I hope all is well with you and your family. I hope you've mailed out your list to Santa already, the Post Office tends to back up a bit this time of year.

Kaleb asked if we could invite you to his 7th birthday party and I told him we'd send you an invitation...I won't tell him if it comes back, I'll tell him it's too far for you to come...

Every time I get on here to write something, I feel lost. I can't talk to you, I can't see you, and I can't even hear your voice...sometimes it's hard to even articulate what I'm trying to say anymore.

I'm stuck in a hard spot and I can't get anyone to help locate you. They call it the 'Freedom of information Act' apparently, they can enforce the child support but I have to enforce my visitation. Seems one sided to me...but eh, I'll just have to keep plugging away at trying to find you.

Aubree is getting bigger, she's starting to walk along the couch a lot more and has started to use more words..it's awesome. I tell her about you too and show her some of the pictures I managed to snag over the years but, she's too young right now to know.

I'll look Northwest again tonight and gaze at the stars..I'll pray for your understanding when we meet. I pray your in a safe place and you're treated fairly.

I'm wishing you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

Love,
Dad
ComingUpNowToday

Irvington, KY

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#8
Jan 23, 2012
 
Hey son,

Just thought about you today more so than normal and decided to bump this thread for the world to see.

I'm watching Kaleb and Aubree run around and play today and it brings up a lot of joy and pain at the same time. It's beautiful to see kids enjoy their siblings company even if there is such a large age gap between those two. It's also painful to wonder what kind of relationship you may of had with Kaleb. It's not fair to either of you to not have known each other throughout your childhood. I can't change that and I wish I could've so please know that :)

I hope all is well for you today and tomorrow is brighter than today. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers each and everyday.

Love,
Dad
ComingUpNowToday

Irvington, KY

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Feb 13, 2012
 
Hey son,

Just had you on my mind the past few days and I wanted to write and tell the world I LOVE YOU.

I hope all is going good for you so far this year. How's school? hopefully it's good, hopefully the subjects are easy and the work isn't too hard.

Tomorrow is Valentine's Day, do you have a special Valentine? Kaleb is sending you and your brother a card this year and he's looking each day in the box for one from you. It's okay though, I'll explain it to him again but it's just so hard at his age to understand why we aren't all together or why we can't ever spend time together. It's not your fault either so please realize that bud.

The courts denied me a modification in my visitation again. They cited that I must establish a better relationship with you first. Which is hard to do because I don't know where you are and they won't tell me :( They say I must do my own investigative work to locate you and your mother. They told me your mother hadn't updated her address for over 6 years which sounds about right since that would be the last address I have and would explain the returned mail.

Good news though! You're having another little brother in June/May of this year. We aren't sure what we're going to name him yet but we're narrowing the choices down. Do you like Wesley Blake?

The 27th of January was Aubree's 12month old party and we had a blast. I wish you were able to attend it and take part of all the festivities. She had cake all over her face and clothes but it was well worth the mess :)

Take care of yourself until the next time I write you. Be nice to your brother and always love your mother for who she is as a person.

I love you and I hope all is well in your part of the world.

Love,
Dad
ComingUpNowToday

Irvington, KY

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Mar 12, 2012
 
Hey,

Just bumping this thread so everyone in Milwaukee can see that I haven't given up on you.

I know you haven't heard from me in a while and I'm sorry that is what our relationship has become but I've done what I can.

I spoke with the case worker again this past week and it's the same old excuse after another. They won't provide me with your information. They say your mother hasn't changed her address in 6 years but THAT address is returned as "Insufficient" "No forwarding address" It's a shame she acts like this.

They told me the statue of limitations has expired too on perjury for your grandmother. I wish I would've known the lies she told that day were under oath.

I hope all is well in your part of the world and I hope you're doing good in school.

Until then.

Love,
Dad
ComingUpNowToday

Vine Grove, KY

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May 7, 2012
 
INJ,

I hope all is well with you going into the summer months. How was school this past year? I hope it went well and I hope you're looking forward to a fun-filled summer vacation.

Your younger brother will be here soon, we decided to name him Levi...like the jean :) He should be here on June 1st, and like your other two siblings I'll talk to him about you and tell him everything I know. I wish I knew more to talk about though, I wish I could show them updated pictures, I wish I could show them the things that interest you now.

I'm sure you're growing up so big and I bet I wouldn't even recognize you if I saw you. It saddens me that I can't call you or send you a card in the mail. There isn't a day that goes by and you don't cross my mind here in Kentucky. Kaleb asked me yesterday why he can't call you and I had to tell him because we didn't know your number. He wants me to ask your mother but I don't know how to get in contact with her. I tried but she told WISCTF that she wasn't interested, said her number hasn't changed. How idiotic for her to not think that maybe the number I had was lost or destroyed when I changed phones :(
It's probably the same ideology that you're better off with out this part of your lineage in your life too.

I love you buddy, hope all is well.

Dad
touched

Paducah, KY

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May 13, 2012
 
ComingUpNowToday wrote:
INJ,

I hope all is well with you going into the summer months. How was school this past year? I hope it went well and I hope you're looking forward to a fun-filled summer vacation.

Your younger brother will be here soon, we decided to name him Levi...like the jean :) He should be here on June 1st, and like your other two siblings I'll talk to him about you and tell him everything I know. I wish I knew more to talk about though, I wish I could show them updated pictures, I wish I could show them the things that interest you now.

I'm sure you're growing up so big and I bet I wouldn't even recognize you if I saw you. It saddens me that I can't call you or send you a card in the mail. There isn't a day that goes by and you don't cross my mind here in Kentucky. Kaleb asked me yesterday why he can't call you and I had to tell him because we didn't know your number. He wants me to ask your mother but I don't know how to get in contact with her. I tried but she told WISCTF that she wasn't interested, said her number hasn't changed. How idiotic for her to not think that maybe the number I had was lost or destroyed when I changed phones :(
It's probably the same ideology that you're better off with out this part of your lineage in your life too.

I love you buddy, hope all is well.

Dad
Wow, I guess I'll start by saying how touched and amazed I am by your letters to your son. I am a mother of two, I can't imagine not being in their lives so my heart completely goes out to you. I pray you find your son soon, but NEVER give up it will happen one day, God will make it happen! You keep praying too. God bless
ComingUpNowToday

Vine Grove, KY

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Aug 30, 2012
 
It's been a few months since I've sat down to update my thread to you. It's been too long actually. Since my last letter, you've become a big brother all over again. Your youngest sibling was born on May 23rd and was as healthy as an ox. He as well as your other brother & sister continue to grow and amaze Tasha and myself each day. I wish I could show you Kaleb, you'd be surprised at the resemblance you and him share.

I've tried to give your mother my contact information again through the WISCTF agency there in Wisconsin but she still isn't interested in contacting me or letting me contact you. I guess she grew tired of my attempts to message her off of facebook too because she either deleted her account or blocked myself from seeing her. I'm not here to bash her but it's very frustrating that she's denying you an opportunity at a relationship with myself & your other siblings.

I hope school is fun for you & that you're excelling with ease in your studies. Kaleb & I will look at the stars tonight and wonder if you see them too.

With love,
Dad
ComingUpNowToday

Vine Grove, KY

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Aug 30, 2012
 
touched wrote:
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Wow, I guess I'll start by saying how touched and amazed I am by your letters to your son. I am a mother of two, I can't imagine not being in their lives so my heart completely goes out to you. I pray you find your son soon, but NEVER give up it will happen one day, God will make it happen! You keep praying too. God bless
Thank you
ComingUpNowToday

Lexington, KY

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Dec 14, 2012
 
I haven't taken the time to really sit down and write you recently. I'm sorry. Things have just been crazy here, too much to really explain but one day I will.

I hope things are going good for you and your family. I hope you're ready for Christmas! Kaleb is extremely excited about it this year. He saved his chore money for a month and bought you and your little brother a gift. I don't have the heart to tell him you'll never receive it though -- it would break his heart :(

Your brothers and sister here will know about you. I speak to them frequently and we look at what pictures of you we do have. Your sister Aubree is always on the move. She's non stop climbing, running and playing as she grows. Levi will be 7 months old this month and Kaleb turns 8. He's getting so big, I wish you two knew each other.

We recently sold our home in Brandenburg and moved back to Lexington. I hope one day your mother will allow you to have contact with myself & this side of your heritage too.

How is school? Are the academics as easy for you as they are for Kaleb? I'd bet you're one of the smartest children in your school ;)

I miss you Issiah and words can't express how sad I am to see Kaleb grow and know that I'm missing out with you too. It's a bitter sweet feeling.

I hope you receive everything you want this year and I can't wait for you to find me when you're older!

I love you.
Dad
Carri

Milwaukee, WI

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Mar 7, 2014
 
Hi, My name is carri and I live in Milwaukee. I'm 16 years old. Do you think it's possible I could be going to the same school as him/ know people who know him?

Plus I noticed this thread is 2 years old, are there any new developments?:)

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