Soldier mom refuses to leave baby for...

Soldier mom refuses to leave baby for deployment

There are 20 comments on the Daily Citizen story from Nov 16, 2009, titled Soldier mom refuses to leave baby for deployment. In it, Daily Citizen reports that:

A Georgia-based Army cook who's also a single mother faces possible criminal charges after she refused to deploy to Afghanistan, saying she had no family members able to care for her 10-month-old son.

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fedupwiththemess

United States

#1 Nov 18, 2009
Women with babies don't belong in the army or any other military branch where they are subject to deployment. When women get pregnant or decide to have children they need to part with the military and find a regular civilian job that keeps them close to home. Women belong at home raising children. Now if they are single with no children then they are free to join the military of their choice.
George Burnett

AOL

#2 Dec 22, 2009
fedupwiththemess wrote:
Women with babies don't belong in the army or any other military branch where they are subject to deployment. When women get pregnant or decide to have children they need to part with the military and find a regular civilian job that keeps them close to home. Women belong at home raising children. Now if they are single with no children then they are free to join the military of their choice.
The Army should deploy her ass to Afganistan;and put the infant into foster care.It would serve notice to the other Army female "soldiers" with imaginary child care plans that military service is serious business.
veteran of army

Hephzibah, GA

#3 Jan 8, 2010
both of you need to close your mouths and keep your thoughts to yourself. I was once a human resource in the army, meaning knowing policies and processing such discussions as this one. Military has a policy for family care plan and this is their fault. the first thing military is suppose to do is put our family first. i am now a spouse a to army personnel. they have discharges for this woman and change of duty station policies. they are fucking over this woman. you can speak because unlike you both you never been a soldier and therfore do not know how it feels. so keep your stupidty thoughts in your weak ass brain. like i said you join. and what law states a woman has to be home. you probably don't have one, or getting ranned over by your spouse or girlfriend. this is ridicilous and i refuse to waste anymore of my time on this!!!!
George Burnett

AOL

#4 Jan 11, 2010
veteran of army wrote:
both of you need to close your mouths and keep your thoughts to yourself. I was once a human resource in the army, meaning knowing policies and processing such discussions as this one. Military has a policy for family care plan and this is their fault. the first thing military is suppose to do is put our family first. i am now a spouse a to army personnel. they have discharges for this woman and change of duty station policies. they are fucking over this woman. you can speak because unlike you both you never been a soldier and therfore do not know how it feels. so keep your stupidty thoughts in your weak ass brain. like i said you join. and what law states a woman has to be home. you probably don't have one, or getting ranned over by your spouse or girlfriend. this is ridicilous and i refuse to waste anymore of my time on this!!!!
Dumbass excuses for a dumbass woman.Either too damn stupid to use birth control;or deliberately pregnant.Useless either way.A dependant in uniform;NOT A SOLDIER!!!
fedupwiththemess

United States

#5 Jan 11, 2010
Women with children don't belong in the military.
Linda

Savannah, GA

#6 Jan 26, 2010
Im a military wife with 2 kids and i know Hutchinson very well actually she was young when she joined the Army and ended up getting pregnant it was her choice to find a family care provider or leave her son with someone she could trust not always a family member but also an FCC provider or a close friend. She choose not to deploy on the day she was supposed to with my husband because as a mother you would do anything for your child/ren as i would die before someone hurts mine you have to look at it in 2 ways, yea she should have tried to get out but with the economy these days the benifits were good for her and her son.
fedupwiththemess

United States

#7 Jan 26, 2010
Linda wrote:
Im a military wife with 2 kids and i know Hutchinson very well actually she was young when she joined the Army and ended up getting pregnant it was her choice to find a family care provider or leave her son with someone she could trust not always a family member but also an FCC provider or a close friend. She choose not to deploy on the day she was supposed to with my husband because as a mother you would do anything for your child/ren as i would die before someone hurts mine you have to look at it in 2 ways, yea she should have tried to get out but with the economy these days the benifits were good for her and her son.
Should not have had a baby. Women with children do not belong in the military. its not for them. Sorry.
fedupwiththemess

United States

#8 Jan 26, 2010
As a mother would you enlist in the military with no husband??
Army Wife05

Savannah, GA

#9 Mar 23, 2010
veteran of army wrote:
both of you need to close your mouths and keep your thoughts to yourself. I was once a human resource in the army, meaning knowing policies and processing such discussions as this one. Military has a policy for family care plan and this is their fault. the first thing military is suppose to do is put our family first. i am now a spouse a to army personnel. they have discharges for this woman and change of duty station policies. they are fucking over this woman. you can speak because unlike you both you never been a soldier and therfore do not know how it feels. so keep your stupidty thoughts in your weak ass brain. like i said you join. and what law states a woman has to be home. you probably don't have one, or getting ranned over by your spouse or girlfriend. this is ridicilous and i refuse to waste anymore of my time on this!!!!
I totally agree wit u they really do need to shut there mouths and get a life cuz if they was n the same boat, im pretty sure they wouldnt want anybody down talkin them. They dont understand and they dont know how it fells and like u said there not in the military and they probably dont have any kids nor a girlfriend. I went through the same problem b4 i giot married and my daughters father didnt want to care for her while i deploy but luckily one of my aunts took my daughter in and I was able to deploy. Im out the army now but my husband is in the army.
GetLikeMe

Savannah, GA

#10 Mar 23, 2010
Men now and days are stupid they think this is still the old times and women is suppose to bow down to there every command. I was rapped and had a baby from my rappist, i refused a abortion and i refused adoption, I joined the army afterwards and I didnt have anybody to keep my child cuz I didnt trust anybody but my mom took her in anyway despite the fact of what happened, So basically if u dont have anybody helpin u take care of ur kids and u feel the military is the right choice then it shouldnt b a problem, it dosent say anywhere in the bi-laws that a female shouldnt join so yall need to shut the hell up
fedupwiththemess

United States

#11 Mar 24, 2010
Linda wrote:
Im a military wife with 2 kids and i know Hutchinson very well actually she was young when she joined the Army and ended up getting pregnant it was her choice to find a family care provider or leave her son with someone she could trust not always a family member but also an FCC provider or a close friend. She choose not to deploy on the day she was supposed to with my husband because as a mother you would do anything for your child/ren as i would die before someone hurts mine you have to look at it in 2 ways, yea she should have tried to get out but with the economy these days the benifits were good for her and her son.
Women with children don't belong in the military period.
fedupwiththemess

United States

#12 Mar 24, 2010
GetLikeMe wrote:
Men now and days are stupid they think this is still the old times and women is suppose to bow down to there every command. I was rapped and had a baby from my rappist, i refused a abortion and i refused adoption, I joined the army afterwards and I didnt have anybody to keep my child cuz I didnt trust anybody but my mom took her in anyway despite the fact of what happened, So basically if u dont have anybody helpin u take care of ur kids and u feel the military is the right choice then it shouldnt b a problem, it dosent say anywhere in the bi-laws that a female shouldnt join so yall need to shut the hell up
always exceptions to the rule, however women with babies belong at home with those babies. Get another job or don't get pregnant without a husband....now.
fedupwiththemess

United States

#13 Mar 24, 2010
Army Wife05 wrote:
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I totally agree wit u they really do need to shut there mouths and get a life cuz if they was n the same boat, im pretty sure they wouldnt want anybody down talkin them. They dont understand and they dont know how it fells and like u said there not in the military and they probably dont have any kids nor a girlfriend. I went through the same problem b4 i giot married and my daughters father didnt want to care for her while i deploy but luckily one of my aunts took my daughter in and I was able to deploy. Im out the army now but my husband is in the army.
Women with children do not belong in the military fighting a mans war. You have babies put your family first and stay you ass home and take care of them. you had them...you layed down and made them...you knew.
george barnett

United States

#14 Mar 24, 2010
Linda wrote:
Im a military wife with 2 kids and i know Hutchinson very well actually she was young when she joined the Army and ended up getting pregnant it was her choice to find a family care provider or leave her son with someone she could trust not always a family member but also an FCC provider or a close friend. She choose not to deploy on the day she was supposed to with my husband because as a mother you would do anything for your child/ren as i would die before someone hurts mine you have to look at it in 2 ways, yea she should have tried to get out but with the economy these days the benifits were good for her and her son.
Just making excuses for the useless.
fedupwiththemess

United States

#15 Mar 26, 2010
Women with babies belong at home and not in the military.
Brittany

Fairfax, VA

#16 Oct 9, 2010
She was not pregnant when she joined....she ended up getting pregnant afterwards. It isnt like she can decide to get out because she got pregnant. She would still have to stay in until her contract is up.
fedupwiththemess wrote:
As a mother would you enlist in the military with no husband??
Brittany

Fairfax, VA

#17 Oct 9, 2010
@ fedup and George sexist much? It sucks that your heads are stuck up ur asses. The least you two could do is show respect for the women that serve because they are in the military to serve and protect. If it were a man's war they wouldn't be accepting women into the military. Stop being ignorant and realize that we do not live back in the times where men wore the pants and provided. Look around u, I believe women can contribute to the military just as good as any man can.
Choice

Savannah, GA

#18 Mar 23, 2012
Brittany wrote:
She was not pregnant when she joined....she ended up getting pregnant afterwards. It isnt like she can decide to get out because she got pregnant. She would still have to stay in until her contract is up. <quoted text>
Actually she can could have ended her contract if she wanted under "Chapter 8" pregnancy. Educate yourself. If you get pregnant in the service, as a female are given the choice to exit OR must have a "family care plan" (someone to care for your child) so you can deploy. She reused BOTH options afforded to her. She was an idiot.
SGT

Korea

#19 Jul 7, 2012
They shouldn't let sexist pigs in the Army either but hey what can you do
JOJO

Merrimack, NH

#20 Jul 7, 2012
fedupwiththemess wrote:
Women with children don't belong in the military.
Seriously! so what happens if there's single fathers with sole custody of their children or windowed fathers were to be deployed! Are you gonna blast them by saying they shouldn't be in the military or maybe they should have used protection. While i was in i knew plenty of single fathers who cared for their children! they pose the same issues just not as often as women do.

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