tpr

Columbia, MO

#1 Sep 14, 2007
My girlfriend and I have an amazing sexual life together over the past 4 months. However, just recently there have been a couple of incidences where we have been engaged in sex in the morning, and I was not able to ejaculate while having vaginal or oral sex with her, as well as her stroking me with her hand. Finally, she basically gave up and watched me masturbate for about 5 minutes, stroking as hard as I possibly could, until I reached climax.(which was just painful and not romantic in any way!)
The first time, we started, but then I got up and went pee, then came back and it just would not happen. The second time, I had already gotten up and peed, and we began fooling around. I actually was hard three different times (we tried for a while, then stopped and fooled around, then tried again) and still no ejaculation.
The biggest issue is she is taking it personally that she is not satisfying me. For me, making her climax about 10 times both mornings was satisfying enough, but she really wanted me to come, so I masturbated. However, it is now a thorn in my side and I want to know why this is an issue recently?
I have normal health issues, am about 30-40 lbs overweight, but exercise regularly (run about 3 times a week), don't drink excessively, and have normal blood pressure. I have recently had some back issues (about the last 5 weeks) and have been going to physical therapy for my lower back pain. It does not impeed our sex life however.
Any advice? Please help me figure out my morning dilemmas!?!?!?
sconicca

London, UK

#2 Oct 2, 2007
its nice to hear were not alone we have a very good sex life and my husband has no problem ejaculating at any time of the day but morning sex always ends up the same! any tips from anyone?
kevin

United States

#3 Oct 9, 2007
tpr wrote:
My girlfriend and I have an amazing sexual life together over the past 4 months. However, just recently there have been a couple of incidences where we have been engaged in sex in the morning, and I was not able to ejaculate while having vaginal or oral sex with her, as well as her stroking me with her hand. Finally, she basically gave up and watched me masturbate for about 5 minutes, stroking as hard as I possibly could, until I reached climax.(which was just painful and not romantic in any way!)
The first time, we started, but then I got up and went pee, then came back and it just would not happen. The second time, I had already gotten up and peed, and we began fooling around. I actually was hard three different times (we tried for a while, then stopped and fooled around, then tried again) and still no ejaculation.
The biggest issue is she is taking it personally that she is not satisfying me. For me, making her climax about 10 times both mornings was satisfying enough, but she really wanted me to come, so I masturbated. However, it is now a thorn in my side and I want to know why this is an issue recently?
I have normal health issues, am about 30-40 lbs overweight, but exercise regularly (run about 3 times a week), don't drink excessively, and have normal blood pressure. I have recently had some back issues (about the last 5 weeks) and have been going to physical therapy for my lower back pain. It does not impeed our sex life however.
Any advice? Please help me figure out my morning dilemmas!?!?!?
interesting!
karen

United States

#4 Oct 9, 2007
tpr wrote:
My girlfriend and I have an amazing sexual life together over the past 4 months. However, just recently there have been a couple of incidences where we have been engaged in sex in the morning, and I was not able to ejaculate while having vaginal or oral sex with her, as well as her stroking me with her hand. Finally, she basically gave up and watched me masturbate for about 5 minutes, stroking as hard as I possibly could, until I reached climax.(which was just painful and not romantic in any way!)
The first time, we started, but then I got up and went pee, then came back and it just would not happen. The second time, I had already gotten up and peed, and we began fooling around. I actually was hard three different times (we tried for a while, then stopped and fooled around, then tried again) and still no ejaculation.
The biggest issue is she is taking it personally that she is not satisfying me. For me, making her climax about 10 times both mornings was satisfying enough, but she really wanted me to come, so I masturbated. However, it is now a thorn in my side and I want to know why this is an issue recently?
I have normal health issues, am about 30-40 lbs overweight, but exercise regularly (run about 3 times a week), don't drink excessively, and have normal blood pressure. I have recently had some back issues (about the last 5 weeks) and have been going to physical therapy for my lower back pain. It does not impeed our sex life however.
Any advice? Please help me figure out my morning dilemmas!?!?!?
sounds great!
paul

UK

#5 Oct 21, 2007
start having sex at 11:30am then aim to finish after 12 then you can have the best of both worlds.
Sconica paignton

UK

#6 Jun 20, 2008
Sconica, newton abbot. Perhaps Jan would be helpful here
Sconica paignton

UK

#7 Jun 20, 2008
Normally managed mid day no worries ! but New Years Day more problematic especially so early, LOL
Frank DO

Astoria, NY

#8 May 27, 2010
Arousal is actually as much mental as it is physical. When you wake up in the morning, even if you have been up for an hour, your body is still recovering from the deep sleep beta waves.

Your blood flow is also not fully "active", meaning that is will be harder to maintain a full erection and it will be harder to finish. You mind's electrical activity is not at 100%, meaning erotic mental stimulation will only be fractional. Once you don't feel in that sleepy post-wake up mood anymore and are more alert, everything will work fine. Caffeine may help with this, but only in small quantities.

Since: May 10

Location hidden

#9 May 29, 2010
Go to Doctor
Same here

Seaside, CA

#11 Jun 21, 2011
It's good to know I'm no alone! I have a VERY high sex drive but mornings just don't work for me. Any time My wife and I have sex in the morning we find ourselves enjoying it then she gets disappointed when she has an orgasm and finds out I didn't. She just ends up laying there while I thrust for what seems like forever, and I can't reach orgasm! Sometimes I will Finnish in her after a long while but sometimes she gets so uncomfortable from the repeated thrusting that I have to take it out and masturbate vigorously just to reach orgasm. She let's me put it back inside her when I finally do get to that point which at least somewhat exciting for me... It always goes this way. The odd thing is I have woken up in the middle of the night and had amazing sex with her. So I don't get why mornings are so difficult?
Riskyrob

Shelby, OH

#13 Feb 17, 2012
I have always had the same problem thought it was just me. Even masturbating I don't ejaculate
John

Barnet, UK

#14 Mar 19, 2012
Me too, now I am a bit older (55) I have the same problem. Often wake up with a stiffy but when I reach the point where I used to come, it just goes flaccid. We still enjoy it but there's no happy ending! Works much better around 2pm.
Tlkin

Louisville, OH

#15 Apr 7, 2012
Same here. I have desire in morning but after trying and trying I often give up out of exhaustion. At noon I could finish in about 30 seconds. Was on celexa once. Did same thing. Desire and erection. No climax.
Good to know its not that odd. I'm 40 btw.
O ya

Evansville, IN

#16 Sep 2, 2012
Get up an eat a snack. That seems to help me if I get food in my system

Since: Oct 12

Glasgow, UK

#17 Mar 5, 2013
I found if u get ur misses to suck ur c-ck realy hard n play with her self that does it for me i just blow in exitment...
Dr_Mike

Boston, MA

#18 Mar 8, 2013
In the morning, when you are still recovering from sleep, your heart rate may be down and your circulation might be a little sluggish – you might also be dehydrated. Try drinking more water and moving around a bit to get things running; breakfast before sex might also help. Keep in mind that if you came the night before, your body might not have had enough time to recover, and you might just need a little more time. You might also consider using a penis vitamin crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) that is enriched with penis-specific nutrients to support nerve, circulatory and skin health.
Mom

Pittsburg, CA

#19 Apr 23, 2013
I see that this post is old but were you taking pain medication for your back by any chance?
Anonymous

Indore, India

#20 Apr 23, 2013
Mom wrote:
I see that this post is old but were you taking pain medication for your back by any chance?
hey what you talking about? would you like to have sex?
deagenaration

United States

#21 May 1, 2013
@tpr do you still have that girl friend after 7 years
think

Road Town, Virgin Islands, British

#22 Jul 7, 2013
The same thing happens to me I can't ejaculate unless I eat something before having sex early in the mornings with my wife, but after 12noon I am good to go with out without anything to eat

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