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Goldsboro, NC

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Feb 25, 2010
 
I like getting massages, i understand draping and want to be, but I would rather be draped with a towel. Reason is i find the sheet uncomfortable. I also feel like a Christmas present. I would rather be draped with a towel. The question is how do I ask for this or is the draping with a towel called something else? I would also like to thank you massage therapist for the jobs you do.
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Feb 26, 2010
 
No one wants to help a guy out? Please?
Paul

Birmingham, AL

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Feb 26, 2010
 

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All you can do is ask for "towel draping" instead of "sheet draping." Some therapists will allow this, some won't.

Some *might* also see a request for towel draping as a precursor to you asking for undraped massage and "extras."

I've never had a therapist get angry at me for asking for towel draping; if they don't wish to do that, they simply say no.

Like you, I find the constant movement of sheet draping to be an annoyance. I now only regularly see therapists who allow towel draping or who forego the drape completely.
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Goldsboro, NC

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#4
Feb 26, 2010
 
Thank you Paul. yeah the last thing i want is some kind of sexual innuendo. I just want to feel comfortable. thanks again for the tip.
Hans

Baton Rouge, LA

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Mar 9, 2010
 
When I go to a new therapist, sometimes even over the phone when making the appointment, I might say something like "I prefer to not be draped or to be minimally draped. Is this a problem?" While I also give assurances that I'm not looking for sexual activity, they have either said it was no problem or they have indicated their preference or legal constraints. Since I am open and up-front with them, they are usually candid with me. I can either accept their terms or find another therapist. So far, I've not had an issue with it either way. When I remind the therapist that I'm most concerned with their abilities and techniques, they usually focus on that part and not the draping. A generous tip ALWAYS follows an excellently delivered massage--draped or not.
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#6
Sep 27, 2010
 
I received a four hands massage the other day draped only with a pillowcase. It was totally non sexual, but felt very good and exhilarating because I was draped only with a strip of cloth.
Paul

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Sep 29, 2010
 

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I trained in Australia and sheets were not used at all. large towels are much more comfortable and easier to use. I use a sheet on the table (clipped to the legs) a 1m x 2m towel on top of that, an open weave cotton blanket for the feet (with hot-water bottle if required) and give the client another 1m x 2m towel. This arrangement is very easy to use, the size of the towel is perfect for modesty if that is what the client wants, tents for turning and soaks up any excess oil at the end. I think we in Australia are much less paranoid about coverage than in the U.S.A. Works fine for me.
Paul

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Sep 29, 2010
 
I'm not in Sydney, but in Perth Western Australia

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Dec 24, 2010
 

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I'm calling bs, would u ask for a towel drape if u were being massaged by a man?
The whole idea that u are uncomfortable under a thin! Sheet is retarded.
U just want to be as close to naked as possible because let's face it u aren't really looking for a massage.
Jason

Ponca City, OK

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Dec 25, 2010
 

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Paul wrote:
I think we in Australia are much less paranoid about coverage than in the U.S.A. Works fine for me.
As far as I can tell, nearly everyone in the world is less paranoid about coverage than the U.S. In many ways our Puritan heritage continues to be a strong influence in our culture to this day. That being said, there is a rather wide variance from therapist-to-therapist as to how much they focus on it. Some don't even require draping at all, though in many states they're risking their license in that case, unfortunately.
Massage Joe

Mount Vernon, WA

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Jan 2, 2011
 

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piscescmp wrote:
I'm calling bs, would u ask for a towel drape if u were being massaged by a man?
The whole idea that u are uncomfortable under a thin! Sheet is retarded.
U just want to be as close to naked as possible because let's face it u aren't really looking for a massage.
This is why there are problems. Since your mind goes that way you assume everyone's does.

I simply tell my therapist female or male that I am not modest, that they are free to move the draping as the see fit without asking and that I would like as minimal draping as THEY are comfortable with.
Paul

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Jan 2, 2011
 
Massage Joe wrote:
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I simply tell my therapist female or male that I am not modest, that they are free to move the draping as the see fit without asking and that I would like as minimal draping as THEY are comfortable with.
One thing MTs have to bear in mind is that we (the therapists) work with bodies all the time and are quite used to nakedness (maybe this is less so in USA). It's easy to forget that some clients may be self conscious - for their first session at least, so care must be taken with draping if the client wants it. So much the better if they indicate themselves what they would prefer.
Sandy

Iselin, NJ

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Jan 3, 2011
 
I found this post interesting, because I just posted about how I just moved into my first apartment, and it is a private with two units. I am 18 years old, and the landlord, who is retired and maybe in his late 60's I'm guessing, lives in the other apartment. He massages me three times a week, and he suggested that I have them in the nude with no covering, because it was more beneficial to be able to massage the whole body at once, and to distribute the oils evenly covering all the skin.

I mention our age, because I find it harmless to think that a late 60's man is trying to have sexual relations with me. I actually worry because I am the one who becomes aroused as often as I have seen him aroused. I've seen him aroused because he often is also nude during massages also.

I was embrrassed at first being nude and uncovered, as well as whn he started giving the massages in the nude, but as he says, it's a very natural feeling, and it does feel appropriate for massages, except that there is spontaneous arousal to deal with, but isn't that normal? Is arousal poor ettiquette from a client in professional massage? He is not a trained professional though, but I am curious to know if anyone can answer.
Mindy

Valparaiso, IN

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Jan 3, 2011
 

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Paul wrote:
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One thing MTs have to bear in mind is that we (the therapists) work with bodies all the time and are quite used to nakedness (maybe this is less so in USA).
It is definitely less so in the U.S., as you've probably noticed from some of the posts by American therapists in this forum. In their attempt to be viewed as a legitimate medical profession and separate themselves from the history of prostitution, many have thrown the baby out with the bathwater and demonstrate a complete discomfort with the naked human body (which, ironically, other legitimate medical professionals generally don't have).

This isn't true of all American massage therapists, but represents enough of them to make shopping around very important. There are one or two so-called therapists on this forum who I wouldn't want anywhere near my body with their negative energy.
Mindy

Valparaiso, IN

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Jan 3, 2011
 

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Is arousal poor ettiquette from a client in professional massage? He is not a trained professional though, but I am curious to know if anyone can answer.
Since he's obviously not a professional and you're not receiving a professional massage, why does it matter? If you're not comfortable being naked in a room with him, don't do it. If you enjoy the mutual nakedness and arousal, carry on. If you want a professional massage with professional ethics, go to a professional therapist.
Sandy

Iselin, NJ

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Jan 3, 2011
 
Mindy wrote:
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Since he's obviously not a professional and you're not receiving a professional massage, why does it matter? If you're not comfortable being naked in a room with him, don't do it. If you enjoy the mutual nakedness and arousal, carry on. If you want a professional massage with professional ethics, go to a professional therapist.
Good point, Mindy, that he is not a professional, and I don't mind the mutual nakedness (it's kind of cool), and the arousal feels GOOD AND ALL. I just wanted to know if massage types of people minded it very much, since I do become unable to control being very aroused during these massages.
Mindy

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Jan 3, 2011
 

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Good point, Mindy, that he is not a professional, and I don't mind the mutual nakedness (it's kind of cool), and the arousal feels GOOD AND ALL. I just wanted to know if massage types of people minded it very much, since I do become unable to control being very aroused during these massages.
Good therapists who are comfortable with the human body are going to understand that arousal during massage is normal for many, so no, they shouldn't mind. That's really a moot point, though, since you've said he isn't a therapist.
Sandy

Iselin, NJ

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#19
Jan 3, 2011
 
Thanx a lot, Mindy.:) I know it seems strange to be nude and mutually aroused with a man that is near seventy, while I'm still only 18, but it just happened so naturally and I do feel comfortable with him massaging me. We are going to be doing a thai (spelling?)massage, which is done on the floor and inviolves body contact, I didn't ask if it's done in the nude too, but I figure it is. Is this typically a naked massage? Do you know?
FREDDY

San Diego, CA

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#20
Jan 3, 2011
 
I get waxed nude so it's not a big deal to me since I am young, waxed, tan and in shape. In Cali my girl uses a small towel so not to get in trouble with the law. No draping is the way to go. I had my first massage with sheet draping, I felt like I was going to bed. I always had mine done with a towel so a bed sheet seemed weird to me. It does not make much of a difference since the massage person can still jack off u even with a full sized bed sheet.
Paul

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#21
Jan 3, 2011
 
Sandy, Thai massage is usually done in the nude. Also called a soapy massage.

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