joe

United States

#256 Oct 11, 2008
can anyone recommend good massage in brooklyn or nyc. looking for a real place, but one that isnt uptight. looking for towel or no draping. and not too expensive.

thanks.
GAVIN

UK

#257 Oct 13, 2008
I went to my friend for a full body massage,i got undressed to my white boxer shorts,but they were rather long and went half way down my thigh, it was a warm day so i was happy to be lying there in my boxers,she said she needed to fold up my boxers so she could massage my thighs so she rolled up my boxers to my crutch,i went tingly and as she massaged my thighs to my crutch i went erect and a big bulge came up in my boxers, i said sorry ,but she wasnt bothered,though i found it rather exciting, istayed erect for most of the massage,then at the end of the massage she gave me a happy ending with a condom, we are now married and the massage sessions are just wonderfull
Tommy

Worcester, MA

#258 Oct 13, 2008
I personally think that all muscles should be released while being massaged... Doesn't anyone understand that by leaving the slightest bit of tension, it just creates more tension that travels to the areas that were tense prior to getting a massage and its like the cycle starts all over again, where as if you release all the tension from every muscle then it relaxes all the chakaras as well as all the body...

Is this making any sense or are you guys confused by what I'm saying here...

I recently had a massage by Jesse, and as much as I would love to say his massage was great, it was actually disappointing... Not only did he keep my entire body covered during the massage, but it was under a heated blanked, which made me to hot.

He did reiki though, and I felt good, but there was not the same charge of energy that I got from my first massage, and there was no release.
ramon

Somerville, NJ

#259 Oct 13, 2008
I refuse to go to a male massage for I fear the same response. I've had many massages by females and if I allow my self to relax I will get a full erection at some point. Usually I worry about it and fight it to prevent an erection. I have never ejaculated during a massage but I hope that that someday I can go to a legitimate place that I'd feel comfortable enough to let it happen if the massage was that good.
Tommy

Worcester, MA

#260 Oct 13, 2008
Believe me the first massage that I had from Zen Massage was that good to allow me to ejaculate, but the massage from a different place, wasn't nearly as good.
TantricGuy

Laredo, TX

#261 Oct 14, 2008
As I continue to read all of the posts here I can't help but be saddened at how our culture has so perverted sexuality and sensuality. I side with both the LMTs as well as us clients. Form the LMT's side I whole heartedly agree about sexual massages. They have worked hard to get where they are and to have some guy come in and want a hand job is extremely degrading, even if they (the LMT) are comfortable with their sexuality and naked bodies. Just because thay are doesn't mean they are wanting to be sexual.
From the client's side (assuming that the client is not one who is just looking to get off), if he is respectable and respectfull of the LMT then he should not have to worry about erections, orgasms or ejaculations. As I have stated before, my LMT requires me to remain draped ( with a small pillow case)and that is fine with me. I can relax just as easily with or without draping. I will have several non-ejaculatory orgasms when she massages my feet and stomach. She remains fully clothed and has never made any comments or tried to touch me inappropriately. Many times near the end of the massage she will work on my upper and inner thighs and I will have a very relaxing hands free ejaculation (yes, I use a condom out of respect).
Neither men nor women should be ashamed or embarassed of their sensuality or sexuality. If you are getting a legitimate massage you can't always control how your body responds.
As I haver studied Tantra over the years I have discovered something interesting. Relaxation is the key to sensuality. The more relaxed your body is the more it can experience pleasure. I would not be able to orgasm and ejaculate hands free if I were not relaxed. Three keys to being relaxed are being able to COMPLETELY trust my LMT, not having a sexual focus and not focusing on orgasm or ejaculation.
Let me say one thing to the LMTs. If you truely enjoy your work and you are not trying to seduce or arouse your client then try not to worry about how their body reacts. If you are working on the adductor muscle close to their groin then they will probably get an erection. If you are giving a light stomach massage it may well induce an erection. For someone like me who has rewired my body and mind, I could have small orgasms if you are massaging my feet or stomach. Try not to wory or be offended. I can't help this any more than you can help your nipples getting hard when yo are cold. These things are more likely to happen if I am very relaxed.
Thanks for listening and please lets hear some comments !!!!

“Live Laugh Love”

Since: Oct 07

Location hidden

#262 Oct 17, 2008
TantricGuy wrote:
I continue to be amazed at everyones response to erections and ejaculation. I am in agreement with all of the LMT regarding overt sexual behavior. A therapeutic or sensual massage does not involve overt sexual acts, suggestions or talk. Any massage that involves this kind of behavior is now considered a sexual massage. Let me reiterate 2 points: 1)A pereson can not help his/her body's physical response to massage. If a man wakes in the morning and has an erection does that always mean he is horny? NO. If a woman uses the restroom or is cold and her nipples get hard, does that mean she is horny? NO. The same applies to massage. 2) If a person has rewired their mind and body as I mentioned in my past posting and is therefore able to achieve greater levels of pleasure from more areas of the body then why should that be taboo or frowned on by a LMT. Last time I checked, even state laws which allowed undraped massage with consent still prohibited the therapist to touch the genitals of for there to be any kind of sexual exchanges, either verbal or physical. The law does not say that if a client gets aroused or finds sensual pleasure in having a foot, stomach or leg massage then the massage is to be ended.
Let me make one last point. Being pretty athletic I often get deep tissue massages. Part of what feels great and helps is to have my adductor muscle worked on. If you look at a diagram of the adductor it runs from your knee up past the groin to the glutes. Last time I checked, the glutes were not ommited from massage nor were legs. But according to many LMTs they cna't massage that part which is too close to the groin.
I am on the LMT's side. They are professionals and should be treated with respect. However, an LMT who does not want to see genitals or get too close is like a doctor not wanting to see blood. A patient may bleed and a client may get an erection. So long as there is nothing sexually overt then what is the problem?
COMMENTS!!!!!
Unfortunately, most people are not as intelligent about massage as you are. If men would just NOT ask stupid things towards the end of the massage, everything would be great.

However, after taking an extensive health history, asking specifically where the gentleman needs work, telling them plainly on the phone when they make their appointment that I don't do sexual massage, they STiLL ask for a happy ending and treat me like a whore instead of a professional with years of training. And then wonder why I get livid and throw them out and refuse to massage them again, and I also warn my LMT buddies not to massage them (they get put on the do not massage list that gets passed around).

Getting an erection is very common during a massage, related to relaxation of the body. I have never had anyone ejaculate on my sheets. A friend I shared a clinic with had it happen once, and trust me, you can smell the semen in the room and on the sheets. We don't want to handle your body fluids whether on our sheets or a towel, the health risks are just too big.
Tommy

Worcester, MA

#263 Oct 17, 2008
What are the health risks of touching human sperm are you going to get pregnant or something.

“Live Laugh Love”

Since: Oct 07

Location hidden

#264 Oct 17, 2008
Tommy wrote:
What are the health risks of touching human sperm are you going to get pregnant or something.
How about because of infectious diseases, such as sexually transmitted diseases or blood-borne diseases.
Tommy

Worcester, MA

#265 Oct 17, 2008
Oh get over yourself, its not like everyone tries to ejaculate by getting a massage. I ejaculated just by the guy massaging my back... Is it my fault, it was after a car accident and my body was traumatized... I suppose you see me as some sort of pervert because by the guy massaging my back I ejaculated right.
LMT

Brunswick, OH

#266 Oct 17, 2008
Tommy wrote:
Oh get over yourself, its not like everyone tries to ejaculate by getting a massage. I ejaculated just by the guy massaging my back... Is it my fault, it was after a car accident and my body was traumatized... I suppose you see me as some sort of pervert because by the guy massaging my back I ejaculated right.
NFL football players get massaged by a man every day of the season, sometimes more than once. They are probably nude most of the time. But I can just imagine what would happen to their locker-room reputation if one day they got an erection and blasted semen all over the place. Come on, guys. This is not an issue. If you haven't had sex in several days and feel like you might "leak," take care of it yourself before you go for the massage. Then do it again just for insurance.
Tommy

Worcester, MA

#267 Oct 17, 2008
LMT wrote:
<quoted text>
NFL football players get massaged by a man every day of the season, sometimes more than once. They are probably nude most of the time. But I can just imagine what would happen to their locker-room reputation if one day they got an erection and blasted semen all over the place. Come on, guys. This is not an issue. If you haven't had sex in several days and feel like you might "leak," take care of it yourself before you go for the massage. Then do it again just for insurance.
LMT get over yourself perhaps you should not be in a care profession, if you don't care for people. Different things happen for different reasons, and not everything is controlled.

I'm a reiki master, and deal with energy all the time, and this LMT certainly knew what he was doing because I was tensing up and tried to pull away but the LMT kept on putting pressure in the same exact spot that was making me tense and which caused me to ejaculate. Perhaps you in the profession should learn to tell the signs from your clients and stop blaming your clients.

I personally think you should be a dog walker, or a custodian, if giving human care and understanding is to complicated for you
young Doha

Doha, Qatar

#268 Oct 18, 2008
do any one know good female massaging parlors for men,.. in doha pls let me know at ashiq1976@gmail.com
LMT

Brunswick, OH

#269 Oct 18, 2008
Just for clarification.
I have been in patient care since 1975, including:
X-Ray Tech
Dialysis Tech
Dermatology Tech
Critical Care Nursing
Gastroenterology assistant
Combat medic
Never once has a man in my care or the care of my colleagues had a semen "accident." This seems to be isolated to the massage (or I should say quasi-massage) industry and, to be blunt, seems to be from men who go to a massage practitioner expecting and wanting this response. "Oh, My!!! I just blew my load all over your massage room!!! THAT was TOTALLY unexpected!!!" Wink, Wink.
the voice of reason

Mechanicsville, VA

#270 Oct 18, 2008
LMT's are trained professionals, they are using their skill and energy to heal the client, there is no sexual feelings involved if they are serious about their trade.. The posts here belong in a sex forum not a forum about therapeutic massage. Your fantasies are fine but that is all they are. In a professional atmosphere you will be draped, there will be no "accidental" touching of the genitals, if there is then yo are not being seen by a LMT period, they will lose their license to practice.
Gabriel C

Ottawa, Canada

#272 Oct 19, 2008
Whenever I go see my massage therapist, she will always massage my perineum until I have an ejaculation, assuming that I haven't ejaculated at some previous point during the massage. I have never asked her to do this, or any other sort of "extra", and she always does it while I'm laying face-down. I am completely comfortable with this, highly enjoy it, and feel much more relaxed when I have an ejaculation during massage. What I'm wondering about is if there are any legal or ethical concerns with her doing this? I assume that since there is absolutely no contact with my penis or testicles, that this is perfectly acceptable.
James

Green Bay, WI

#273 Oct 20, 2008
LMT

I think we are getting of topic here. I am the origanal poster here and let me tell you, what happened to me was a total accident and I was really embarrased after. Now some posts on here are more sexual in nature, but alot of people this happens to actually have concern. Now to answere the way you do, have a bit of understanding. If you truely were all the things you listed, I would assume you have some understanding! This seems to be an interesting topic to alot of people since there are over 260 posts now! Keep up the great discussion all!
EsDee

Tokyo, Japan

#274 Oct 20, 2008
It's so nice to know this is more common that I though. Because I too know how not nice is when it happens. I was getting a 90 minute relaxation treatment Vietnam at proper an above board Spa centre, and I didn't know how to tell the messeuse (The centre catered mainly to Japanese female clients, so the languages in use were Vietnamese and Japanese - my Japanese is OK, but I'm an Austrlaian guy. I'm not sure how to say "Excuse me, but I'm afraid I could ejaculate"). I felt terrible and guilty. This is NOT supposed to be a sexual service. I faked a coughing fit and asked her to get me some water, so I could have some cooldown time. The anxiety spoiled a lot of the relaxation benefit I was receiving from the massage.

Second time was in another upmarket asian hotel, and getting the standard relaxation aromatherapy course. All was going fine, until she started the "leg massage optional extra" in which she pushed up from my ankles to my thighs. There was no sexual contact apart from a possible penis prushing, but the second time she did that push up my leg, I ejaculated very suddenly. Something to do with some energy being pushed up my lef. Again I felt terrible, and guilty, and have since avoided massages completely.

But when I really came to understand that this is something to do with Energy flows, and not just getting off on sexual stimulation, was when my chirpractor was massaging me during minor back and neck injury treatment. It almost happened again, but this time there was absolutely nothing sexual, no sexual attraction in any way, considering the chiropractor is male like myself. But I felt a risk of it happening. So.. I though I need to find out more about this. I'm completely confortable with my sexuality, and this incident led me further to believe that things are happening with out energy flows during massages. I am talking ejaculation without erection.

Since: May 08

Miami, FL

#275 Oct 20, 2008
Fullermassage wrote:
<quoted text>Unfortunately, most people are not as intelligent about massage as you are. If men would just NOT ask stupid things towards the end of the massage, everything would be great.
However, after taking an extensive health history, asking specifically where the gentleman needs work, telling them plainly on the phone when they make their appointment that I don't do sexual massage, they STiLL ask for a happy ending and treat me like a whore instead of a professional with years of training. And then wonder why I get livid and throw them out and refuse to massage them again, and I also warn my LMT buddies not to massage them (they get put on the do not massage list that gets passed around).
Getting an erection is very common during a massage, related to relaxation of the body. I have never had anyone ejaculate on my sheets. A friend I shared a clinic with had it happen once, and trust me, you can smell the semen in the room and on the sheets. We don't want to handle your body fluids whether on our sheets or a towel, the health risks are just too big.
Your post is interesting, but in my case I've had several massages by supposed LMTs and they've assumer that I am looking for a happy ending when I never said a word about it. I've told them I don't want it and they stop and quickly finish up the session. So, it comes from both directions not just horny clients.
A little clarification

Brunswick, OH

#276 Oct 22, 2008
Gabriel C wrote:
Whenever I go see my massage therapist, she will always massage my perineum until I have an ejaculation, assuming that I haven't ejaculated at some previous point during the massage. I have never asked her to do this, or any other sort of "extra", and she always does it while I'm laying face-down. I am completely comfortable with this, highly enjoy it, and feel much more relaxed when I have an ejaculation during massage. What I'm wondering about is if there are any legal or ethical concerns with her doing this? I assume that since there is absolutely no contact with my penis or testicles, that this is perfectly acceptable.
This is pay-for-sex, not massage

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