Erection during massage - How to ease...

Erection during massage - How to ease my mind before hand

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Dauphin77

United States

#1 Mar 7, 2012
I have had numerous massages in the past (Swedish, Deep Tissue, Hot Stone) and it seems every time I end up with an erection, some times thought the entire session but primarily when I am on my back. I know this can be a natural occurrence during a massage but it is still embarrassing for me.

I know every massage Therapist is different but wonder if there is a way to prevent this from happening during the massage? I must admit, self confidence is something I am lacking both physically and mentally and wonder if that has something to do with it.....I mean not having self control over an erection when receiving a massage from a licensed MT.

Hoping to get some advice from professional MT's who do this for a living. Do I just need to relax more? Should I maybe relieve myself before going to receive a massage in order to prevent erection in an attemp to get the most of the session?

Thoughts???
Louisiana LMT

West Monroe, LA

#2 Mar 7, 2012
Well, I just want to start off by saying that what you are experiencing is natural and not uncommon. It happens and it is nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed about. After all it is not something you consciously thought of, it was just a normal bodily reaction.
Having said that, you can try talking with your therapist. You can either talk before the session and explain the issue and they may be able to help by working less on areas that tend to cause the erection or maybe avoid it completely. I have one male client who tends to get erections if I work on his gluts and we have discussed it and decided to just avoid working on that area.
Another thing to try is talking with your therapist WHILE you are getting a massage. I talk to several of my clients during massages and it is relaxing for several of them because they have someone they can talk to or just vent to. If you mind is focused on your wife always leaving the lights on and how angry that makes you or your relative recently being hospitalized, you likely wont get an erection. After all, it is not easy to get an erection when you are talking about and thinking of your grandmother, is it?
You mentioned relieving yourself before hand and while I cannot say I personally recommend it, I have heard from others that it helps. Again, I cant recommend it because I have never been in that situation and I dont have any first hand feedback from my actual clients on the subject, but you can give it a try and see if it helps.
Also, one VERY important thing you should remember is to NEVER solicit sexual favors from your licensed massage therapist. You dont sound like the type of person who would, but there are some unsavory individuals in this forum who will attempt to talk you in to it. But please dont do it as it is ILLEGAL and will likely cause you to have to find a new LMT.
I hope I have been some help to you and I hope you are able to fully enjoy your future massage sessions as intended, without any awkward sexual situations popping up.

Since: Mar 12

San Antonio, TX

#3 Mar 7, 2012
Louisiana LMT wrote:
Well, I just want to start off by saying that what you are experiencing is natural and not uncommon. It happens and it is nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed about. After all it is not something you consciously thought of, it was just a normal bodily reaction.
Having said that, you can try talking with your therapist. You can either talk before the session and explain the issue and they may be able to help by working less on areas that tend to cause the erection or maybe avoid it completely. I have one male client who tends to get erections if I work on his gluts and we have discussed it and decided to just avoid working on that area.
Another thing to try is talking with your therapist WHILE you are getting a massage. I talk to several of my clients during massages and it is relaxing for several of them because they have someone they can talk to or just vent to. If you mind is focused on your wife always leaving the lights on and how angry that makes you or your relative recently being hospitalized, you likely wont get an erection. After all, it is not easy to get an erection when you are talking about and thinking of your grandmother, is it?
You mentioned relieving yourself before hand and while I cannot say I personally recommend it, I have heard from others that it helps. Again, I cant recommend it because I have never been in that situation and I dont have any first hand feedback from my actual clients on the subject, but you can give it a try and see if it helps.
Also, one VERY important thing you should remember is to NEVER solicit sexual favors from your licensed massage therapist. You dont sound like the type of person who would, but there are some unsavory individuals in this forum who will attempt to talk you in to it. But please dont do it as it is ILLEGAL and will likely cause you to have to find a new LMT.
I hope I have been some help to you and I hope you are able to fully enjoy your future massage sessions as intended, without any awkward sexual situations popping up.
Louisiana MT: thank you for the sound advice. I have tried talking with my MT in the past on one occasion and that actually helped in keeping from getting an erection during a Hot Stone massage. Though I must admit, there are many times where I am just so tired that I just lay on the massage table and relax and chatting is the last thing I want to do, and of course that's when it happens....when my body is so relaxed. But it can be frustrating when you focus so hard on trying to prevent the erection that you don't enjoy the massage. But I guess since my body is so sensitive to touch (also very ticklish too lol) that I just need to relax and enjoy the massage session as it truly helps a great deal with stress and aches and just let nature take its course. I truly understand the legal ramifications and have the utmost respect for massage therapists. Some MT's are truly miracle workers!!

On that note, can you give me your opinion on MT's at places like Massage Envy versus Those who work from their homes? Is there a difference or simply just finding the right MT in my location? I really enjoy places where you get the full experience as in a peaceful, water flowing, relaxing music, aroma therapy setting. Thoughts??
LMT

Medina, OH

#4 Mar 8, 2012
I have a very good friend and former massage school classmate who works at Massage Envy. She loves her work and finds Massage Envy to be very good at enforcing the State Board's regulations. Please understand that ME is a franchise and your experience will depend on the owners of your local ME. Here's what she doesn't like:
She doesn't have her own dedicated room, so anything she wants to bring to personalize her sessions must be brought in each day in her duffel bag and taken home each night.
When she first started out and was building clientele, she would be booked in the early morning and then again in the late afternoon and she lived too far away to go home in between.

I would recommend going to a private practice office or a spa instead of a home just because of the boundary issues. Working out of your home for any reason other than you're just starting out in the profession and can't yet afford the lease payment tells the world "I don't consider myself a professional."
pete

Arlington, VA

#5 Mar 28, 2012
Im a 33yo male and I had this problem when I first started getting proffesional massages (it prolly didn't help that my MT is 45 and a very attractive woman) First few appts I got a full erection, especialy when she was working on my upper thighs. I basically just ignored it and so did she. Now I feel so comfortable with her that I sometimes get a semi erection but rarely anything more.
Nebu

Germany

#6 Apr 13, 2012
Dauphin77 wrote:
<quoted text> But it can be frustrating when you focus so hard on trying to prevent the erection that you don't enjoy the massage.
Exactly and you still have to pay.

If your MT does not understand to handle erections, she is in the wrong job.

More handjobs for everybody from beautiful MTs and there would be less bombing.
LMT

Louisville, KY

#7 Apr 13, 2012
Nebu wrote:
<quoted text>
Exactly and you still have to pay.
If your MT does not understand to handle erections, she is in the wrong job.
More handjobs for everybody from beautiful MTs and there would be less bombing.
Hitler got hand jobs and more from Eva Braun and he still slaughtered millions. Or don't they teach that any more in the pope's Germany? Your puerile excuses for prostitution under the guise of "massage" fool no one.
Nebu

Germany

#8 Apr 13, 2012
LMT wrote:
<quoted text>Hitler got hand jobs and more from Eva Braun and he still slaughtered millions. Or don't they teach that any more in the pope's Germany? Your puerile excuses for prostitution under the guise of "massage" fool no one.
Hitler was austrian, this is a special case! ;-)

You were in the army. In how many "My Lai" you were involved?

And now you are getting aroused over judging adult people who behave just natural and healthy without killing anybody. Amusing you are.
LMT

Medina, OH

#9 Apr 13, 2012
Nebu wrote:
<quoted text>
Hitler was austrian,
Irrelevant
LMT

Medina, OH

#10 Apr 13, 2012
Nebu wrote:
<quoted text>
You were in the army.
No, I was in the Navy. In either case, irrelevant.
LMT

Medina, OH

#11 Apr 13, 2012
Nebu wrote:
<quoted text>
In how many "My Lai" you were involved?
None. Ad Hominem.
ERECTOR

Roy, WA

#12 Apr 13, 2012
I have exactly the same problem, whenever I get a massage I get an erection and in addition a lot of precum. When the time came to turn over on my back, it was very difficult for the CMT to work around my erection and precum without getting in contact with it. In order to solve that embarassing problem, my CMT had a trap door installed in the massage table, so when I get my back massage and errection, with a pull on a cable the trap door opens and my penis sticks trough it into the free air. Then my CMT attaches a penis pump on my errect member and while I get my back massage I get pumped until ejaculation has occured. When it is time to turn on my back, the errection is taken care of and my now sleeping member does not get in the way any more, in addition I feel very relaxed. I told my CMT to have this system patented and go into business selling drap door massage tables. Any comments?
john

Beijing, China

#14 Feb 1, 2013
Dauphin77 wrote:
I have had numerous massages in the past (Swedish, Deep Tissue, Hot Stone) and it seems every time I end up with an erection, some times thought the entire session but primarily when I am on my back. I know this can be a natural occurrence during a massage but it is still embarrassing for me.
I know every massage Therapist is different but wonder if there is a way to prevent this from happening during the massage? I must admit, self confidence is something I am lacking both physically and mentally and wonder if that has something to do with it.....I mean not having self control over an erection when receiving a massage from a licensed MT.
Hoping to get some advice from professional MT's who do this for a living. Do I just need to relax more? Should I maybe relieve myself before going to receive a massage in order to prevent erection in an attemp to get the most of the session?
Thoughts???
I got an erection during a message and ended up marrying the massuese she was flattered that I admiited it was embarrasing and not like me to do so but she was warm and kind about it and she broke the ice by asking if she could look ay it and put my clothes back on and there would be no charge and to take her for a drink I was the last appointment she had and we ben together for 25 years

Since: Jul 12

Location hidden

#15 Feb 7, 2013
Dauphin77 wrote:
I have had numerous massages in the past (Swedish, Deep Tissue, Hot Stone) and it seems every time I end up with an erection, some times thought the entire session but primarily when I am on my back. I know this can be a natural occurrence during a massage but it is still embarrassing for me.
I know every massage Therapist is different but wonder if there is a way to prevent this from happening during the massage? I must admit, self confidence is something I am lacking both physically and mentally and wonder if that has something to do with it.....I mean not having self control over an erection when receiving a massage from a licensed MT.
Hoping to get some advice from professional MT's who do this for a living. Do I just need to relax more? Should I maybe relieve myself before going to receive a massage in order to prevent erection in an attemp to get the most of the session?
Thoughts???
I've been to about 8 massages by now over the past 4-5 months. I've been to two ladies, one at a private setting, and one in her home. I get erections at both locations during the massages. When on my tummy, the combination of their hands on my butt/legs and my penis on the table does, usually, result in an ejaculation. On the sessions when it does not, erections do occur, on and off, and the massage is just as enjoyable. With one exception. The last time I went, it was for a 90 minute massage. My penis was up and down, relentlessly for 90 minutes. I did have some 'blue ball' discomfort afterwards, so that was not fun, but THAT massage, I found, was the best yet and with no ejaculation. It put me in a state of bliss that's hard to describe unless you've been there I guess.

Since: Feb 13

Salt Lake City, UT

#16 Feb 17, 2013
If you are embarrassed about getting erections that seem to frequently happen during massage then you do have at least one option

Taking care of yourself before the massage will certainly help prevent getting an erection during the massage.

Other than that, or perhaps taking saltpeter or a chastity device. There really isnt a surefire way to prevent getting an erection. Not that i am aware of at least
Raman

Minster, OH

#17 Feb 22, 2013
Never happened and my MT works the area close to home..also she is very attractive...My muscles need the tension release and although her touch is exciting it is very different then when my wife touches me...
Alex

Minster, OH

#18 Oct 8, 2013
I got an erection during my last massage first time ever. I said sorry to her. I have been to her many times, should I have just let it go? She seemed a bit unnerved I mentioned it. She was working on my hip and I don't want her to stop as it is a problem area for me.

Since: Nov 13

Location hidden

#19 Nov 19, 2013
You folks need to lighten up. Maybe go get a massage...

When guys get rubbed on, whether it's the foot, the butt or the thigh, they get erections. It's encoded into our DNA. If a therapist has done more than one massage he/she has had a client with an erection.

Just ignore the erection and enjoy the massage. That's what the LMT will be doing. If you are in a situation where the LMT is willing to relax your erection then you are in even better shape.

But don't worry about the erection. We all have them. Straight guys even get them from straight male LMT's.
Incompetent

Farmington, MI

#20 Mar 16, 2014
I am getting close to 50 and what I worry the most is unable to get erection. I will try a LMT and see if that can help me fix the problem.
WTSleuth

Midland, TX

#21 Mar 16, 2014
Incompetent wrote:
I am getting close to 50 and what I worry the most is unable to get erection. I will try a LMT and see if that can help me fix the problem.
Take some Viagra before your massage LOL. Seriously, I am older than you, and have regular massages (twice per week) because I enjoy the stress release and I ALWAYS get erections during the sessions. I enjoy them and consider them part of the "therapy". I have remained with one lady MT for the past 15 mos who makes me feel very comfortable with my erections, but no HEs - this is a "respectable" MT, not a massage parlor. Sometimes she is not available and I get one of the other ladies but they all are fine, I would love to be a fly on the wall and hear some of their conversations since I am a regular and reliable client and I tip very well.

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