This Day and Age: Dealing with a gay husband

Aug 1, 2008 Full story: www.palmbeachpost.com

Brenda and her husband were ecstatic when their daughter married a man whom they describe as "a lovely guy with a good future.'' But that was six months before a midnight phone call set the couple reeling.

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“Homosapien ”

Since: Jan 07

Minneapolis

#1 Aug 1, 2008
A perfect example why people should be honest about their sexuality and be accepted for who they are.

I was really hoping this article was about a gay couple.

“Live and Let Live...”

Since: May 08

San Jose, California

#2 Aug 2, 2008
Luckily it was found out early and they didn't have any children... that would have just made it worse.

I've known too many guys who married because they thought that was expected of them even though they knew they had urges for other men.

Many try to live the lie, have kids, but it eventually catches up with them. As society changes, maybe people can start being honest about themselves.
william

Columbus, OH

#3 Aug 2, 2008
upon our arrival into this world our culture/society indoctrinates us as to what is expected of us and sometime there are those who dont fit the norm.To over compensate for this some are force or simply choose to go into denial or what better term in the closet. It is only when finally that person acknowledge his or her true identy that a choice will eventual have to be made. I'm such that person who made a choice to honor and remain faithful to the person I married.We all make choices good or bad every day we just need to learn to see them in their perspective .

“Read my name”

Since: Jul 07

Raleigh, North Carolina

#4 Aug 2, 2008
Forty Three years ago my parents took me to a psychologist in the hope he could fix me. Through a series of sessions it was decided he could cure me through aversion therapy, but to say the least I was very uncooperative.

After a while the therapy turned to threats of having me committed to an institution for being a danger to myself and others. I may have only been 14 but I wasn't stupid, so I started pretending the therapy was working. I must have been a pretty good actor because by the time I graduated from HS I had buried my obscene (their words, not mine) feelings so deep that I believed myself to be cured. I was stupid, I was just a kid.

So I did all the things a guy was supposed to be doing including getting married when I was 22. Then 18 years later while on a business trip I met someone that made me realize that I wasn't the only person in the world like me. It took me a while but I finally admitted I had been living a lie.

The point of telling this is what upsets me the most is hurting those I love by living this lie. The truth about me is out now and my wife and daughter are accepting (not keen, but just Ok). The son however is a different story,..

So in the end (or at least at this point) the decision I made over 40 years ago has caused serious harm to the lives of 4 people. All because I let a some jerk shrink convince me that I was a living obscenity. Yes, I'm still pissed.

Rocco

Montréal, Canada

#5 Aug 2, 2008
And this is the life the Christian fundamentalists would have us lead. I think we need to start a program to marry the 'ex-gays' to the female relatives of Pat Robertson and the Phelpses, etc. We'll see how they like it

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