What do non-white and non-black women...

What do non-white and non-black women think of white men and black men

Rant

Tonawanda, NY

#1 Jun 21, 2012
I've been wondering this for a long time. I've been with white and black women only, and that was because of where I grew up and proximity I guess. I've also been with Italian girls (if you don't consider that white, a black girl I used to date actually used to say that she didn't consider Italians white, I found that pretty weird) and I'm a white american, almost all German and I have a complexion and a look kind of like Michael Fassbender except I'm taller and more muscular(6'4" 230 lbs).

The way I see it is kind of like this: White and Black Americans are basically head cases. They both typically adhere to rigid rules for conformity in order to achieve social acceptance among their respective races and black and white have some of the most diametrically opposite views from one another about a whole host of life issues. in other words, in the USA race and life is all about white and black. An easier way to describe this is that one time me and a black friend of mine were debating race issues for the 20th time and I decided to veer off the usual white/black crap and ask him something to the effect of "what about native Americans or Hispanics, what about their perspective on this?" The response I got from him was along the lines of "I don't care about them, black and white are the two dominant" And don't misunderstand, we were good friends and we were both from the same city neighborhood. We could be honest about things with each other and not get offended (usually) and we had some great conversations about things that are never discussed in public but needed to be said regardless. We ended up on different sides of the country and stopped contacting each other after a couple years.

But I realized that he was mostly right: White and black are the most dominant in their own minds, at least in the USA. They have had the most drastically different American experience from one another but they're been together this whole time. I've known black people my whole life and yet I feel that we're worlds apart even though we live next to each other. I think that our perspectives are clouded by our constant putting up of defense mechanisms and or overblown egos and I think we really can't look at one another on an everyday basis and actually see each other objectively.

So i'm asking what do non-white and non-black women think of white men and black men? Or don't you? What have your experiences been with them, if any? How do you view us? What are your prejudices and stereotypes, if any? Do you think that the racial divide between the two can ever really be bridged? Why?

I know this is loaded but I really want to know. And I don't want white or black women chiming in. I know that really might put a crack in your respective egos, and I have no control over that anyway, but I don't. I've talked face to face about race issues to white and black people since I was a teenager and I want something that resembles impartiality with this. I want different perspectives than what I've known so far. Please indulge me.
phil463

Jersey City, NJ

#2 Jun 28, 2012
Rant wrote:
I've been wondering this for a long time. I've been with white and black women only, and that was because of where I grew up and proximity I guess. I've also been with Italian girls (if you don't consider that white, a black girl I used to date actually used to say that she didn't consider Italians white, I found that pretty weird) and I'm a white american, almost all German and I have a complexion and a look kind of like Michael Fassbender except I'm taller and more muscular(6'4" 230 lbs).
The way I see it is kind of like this: White and Black Americans are basically head cases. They both typically adhere to rigid rules for conformity in order to achieve social acceptance among their respective races and black and white have some of the most diametrically opposite views from one another about a whole host of life issues. in other words, in the USA race and life is all about white and black. An easier way to describe this is that one time me and a black friend of mine were debating race issues for the 20th time and I decided to veer off the usual white/black crap and ask him something to the effect of "what about native Americans or Hispanics, what about their perspective on this?" The response I got from him was along the lines of "I don't care about them, black and white are the two dominant" And don't misunderstand, we were good friends and we were both from the same city neighborhood. We could be honest about things with each other and not get offended (usually) and we had some great conversations about things that are never discussed in public but needed to be said regardless. We ended up on different sides of the country and stopped contacting each other after a couple years.
But I realized that he was mostly right: White and black are the most dominant in their own minds, at least in the USA. They have had the most drastically different American experience from one another but they're been together this whole time. I've known black people my whole life and yet I feel that we're worlds apart even though we live next to each other. I think that our perspectives are clouded by our constant putting up of defense mechanisms and or overblown egos and I think we really can't look at one another on an everyday basis and actually see each other objectively.
So i'm asking what do non-white and non-black women think of white men and black men? Or don't you? What have your experiences been with them, if any? How do you view us? What are your prejudices and stereotypes, if any? Do you think that the racial divide between the two can ever really be bridged? Why?
I know this is loaded but I really want to know. And I don't want white or black women chiming in. I know that really might put a crack in your respective egos, and I have no control over that anyway, but I don't. I've talked face to face about race issues to white and black people since I was a teenager and I want something that resembles impartiality with this. I want different perspectives than what I've known so far. Please indulge me.
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