Parents find the power to break 3-year-old's pacifier addiction

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Celia, our 3-year-old, loved her pacifier, which she nicknamed "Pepe," almost as much as she loved us, her baby brother and Sleeping Beauty.
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Thomas

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Dec 29, 2008
 
Very lucky...for my 3 yr old son, it was like taking heroin away from an addict. He didn't know how to go to sleep anymore, he screamed and cried about it. It was only 2 weeks, but a terrible 2 weeks. Beware, not all are this easy.
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Dec 29, 2008
 
Kids are like that. I told my youngest that his bottle was lost and that was it-no problem at all.
My oldest was a thumbsucker-I discussed it with his pediatrician one visit and we both decided it was not a problem at that time. He got a vaccination and that was it. He stopped sucking his thumb that day. Later I figured out that he must have decided that he got the "shot" because he was sucking his thumb. So he wasn't going to do that again! Amazing what they come up with.
Stina

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Dec 29, 2008
 
I meant to take it from my daughter at 1 year and admit I waited a month or 2. Then I just took them all and tossed them. I realized I missed one, though, because she started playing near the back corner of the crib and fiddling with something. Then she started crying that she wanted a nap. I put her in the crib and she moved to sleep in the opposite direction. Hmmmm. I walked out and went back in and, sure enough, she had found an old pacifier and hid it in the back corner of her crib and retreived it as soon as I left. I took that one and tossed it and later made sure there were no "strays" laying around!
Square Guy

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Dec 29, 2008
 
Is this "columnist" hoping for some cash in exchange for Disney product placement?
not buying it

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Dec 29, 2008
 
Congratulations, you've just taught your 3 year old that everything has a price. Wait until they ask for payment for using the potty, eating their veggies and getting good grades.
WOW

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Dec 29, 2008
 
This is too funny. My daugher dropped it shortly after a year. My son who is going to be 2 next month LOVES his pacifier. He can do fine without it but once he sees it all he.ll breaks loose. My 7 month old daughter does not care for them at all. We have tried asking our son to give them to his baby sister but he refuses. He gets jealous and mad when he sees her playing with one of his.

Since I deal with my 3 kids, I will admit it is so easy to give it to him when he is having a meltdown. I give it to him and it is almost like giving him a sedative he calms down so quickly.

But tips for getting rid of the pacifier? I have heard of putting it in a build a bear, cutting a little bit more and more off the tip each day, putting hot sauce on it and also of "donating"(pretend) them to a younger family member (or pretending to send them to poor kids, etc)
Obviously that last one did not work for me. LOL
I think I have even heard of tying them to an air balloon and letting them go. I think I would need 20 balloons for all the pacifiers I have around my house. LOL
WOW

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Dec 29, 2008
 
Why is laugh out loud (l.o.l) a "swear" or forbidden word?!?!?
WOW

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Oh, gimme a break. A 3 year old doesn't need a pacifier. It's a parental cop out to plug them up so they don't have to listen them whine or cry. Parents are so pussified these days.
If it's that- so what? What would you rather listen to- a kid screaming or a calm kid?
When I am on the phone or trying to put a baby to sleep- I dont need my 2 year old crying because he doesnt have his pacifier.
Stina

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Dec 29, 2008
 
The best way to get rid of the pacifier is to take it away. Pretty simple (unless they find that darn stray you missed). I was more worried about my child's teeth than anything. Plus, there comes a time when your children need to start learning other ways to calm and comfort themselves.

“What goes around comes around”

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WOW wrote:
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If it's that- so what? What would you rather listen to- a kid screaming or a calm kid?

I'd rather have a child (and did, 5 of them) that knows how to self soothe.

When I am on the phone or trying to put a baby to sleep- I dont need my 2 year old crying because he doesnt have his pacifier.
You proved my point. Thanks.
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Dec 29, 2008
 
At some point when my son was two I let him know that he wouldn't be having a pacifier any longer because the little babies needed them.
We had a little family party with a cake that said Goodbye to "dada" (his word for it). He liked the attention and the idea that it was part of being a big boy. I honestly don't remember it being a problem after that day.

Where is all the negativity and judgement coming from? It's just a stage in growing up and it's harder for some and easier for others.

I've never seen a 10 year old with a pacifier so...why make such an issue out of how it's done? Parenting is hard enough. Let's support each other instead of snipe.

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Dec 29, 2008
 
So, to sum up your story, you bribed your daughter into giving up something she was attached to.

It seems to me that you learned the lesson here and it was the wrong one. Instead of changing your daughter's behavior via perseverance and praise, you bribed her. Setting the stage for future tantrums that will only be solved by you giving her something she wanted.

Wouldn't it have been a better lesson that praise for listening to you and modifying her behavior was the worthwhile reward?
Roger

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Dec 29, 2008
 
There's always the hot sauce on the pacifier method.
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Is it hard to be perfect? You must know everything and never make a mistake. Every single three year old in the world is exactly alike. Everything can be generalized these days to black or white.
SarahMoon wrote:
Oh, gimme a break. A 3 year old doesn't need a pacifier. It's a parental cop out to plug them up so they don't have to listen them whine or cry. Parents are so pussified these days.
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The only point you have is the top of your head.
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You proved my point. Thanks.
Shelly

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Dec 29, 2008
 
Thank you for this! I have a little girl about to turn three and we are in the same predicament. We will use this technique.
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Dec 29, 2008
 
I totally agree with "not a big deal" that parenting is hard enough - stop sniping at each other. As a Mother to almost four year old twins, there have been many things that I have done that I swore I would never ever do as a parent. When we were pregnant and reading all those parenting books I wish one of them would have said - In reality, you will end up letting your children watch television, eating some unhealthy foods at times, and raising your voice instead of sitting down with your child and explaining calmly to them what they did wrong. AND ITS OK. Parenting is real life, and you need to enjoy it and most importantly teach your children to be loving, responsible people with good morals. And as adults, stop judging other parents for things that work in their family. Every family is unique.
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Dec 29, 2008
 
Some years back, I worked with a woman who had made a number of unsuccessful attempts to quit smoking. In one of those attempts, she explained, she tried using a baby pacifier to take the place of a cigarette. One evening a guy came to pick her up for a date, and my colleague absent-mindedly answered the door with the pacifier in her mouth. Her date turned tail and ran. That was the end of that attempt on her part to quit smoking.
Linda

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Dec 29, 2008
 
Our daughter also had a pacifier at 3. We tried to tell her it was bad for her teeth, that she was to big to have a paci and all the other reasons to give up her habit.
Tryin to explain that pacifiers harbored germs was my another angle. I took my daughter to our computer and Googled the word 'germ'. I opened the picture of a germ and my daughter handed me the pacifier, never to ask for it again. The picture of a germ that was sitting on the pacifier was enough.
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I too linked birthdays and 'big girls don't use pacifiers' with my three year old. She dropped it soberly in the waste basket and never asked for it again! So, when her sister became two I tried the same thing with the same result. No problems whatsoever!

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