'Please bring Danny home,' father of cancer-stricken boy begs t...

There are 20 comments on the TwinCities.com story from May 21, 2009, titled 'Please bring Danny home,' father of cancer-stricken boy begs t.... In it, TwinCities.com reports that:

Anthony Hauser, right, reads a statement Thursday directed to his wife, Colleen, who is missing along with their cancer-stricken son, Daniel, 13.

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Edward Virtually

Bronx, NY

#1 May 21, 2009
The phrasing "at least partly due to spiritual beliefs against medical treatments that harm the body" is misleading. His _stated_ reason for objecting is that the treatments made him ill and he didn't want any more of them. He is on record as saying he will "punch and kick anyone who tries to force it on him". The attempt by the media to portray this as being solely the mother's idea is intentional deception. Regardless of the effectiveness of the chemo treatment or of alternatives, allowing the state to force an unwilling rational subject to injection of toxins (which is what chemo therapy involves) is not wise and sets a very bad precedent. It may be painful to watch him take actions which we do not agree with, but allowing the state to violate the autonomy of an individual over their own body is dangerous and should not be condoned.
left behind

Delray Beach, FL

#2 May 22, 2009
I agree. I remember reading how Danny said it made him very ill; and I notice in photos of Danny that it appears he has already lost every bit of his hair--must have been very strong medicine! Usually all the patient's hair is not lost with just one chemo treatment --so far as I have seen in my friends who have undergone chemotherapy. So yes, it has been misleading what we have read in the news lately. I think the established medical protocol for cancer care might change in the future. Toxic drugs,(also radiation and surgery) may not turn out to be the name of the game, especially if there is lots of money to be made by big pharma and everybody else involved in the treatment regimen. It takes a very long time for the medical "ship" to change course, I think. And sometimes even when we try to tell them how our bodies feel, the doctors pooh-pooh it. And I do not want my right to choose my care ( or not) to be taken away, nor the right to determine the care of my child either.
left behind

Delray Beach, FL

#3 May 22, 2009
also, Christian Science people choose not to go to doctors. Is that right going to be taken away from them??????
Curious

Los Angeles, CA

#4 May 22, 2009
Edward Virtually wrote:
The phrasing "at least partly due to spiritual beliefs against medical treatments that harm the body" is misleading. His _stated_ reason for objecting is that the treatments made him ill and he didn't want any more of them. He is on record as saying he will "punch and kick anyone who tries to force it on him". The attempt by the media to portray this as being solely the mother's idea is intentional deception. Regardless of the effectiveness of the chemo treatment or of alternatives, allowing the state to force an unwilling rational subject to injection of toxins (which is what chemo therapy involves) is not wise and sets a very bad precedent. It may be painful to watch him take actions which we do not agree with, but allowing the state to violate the autonomy of an individual over their own body is dangerous and should not be condoned.
Did I not hear that he is mentally challenged? If so, is he really in the right frame of mind to make these decisions to end his own life by refusing treatment? Just asking.
As for the religious side, this is 2009.....I think some of the whacky ancient beliefs need to be updated!
Laurie

Saint Paul, MN

#6 May 22, 2009
Terri Shivoo was a totally different case. This kid is just that - a kid! I don't think at 13 years of age he is capable of making his own decisions. At 13, I wasn't aware of my own mortality. His mom is a nut-job. I too don't like all the government power, but I believe in this case, it is necessary. I have been thru chemo once (9 months) and possibly will have to undergo more. Don't get me wrong - it sucks!! I was very sick. But, if nothing else it gave me 8 more years. I wouldn't trade those years for anything. At my age, I am aware of my mortality and as much as it sucked to go thru it, I would do it again, if I need to.
Tybalt

Saint Paul, MN

#7 May 22, 2009
leave these people alone
BLT

Montgomery, AL

#8 May 22, 2009
Either we have the autonomy and control over our own lives, or the state does.

I choose autonomy and control for myself.

Screw the well meaning people of ANY state who believe they have such power over my life.

Leave the kid alone.

Mind your own business.

Live and let live.

This is abhorring, and against our constitution and way of life.

In other words: Unamerican.
mom

Saint Paul, MN

#9 May 22, 2009
BLT wrote:
Either we have the autonomy and control over our own lives, or the state does.
I choose autonomy and control for myself.
Screw the well meaning people of ANY state who believe they have such power over my life.
Leave the kid alone.
Mind your own business.
Live and let live.
This is abhorring, and against our constitution and way of life.
In other words: Unamerican.
your mom is unamerican!
kelly

Minneapolis, MN

#10 May 22, 2009
thinning the herd.

“Wher's dem turkey necks?”

Since: Dec 08

Palm Desert, CA

#11 May 22, 2009
BLT wrote:
Either we have the autonomy and control over our own lives, or the state does.
I choose autonomy and control for myself.
Screw the well meaning people of ANY state who believe they have such power over my life.
Leave the kid alone.
Mind your own business.
Live and let live.
This is abhorring, and against our constitution and way of life.
In other words: Unamerican.
Your rant only means anything if you are of legal age. Go commit suicide. No one cares except any loved ones you leave behind. It's your life, or may I say it was your life because you are of legal age. Get it. Legal age!
This is functionally illiterate child. He is not mentally capable of making rational decisions on his own. That is why we have child protection laws because he is 13 years old and not 18.

You can wrap the American flag around you all you want. We live in a free society, a society based on observing the laws of the land.

And in this case the laws of the land involving child protection are designed to protect children from any danger caused by adults, plus in Minnesota there is specific laws dealing with what is considered proper medical treatment. Holistic or quasi-religious treatment is not allowed to children.

Go wave the American flag somewhere else where it will mean something. Your wasting your time here.
american_lady

Chambersburg, PA

#12 May 22, 2009
The government is wrong. God Bless his mother because I'd have done the same thing. As soon as people here cancer they panic. THinking chemo is the cure. Well friend let me tell you it may work for a hand full of people but the majority suffer long slow painful deaths. I watched my friend die from the chemo they gave her. So I'd like to know since the goverment can stick there nose in this family's buisness why cant' they get health care for people who do want treatment and can't get it??? Answer is simple. Nothing!

“Obamacs at it's finest!”

Since: Mar 09

Anytown, Minnesota........

#13 May 22, 2009
Edward Virtually wrote:
The phrasing "at least partly due to spiritual beliefs against medical treatments that harm the body" is misleading. His _stated_ reason for objecting is that the treatments made him ill and he didn't want any more of them. He is on record as saying he will "punch and kick anyone who tries to force it on him". The attempt by the media to portray this as being solely the mother's idea is intentional deception. Regardless of the effectiveness of the chemo treatment or of alternatives, allowing the state to force an unwilling rational subject to injection of toxins (which is what chemo therapy involves) is not wise and sets a very bad precedent. It may be painful to watch him take actions which we do not agree with, but allowing the state to violate the autonomy of an individual over their own body is dangerous and should not be condoned.
He's 13..........nuff said........
southernBoy

Roswell, GA

#14 May 22, 2009
Da Crusher_RIP...wow...you're not a very nice person. Just because you drank the Kool-aid and you believe everything the media tells you doesn't mean you should tell someone to go commit suicide. Oh wait...was that roid rage??? Either way...uncool.

The media threw that part about him being mentally challenged in there to stir the heart strings. The doctors as well...they can say whatever they want to get their way in this matter. That woman knows her child and she is doing what she feels is best.

When's the last time you went to a doctors office and before you even got finished speaking he/she already had in mind what was wrong with you? I had that happen...they thought my stomach was separating from my upper intestine. This guy swore up and down that that was my problem. I went to another doc and she listened to everything I had to say, ran some tests and told me..."you have cancer." (in remission now)

So for you to put all your faith in the media, enough so to tell a fellow human being to go commit suicide, is simply uncalled for. If you are proud to be a media lemming then more power to you.
pffft

Seattle, WA

#15 May 22, 2009
Oh Danny Boy wrote:
<quoted text>
He's 13..........nuff said........
his parents aren't
nuff said
mom

Saint Paul, MN

#16 May 22, 2009
southernBoy wrote:
Da Crusher_RIP...wow...you're not a very nice person. Just because you drank the Kool-aid and you believe everything the media tells you doesn't mean you should tell someone to go commit suicide. Oh wait...was that roid rage??? Either way...uncool.
The media threw that part about him being mentally challenged in there to stir the heart strings. The doctors as well...they can say whatever they want to get their way in this matter. That woman knows her child and she is doing what she feels is best.
When's the last time you went to a doctors office and before you even got finished speaking he/she already had in mind what was wrong with you? I had that happen...they thought my stomach was separating from my upper intestine. This guy swore up and down that that was my problem. I went to another doc and she listened to everything I had to say, ran some tests and told me..."you have cancer." (in remission now)
So for you to put all your faith in the media, enough so to tell a fellow human being to go commit suicide, is simply uncalled for. If you are proud to be a media lemming then more power to you.
your mom puts all her faith in the media!!
Sarah D

Minneapolis, MN

#17 May 22, 2009
I am concerned about the boy's fear. Right now he has said he will kick and punch anyone who tries to administer chemo to him. So even if they get him back they will be unable to treat him (several doctors said they will not physically force a treatment on a patient.)

The mother's alternative treatment isn't working as shown by the fact that the tumor has returned to the size it was when he was first diagnosed. She needs to bring him back so his fears can be dealt with and so an emotional support system can be set up for him. Perhaps a combination of chemo and alternative medicine (to help with the nausea etc.) can be done.

But nothing can be done as long as the child's fears of treatment are not dealt with. And the clock keeps ticking as long as the mother and child are on the run. Alternative medicine can be helpful but unfortunately there are many quacks out there who will take your money and do nothing for you. I'm afraid that this mother and her son will fall into the hands of one of those quacks.

“Wher's dem turkey necks?”

Since: Dec 08

Palm Desert, CA

#19 May 22, 2009
southernBoy wrote:
Da Crusher_RIP...wow...you're not a very nice person. Just because you drank the Kool-aid and you believe everything the media tells you doesn't mean you should tell someone to go commit suicide. Oh wait...was that roid rage??? Either way...uncool.
The media threw that part about him being mentally challenged in there to stir the heart strings. The doctors as well...they can say whatever they want to get their way in this matter. That woman knows her child and she is doing what she feels is best.
When's the last time you went to a doctors office and before you even got finished speaking he/she already had in mind what was wrong with you? I had that happen...they thought my stomach was separating from my upper intestine. This guy swore up and down that that was my problem. I went to another doc and she listened to everything I had to say, ran some tests and told me..."you have cancer." (in remission now)
So for you to put all your faith in the media, enough so to tell a fellow human being to go commit suicide, is simply uncalled for. If you are proud to be a media lemming then more power to you.
OK, Using suicide as a reference point was over the top and I apologize for that.

My point was dealing with what a person does as an adult with their own life does not apply when dealing with children.

And in this case, the Doctor said he was functionally illiterate to the Judge. The other thing that came out was they wanted to send him to either the Mayo Clinic, Children's Hospital in Minneapolis that deals with children who have cancer or the University of Minnesota Hospital.
I guess if world leaders can come to the Mayo Clinic, it should be good enough for a child from Sleepy Eye, MN, maybe about a 2 hour drive from their home. The is also a Ronald McDonald's house for families of children with cancer located near both the U of M Hospital or Children's.
But this mother chose to run and it is reported she was going to Tijuana, Mexico. Probably right now one of the most dangerous cities in Mexico. There is a full scale drug war going down there. Two weeks ago 4 American young adults were found murdered in Tijuana. The gang wars are out of control.
You cannot take some idealist notion to this story without first knowing all the facts. Being retired I have spent a lot of time researching this issue. I have traveled through that area on business for several years, so I know the community.
But I will be the first to say I do not know all the facts about this case other than what I have read, researched or listened to an interview with the parents on KARE11.
Finally, I do not like Koolaid.
lady

Albuquerque, NM

#20 May 22, 2009
I would like to know Why this child is so afraid of the treatment it sounds like he has been school about it in a wrong way this child at this time don't know if he is coming or going all he knows is that he has to run for his life when he is being lied to by someone he trust.

“Obamacs at it's finest!”

Since: Mar 09

Anytown, Minnesota........

#21 May 22, 2009
pffft wrote:
<quoted text>
his parents aren't
nuff said
read his post again before you fire back....this person was clearly writing about the boy himself, not the parents.........'nuff said.......duh....is that a word you can understand?
Spare Me

Saint Paul, MN

#22 May 22, 2009
In the beginning, I could not disagree with what this mother is doing, but it's her child and her decision. What's a third party busy body doing getting involved in the decision making of a parent? Where does the government involvement in THAT situation end? Yes, the mother is a lunatic. Yeah, she's making a bad decision, but it is her decision to make. It is not illegal to be a parent and make a bad decision. If that be the case, all parents could make their permanent address a jail cell.

I still believe all of the above. But now Dad wants them to come home.

OK. It's time to come home....

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