I need to talk

[no name]

I have had herpes now for about 9 years now and I beleive the outbreak are slowing down. Without valtrex the last outbreak was over 7 months ago. Before that one it was about 5 months. I hope this trend continues. I only take valtrex when I feel I am about the break out. I have learned to live with it and it is not the end of the world. Praying does not hurt either.

[janet]

back in nov.06 was diagonosed with herrpes from a nurse. when i went back 4 months later my regular dr examined me and i had nothing wrong period. the nurse was wrong and shes no longer with the clinic. im very tramatized from this and very depressed. what can ido about this?

[lisa]

I've had herpes since 2002 and found the best site is webMD. They have a doctor who is a specialist in the field and you can ask questions. Yes, herpes sucks, but as far as I know, I have never given it to anyone and I think Valtex helps-supposively tests have shown that it reduces transmission 50%. If you don't have insurance, there is always Alcyclovir, which is pretty much the same as valtrex except it doesn't stay in your system as long so you have to take it more often.

[lisa]

cont...Alcyclovir has been around a very long time and has a good safety record. I went to a dermatologist who told my that hsv2 doesn't like the upper part of your body although sometimes I get these little tiny pimples-just 1 at a time that hurt on my tongue. Who knows. Herpes is a very sneaky virus. It can show up in many ways and many things you may think are herpes are something else. Suppossively 1 outta 4 women have herpes but most people don't know it because they don't get symptoms or they go away and they don't think of it. I've read 3 of 4 people don't know they have it-the only way to truely know is with the proper blood test.

[lisa]

the worst part of herpes is the stigma-the emotional burden it tolls. Strangely to me-I have never had a guy turn me down for sex and I always tell-if I am gonna put myself in that position. I've really slowed down on getting intimate-but that can be good. Many guys after things cooled down, I realized I really didn't even want to be with them. Although the stress of getting involved always seems to bring on and outbreak which is a blow to my confindence which always sucks.

[lisa]

People, love yourselves. Herpes is a life risk, and probably as much of a physical problem as hemmoriods. True, no one wants them either and the commercials are funnier, but it's not the end of the world. But if someone rejects you because of an occassional sore once in a while-well, what does that say about them? Actually, I'd rather get a sore on my genitals than my face because no one has to know but me though it's basically the same virus though one is viewed as an embarrassment like a zit, while the other "is so much worse" because people are so ignorant-doctors too-believe me. Anyway-that's my 2 cents worth trying to put a positive spin on something that has such totally negative propaganda about it. God bless you all. Your sister in herpesland.

[anonymous]

Herpes is not the end of the world. I have been living with herpes for three years now. I just recently got out of an eighteeen month relationship with a man during which I used once daily valtrex and condoms. He did not contract herpes. You will feel much better once you are honest. And, if he runs away screaming he's probably an asshole anyways. He may not choose to take the risk with you, and thats okay, but, if he's worth anything he will have empathy for your situation and take the time to investigate it more. This could happen to anyone, try not to feel like such a freak.

[Jamie]

I'm sorry to hear Valtrex doesn't work for you. I have been taking a 1G pill a day for over four years now and haven't had an outbreak since I started taking it. I used to have outbreaks about every four weeks.

Herpes wrote:

By the way, Valtrex is crap. I took it once a day like they talk about and had more symptoms. If anything once a day Vatrex is causing an increase in outbreaks in people who have strong immune symptoms. I bet Glaxo Smith Kline didn't study that aspect of their one a day crap.
I can't wait for GSK's Valtrex patent to expire in 2009 because I think they have slowed the introduction of meaningful R & D because it would interfer with the multi billion dooar Valtrex revenue stream. Have you noticed all the Valtrex ads .. a huge ad campaign trying to milk the public for all its worth.
Can't wait for Merck or Bayer to come in with something and win the gold.

[jane]

hi...the exact same thing happened to me. I got HSV-1 from my boyfriend...if you want to talk email [e-mail]

Stressed wrote:

Hi Micko,
You should check out the Racoon herpes forum at:
http://racoon.com/cgi-bin/dcforum/dcboard.cgi
then go to the support section. That forum is the best I've found and people would answer your questions by all means. I've felt so much better since I found it. I was like you devastated and am still trying to get over it. i was diagnosed with genital herpes type 1 and I must have gotten it through oral sex but don't know when and how because my boyfriend has absolutely no symptoms.
I'm sure you'll find lots of support in the forum I mentioned earlier, make sure you'll check it out.
by the way, I'm in Vnacouver-Canada.
I hope this helps, hang onthere, it'll get better
cheers,

[Roxanne]

My boyfriend cheated I am devastaded its a horrible pain that won't go away

[Depressed]

I just found out that I have herpes. I am so embarrassed that I cannot stand to look at myself in the mirror. Everybody says it is not the end of the world, but it feels like it to me. When I look toward the future, I am not hopeful. Sometimes I just wish I could close my eyes and not wake up again. I cannot talk to anyone because who wants to tell another person they have this dreaded disease. I do not know who I got it from or when. My doctor told me that I have had it for some time. I never had any symptoms until a month ago and this was the last thing I ever thought it would be. I do not know what to do, but I have never felt the hurt that feel right now and I need someone to talk to.

[in your shoes]

I have had it for 3 years and everyday feels like the first day i found out. I am ashamed,depressed,scared,and feel hopeless. I have considered killing myself almost on a daily basis for the past year. I guess the only reason I'm still alive is because I have a nine year old daughter and I dont want to leave her with no one; but i feel so badly about myself that i snap for no reason and feel sometimes like I have no business being her mom because of my mood swings and constant unhappiness. I'm just so afraid that nobody will want to be with me even though I know I have many good qualities (so say my friends).
I have been to a psychiatrist who has helped me come around to the fact that its not the end of the world. But I would really like to talk tosomeone who has found someone that is accepting of this virus, someone who can say that they lived "happily ever after."
Is anybody out there who fits this?
I really need to hear someone say, "I love you anyway!"

[Depressed]

It has been 3 months since I was diagnosed. The only problem I have now is knowing when I am having an outbreak. I am so paranoid. Every little pimple or bump I get, I think it is an outbreak. I am married but at the time I found out, I was getting ready to leave my husband. Now I feel as if I am trapped because who is going to want me now. Although I am trying to deal with this disease, my days are not filled with much happiness. I pray all the time, but sometimes I just feel that God has forsaken me. It's really hard because I do not have anyone I can talk to. My friends are so boogy (?) if I told them, they would not want to be around me. I know I shouldn't call them friends because they are not true friends. I just pray that one day God will show me how to accept what he has allowed to happen to me and move on with my life.

[Jeffrey]

Stdslove..com, it's useful. the site is for people with STDs find support, friendship, info and even love.

[Ursula]

Depressed wrote:

It has been 3 months since I was diagnosed. The only problem I have now is knowing when I am having an outbreak. I am so paranoid. Every little pimple or bump I get, I think it is an outbreak. I am married but at the time I found out, I was getting ready to leave my husband. Now I feel as if I am trapped because who is going to want me now. Although I am trying to deal with this disease, my days are not filled with much happiness. I pray all the time, but sometimes I just feel that God has forsaken me. It's really hard because I do not have anyone I can talk to. My friends are so boogy (?) if I told them, they would not want to be around me. I know I shouldn't call them friends because they are not true friends. I just pray that one day God will show me how to accept what he has allowed to happen to me and move on with my life.

I feel the same way. Well I am not married but i was diagnosed with HSV-2 a month ago, but like you I am also very paranoid with any little pimple or with anything that comes out, sometimes i feel very alone and depressed because its a disease that will never go away its in me for the rest of my life and I ask how the hell are their cures for other STD'S and freaking cancer and not Herpes?

[sad-n-lonely]

i found out that i have hsv 1 on Dec 26 great Christmas present i have never had any outbreaks not even sure what one will look or feel like my last partner was a yr ago so i am guessing i got it from him but now i have kinda come out of the shock and not starting to wronger how do you do anything can you kiss people what can you do what cant you do someone please help me [e-mail]

[cure plz]

I recently got herpes type 1 and it’s ruined my life! I been trying everything you can name but noting works for me. I get major outbreaks several times a month. I don’t even go out to see anyone I just stay in inside the house. I miss my old live. I was at party and passed out when I woke up same girl I didn’t even know was kissing me. And I didn’t think anything of it at the time until week later I started getting pimples all over my mouth and so my brother says to me dude you have herpes. That’s when everything went downhill. I really hope they find a cure soon!!!!!!!!! Am all ways online looking hoping I find something that can help me. And oh ya I run in to the girl and was like way did you kiss me if you knew you had herpes and she said to me with smile on her face “you’re not so hot know” and then laughed. Its new years and am at home well all my friends have the time of their lives. And only 19. Plz I need a cure. I had a great life and know I just want to die because everything is gone. And the funny thing is, the love of my life (the girl I love) I can’t ever see her again because Am sooo embarrassed. I can’t believe this changed my whole life.

[cure plz]

Depressed wrote:

I just found out that I have herpes. I am so embarrassed that I cannot stand to look at myself in the mirror. Everybody says it is not the end of the world, but it feels like it to me. When I look toward the future, I am not hopeful. Sometimes I just wish I could close my eyes and not wake up again. I cannot talk to anyone because who wants to tell another person they have this dreaded disease. I do not know who I got it from or when. My doctor told me that I have had it for some time. I never had any symptoms until a month ago and this was the last thing I ever thought it would be. I do not know what to do, but I have never felt the hurt that feel right now and I need someone to talk to.

I know what you’re going thru. I can’t believe this happened to me. I had a great life but know I get major outbreaks around my mouth several times a month and noting seems to work for me. I can’t even show my face to anyone I hate going out in public.

[jill]

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[Feeling hopeless]

I've known about my Herpes for 10 years now and of the 3 out of 4 guys I've dated since have been repulsed by this information. I don't blame them--I would be freaked out if I was in their shoes. I will never forget the first guy's reaction. Unfortunately I found out I had it after we had already slept together a couple times. He stood up and had to "take a moment" of disgust, as if I had just vomited all over him. I will never forget the look on his face. Whether this has ever happened to you or not, I'd hope you'd appreciate the situation. I think it's worse here in America where everyone is so germaphobic already. Stupid media. I somehow was able to put Herpes in the back of my mind, especially since my doctor said not to worry. I never had symptoms and I probably had type 1... But now after doing research I'm paranoid about some weird on-and-off anal itching (but no sores..?) and now I think it may be HSV-2 instead of 1. I thought if you have any symptoms they would decrease over the years. Is this something else?? Now I'm feeling freaked out and depressed. I don't know how to deal with this!!