I need to talk

[Foundwomen]

Hi Stephanie
50 million Americans plus have herpes and live with it year to year, you are not alone. Please look for support groups in your area by doing a search. Also try MPWH.net for support. Your first outbreak is most times your worst. Try not to be stressed this will make your outbreak worst. Don't eat nuts. Work on building up your immune system. Don't try to kill the person who gave it to you. I know you might be angry. Write me at [e-mail] if I can help more.

[Micko]

Newly diagnosed with hsv2 I'm an african american female, 33 years of age. I was diagnosed on May 12, 2006. I've been deeply depressed and ashamed. I don't have anyone to talk to because I've always been the support person throughout my circle of friends and I havent let any of them know or family i would really appreciate someone to talk to on a one on one basis. I have found some really informative information on all the websites I searched but it just hasn't been enough. I'm self-employed with little insurance so I just cant go runnning to doctors or whatever for answers in which I found out they dont have all the answers if Herpes isnt their normal caseload. I dont even know what an outbreak is supposed to be because I havent experienced nothing like the pictures I saw or even if I should take the suppresive therapy ( as said by the doctor I did visit) I'm sorry for rattling but I need support desperately. [e-mail]

Thanks,
Micko

[Brandy]

Micko wrote:

Newly diagnosed with hsv2 I'm an african american female, 33 years of age. I was diagnosed on May 12, 2006. I've been deeply depressed and ashamed. I don't have anyone to talk to because I've always been the support person throughout my circle of friends and I havent let any of them know or family i would really appreciate someone to talk to on a one on one basis. I have found some really informative information on all the websites I searched but it just hasn't been enough. I'm self-employed with little insurance so I just cant go runnning to doctors or whatever for answers in which I found out they dont have all the answers if Herpes isnt their normal caseload. I dont even know what an outbreak is supposed to be because I havent experienced nothing like the pictures I saw or even if I should take the suppresive therapy ( as said by the doctor I did visit) I'm sorry for rattling but I need support desperately. [e-mail]
Thanks,
Micko

Hi_ I don't have it, don't even know anything about it. But I will be glad to try to help you through it. Do you need someone to talk to?

[Stressed]

Hi Micko,
You should check out the Racoon herpes forum at:
http://racoon.com/cgi-bin/dcforum/dcboard.cgi
then go to the support section. That forum is the best I've found and people would answer your questions by all means. I've felt so much better since I found it. I was like you devastated and am still trying to get over it. i was diagnosed with genital herpes type 1 and I must have gotten it through oral sex but don't know when and how because my boyfriend has absolutely no symptoms.
I'm sure you'll find lots of support in the forum I mentioned earlier, make sure you'll check it out.
by the way, I'm in Vnacouver-Canada.
I hope this helps, hang onthere, it'll get better
cheers,

[girl]

so yeah. im just coming to the realization that i do have this. and ...fuck. i know,its not the end of the world. & i know it doesnt necessarily have to be the end of my sex life. but to even have to say "necessarily" in regards to that is.. horrible. like realistically. if HPV1 and HPV2 can exchange locations, and by letting a girl i may be with in the future go down on me, she could get it, in hpv1 area...i could never let that happen. meaning dental dams would be the like only hope, for the next 50 years of my life... assuming thered even be someone interested in par taking in such inconvenience with me. like even if the person had it too. it can still spread.and who wants to chance that shit in their mouth. right? or vice versa, more so right?.ah. i dunno. hopefully this isnt offensive to anyone. ive clearly not come to terms with this yet. i dunno. someone tell me im wrong. tell me not to be so bleak lol. i wish. i suppose i shall end this ramble.

[Sara]

I'm only 16, and I have been recently diagnosed with the infection. I really need someone to talk to as well, so if anyone is willing to help out, I can be reached at
[e-mail]

[Anonymous]

I was devastated when I was diagnosed with HSV2 in December 2004. My boyfriend at the time told me that he did not have any STDs. You know what he told me, afterwards, that he was sorry. He took off/ran off in March 2005. I became ill. I was diagnosed in April 2005 with Acute Hepatitis B.

I couldn't believe that someone would do that to anyone. It just destroyed my trust in other people. I am very cautious of other people now. I spend most of my time with other family members, who know my condition, and accept me. I live in a relatively small city. Despite HIPAA laws people still disclose other peoples private and personal information, or discuss it with others. I have had people make rude comments around me about "diseases."

[Anonymous]

Sara wrote:

I'm only 16, and I have been recently diagnosed with the infection. I really need someone to talk to as well, so if anyone is willing to help out, I can be reached at
[e-mail]

Talk to your parents, they should know what you are going through. Noone should go through this alone.

[Sara]

Sara wrote:

I'm only 16, and I have been recently diagnosed with the infection. I really need someone to talk to as well, so if anyone is willing to help out, I can be reached at
[e-mail]

Hi Sara, I totally know what you are going through right now, i got diagnosed in April and am still having a difficult time with it, it gets better as time goes on. I will email you and tell you more, but dont stress to much, it isnt the end of the world!

[William]

I was recently diagnosed with herpes. I still can't believe. I wan't it to be a false-positive. I'm gettting a blood test done soon to confirm. Although, it is pretty sure I have it. I had mild symptoms, but the culture test came out positive. I really don't know what to do. I'm dating someone right now, but I don't want to tell him that I was just diagnosed with herpes. Although, I think I should.

[Seymour]

If you have it, you have to tell your partner. I got a brutal case of it 15 months ago from someone I thought I could trust. He has no symptoms but he was with someone who did and he never got tested or told me about it so now I get the honor of being the infected partner and he gets plausible deniability. Once you've spilled the beans you need to follow through by letting them know anytime you think you're having an outbreak. People stepping up and being responsible is the only way we are going to stop this disease. (That being said; shame on me for having unprotected sex, Bad Seymour)

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[Herpes]

I have had it for about 3 years now and the symptoms diminish with time, to the point where I rarely have any kind of outbreak whatsoever. Still, I do not want to give it to my partner, so we have very protected sex.

The unfortunate thing is a condom does not cover the area where the symptoms have occured and I am always worried about viral shedding and touching her with that area at the site or the viral components are in my urine or whatever.

Shedding studies require that participants not wash before coming in for the swab because it washes the available viral stuff away apparently. So washing prior to protected sex certainly doesn't hurt and in fact I literally spray the area with a mild 1-10 bleach solution and then wash off in the shower (I mean I am one clean guy you know and I don't have any symptoms mind you) and then I don't even insert the thing deep enough where skin to skin contact can occur. No deep penetration.

But then I am thinking "what if" in the heat of the moment I do touch her. I could not stand it if she got it. So now I just do oral on her and basically forget about myself. Somewhat of a drag.

Okay, so this is long winded but I have had some time to think about it all, and I have a few comments.

1) There is talk of a vaginal gel that effectively blocks HSV transmission into the vaginal mucosal lining. Music to my ears, does anyone know about it. I have suspected that Astroglide Gel coats the vagina such that it provides at least some kind of a barrier to trap the viral componants. She washes well immediately after sex by the way, and all that stuff washes off. How about it Astroglide with a virocidal agent?

2) What about a more effective spray?(although you can hardly beat 1 - 10 diluted bleach which definately kills HSV2)

3) finally, and I know this sounds bizarre, but what about a pair of latex sex pants that covers that whole area of the male? Shouldn't that be on the market anyway? lol

In the meantime, a vaccine for seronegative females is about to be approved in 2008, but this only prevention for females who don't have HSV 1 or 2 .... it not a cure not a cure.

A cure may be a 5 years out but given the importance of a cure in relation to preventing the transmission of AIDs, it may get a boost.(Hint to the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation.)

Washing good before and her washing afterwards is a must no matter what.

[Herpes]

By the way, Valtrex is crap. I took it once a day like they talk about and had more symptoms. If anything once a day Vatrex is causing an increase in outbreaks in people who have strong immune symptoms. I bet Glaxo Smith Kline didn't study that aspect of their one a day crap.

I can't wait for GSK's Valtrex patent to expire in 2009 because I think they have slowed the introduction of meaningful R & D because it would interfer with the multi billion dooar Valtrex revenue stream. Have you noticed all the Valtrex ads .. a huge ad campaign trying to milk the public for all its worth.

Can't wait for Merck or Bayer to come in with something and win the gold.

[Stressed]

I think you should check this out with your doctor as Valtrex doesn't increase Herpes symptoms.
There's 2 other possibilities:
1- You're not on the right dose of it.
2- Your symptoms aren't due to Herpes. Valtrex should reduce Herpes symptoms. Remember that you can still have other things going on besides having Herpes. I'm a female and every time I get yeast infections I mistake it for Herpes outbreak at first until my yeast test comes back.

[BC Blues]

Well, life has been hell since February. Now its august and I met someone who I told, but problem is i'm a walking outbreak, gone for one day back for 4 weeks, gone for one days back for 3 weeks..... non stop. Will it get better??? And I want to have sex! I don't want him to get it though. Has anyone safely had sex with their boyfriend for a long period of time without transmitting it? I'm going crazy. I feel like life as I know it is over. And to think I used to get upset at the amount of yeast infections.....

[eric]

I have heard of people using oregano and other peppers, because I have had them write to me about it. For myself, I have had very good success with using the special herbs on this site.
http://www.special-herbs.com

eric

[annomyonus]

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[maxi]

2 weeks ago i was diagnosed with herpes. I guess I got it from my ex but I am not sure. the doctor says it could have been in my body for years but i somehow don't want to believe it. I hadn't had sex for 6 months before him. we also had oral sex but I don't have any blisters inside my mouth. can this be? has this ever happend to someone? When I told him that I got an outbreak he was shocked because he didn't have symptoms at all. I blame him on what he has done to me. I know that this won't help but I can't look into his eyes anymore.

[Maura]

i was Diagnosed ohhh 2 1/2 years ago, My ex Had cheated on me with 4+ other girls, and i decided to do the responsible thing and get checked out. Yeehaw. Well, i was in another relationship for 2 years after finding out, was engaged and everything, but it didn't work out. NOW i just met somebody that i'm really interested in. We've had 3 dates, and i'm having a horrible time in telling him this. We haven't had sex or anything, i won't do it untill i tell him. But i'm so scared in telling him This. How?? how are some ways that you guys told your significant others? like, does suppressant treatment really work well? Also, i've had this for 2 and a half years! and this last break out has lasted for 3 MONTHS!!! I don't know what to do. i have a doctor visit the 16th and i could really use some advice for asking my doctor and telling this guy. HELP!!!! Email me pleas3!
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