I feel so ugly and depressed...

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depressed

Norristown, PA

#1 May 5, 2010
I hate being ugly...I hate how all the boys always give the skinny and pretty girls all the attention and leave me and the other ugly girls in the dirt...I have tons of flaws, and sometimes I'm too embarassed of myself to leave the house.
1. I have sensitive skin.
2. I have speech problems, so my voice sounds really stupid. I try correcting my speech but my voice still sounds stupid and boyish even though I'm a girl.
3. I'm not skinny. My grandmother always critsizes me on how I'm not skinny and that I should loose weight. My own grandmother called me chubby.
I had heard her, and literly cried in my room the rest of the day. Even my cousin, we were like best friends, said It's OK. Only she is fat, none of us are. My grandmother didn't even apologize I'm pretty sure she knew that I heard her...I have never forgive her for that.
I hate being ugly and fat. Looks like I wasn't blessed with good looks. It's not fair that some girls are really pretty and some of us are really ugly like me...

“Alpha Omega”

Since: Dec 09

United States

#2 May 5, 2010
depressed wrote:
I hate being ugly...I hate how all the boys always give the skinny and pretty girls all the attention and leave me and the other ugly girls in the dirt...I have tons of flaws, and sometimes I'm too embarassed of myself to leave the house.
1. I have sensitive skin.
2. I have speech problems, so my voice sounds really stupid. I try correcting my speech but my voice still sounds stupid and boyish even though I'm a girl.
3. I'm not skinny. My grandmother always critsizes me on how I'm not skinny and that I should loose weight. My own grandmother called me chubby.
I had heard her, and literly cried in my room the rest of the day. Even my cousin, we were like best friends, said It's OK. Only she is fat, none of us are. My grandmother didn't even apologize I'm pretty sure she knew that I heard her...I have never forgive her for that.
I hate being ugly and fat. Looks like I wasn't blessed with good looks. It's not fair that some girls are really pretty and some of us are really ugly like me...
Life ISN'T fair! Maybe you should be glad boys are passing you by...because it shows how shallow and fickle they are. I was always considered by others to be very pretty. Did it help me out in life? NO! Because then I had predators, stalkers,and men that were after me not because of my character, but because of those superficial reasons. Unfortunately, I was still insecure because most girls are taught by the culture that they have to live up to unreasonable, airbrushed standards. It's impossible.

Be the best person you can be with God's help, and learn not to compare yourself to others is the best advice I can give you.

And, please do forgive your grandmother. She's probably a victim of the culture as well. But you might talk to her and tell her what she said hurt you, and then tell her you forgive her anyway.

And finally, in spite of the superficial people in the world, I believe there is a special someone out there that will love you for who you are.
cody

New Baltimore, MI

#3 May 5, 2010
depressed wrote:
I hate being ugly...I hate how all the boys always give the skinny and pretty girls all the attention and leave me and the other ugly girls in the dirt...I have tons of flaws, and sometimes I'm too embarassed of myself to leave the house.
1. I have sensitive skin.
2. I have speech problems, so my voice sounds really stupid. I try correcting my speech but my voice still sounds stupid and boyish even though I'm a girl.
3. I'm not skinny. My grandmother always critsizes me on how I'm not skinny and that I should loose weight. My own grandmother called me chubby.
I had heard her, and literly cried in my room the rest of the day. Even my cousin, we were like best friends, said It's OK. Only she is fat, none of us are. My grandmother didn't even apologize I'm pretty sure she knew that I heard her...I have never forgive her for that.
I hate being ugly and fat. Looks like I wasn't blessed with good looks. It's not fair that some girls are really pretty and some of us are really ugly like me...
Hey kiddo, I don't know how old you are ?
I have a daughter who's 18 and has poor selfesteem.
She's 5'6", about 150 pounds. She thinks she's fat. She's not, she's perfect. All her friends are about 100 pounds. She hates bathing suit season. So, she's upset already. Her boobs are too big, she has pimples. Big boobs are ok, the zits will pass.
But, she just sees her imperfections when she looks in the mirror.
Men like her for the boobs. She blows them off.
Good for her. She's looking for love in all the wrong ways.
She's in love now, he has some one. Crying alllllll day today.
Where was I going with this ?? I forget.....
Your feelings are valid. It is hard. What you say about the people around you are true.
Very few people are born "beautiful". Very few. Problem is, you see them on tv and in the magazines, then see the girls around you who might be thinner.......
I have no doubt you are a pretty girl. You can't compare yourself to all the other girls.
It does create low selfesteem.
Your voice will be fine. I have the same problem. My voice isn't womanly-sweet-cute either. Never was.
I was very pretty at one time. Lasted a few years, now I'm fat, I have pimples again, no jeans fit me, big butt......etc.
I miss the guys checking me out, but I really don't care anymore ?? This is me, my life, I like me. I'd like to lose weight, but if I don't, I don't.
Look at yourself, the whole you.
You are pretty, inside and out.
I've met very few ugly people in my life and they were men.
If your grandma's words upset you, tell her. If you have to tell her to back off, do it (nicely).
Does any of this help ?
Terri
Faith

Glen Ellyn, IL

#4 May 6, 2010
depressed wrote:
I hate being ugly...I hate how all the boys always give the skinny and pretty girls all the attention and leave me and the other ugly girls in the dirt...I have tons of flaws, and sometimes I'm too embarassed of myself to leave the house.
1. I have sensitive skin.
2. I have speech problems, so my voice sounds really stupid. I try correcting my speech but my voice still sounds stupid and boyish even though I'm a girl.
3. I'm not skinny. My grandmother always critsizes me on how I'm not skinny and that I should loose weight. My own grandmother called me chubby.
I had heard her, and literly cried in my room the rest of the day. Even my cousin, we were like best friends, said It's OK. Only she is fat, none of us are. My grandmother didn't even apologize I'm pretty sure she knew that I heard her...I have never forgive her for that.
I hate being ugly and fat. Looks like I wasn't blessed with good looks. It's not fair that some girls are really pretty and some of us are really ugly like me...
You may think you're ugly but I really doubt that's true. You are probably beautiful on the inside and there will come the day when you realize what that means.Just think about it for a moment.Have you ever wondered why so many models,or movie stars go through life bouncing from one man to the next? Have you ever thought about how they have all that money to burn but it still doesn't make them happy? Have you ever wondered why they go through countless and painful operations to change their appearance? Doesn't seem to me that what you believe is beautiful has helped them very much. I know what it means to feel ugly because I felt that way for a long time myself. I knew what it felt like to feel alone and never fit in but one day I finally came to realize I had so many good things to be found in myself. Funny thing happened after that,people started telling me I was special. They saw something beautiful in me that I never knew I had. I know it's hard to listen and believe when you're so young and hurting but hang in there. You are beautiful......
Tina

United States

#5 Sep 7, 2010
Your probably gorgeous!!! I have this same problem but I have low self esteem because I feel unwanted and been bullied. I'm sorta the one who's very shy and quiet cuz I feel that people wouldn't want to hear what I have to say. And Im tall and skinny with a chubby cheeked face those don't seem to match together. But girl your unique there's only one you so flaunt u tell yourself
' I'm beautiful in the eyes of God and that is all that matters'
also say
' I am beautiful,' constantly and find what's beautiful and unique on you!
josh

Istanbul, Turkey

#6 Aug 16, 2011
I'm an ugly male. It's not that I THINK I'm ugly, it's that I really AM. and yes it sucks.

Look. Probably you're ugly too. But it's usually fixable. If you have a problem with your teeth, go see a dentist. Your nose is too big? it makes you unhappy? go and get it fixed. It's nothing to be ashamed of. Too fat? start a diet. That's the only real way.
priyanka

Mumbai, India

#7 Mar 29, 2012
thats just a passing phase....it will all change one day...dont you worry about it girl!! there are soo many imperfect people out there just pretending to be perfect. all of us are born with some or the other flaws but the important thing is we shouldn't be cribbing about it...concentrate on things that make you happier. n i totally agree wid josh, evrything can be fixed..so love, just work your way out :) one more thing its the personality that matters....not just the good looks...m sure you are blessed with a terrific personality. never ever compare yourself with others cuz you know what...you are special in your way..:)) take care n keep smiling.
DarkAngel

Toronto, Canada

#8 Jun 8, 2012
I don't always think that I am ugly, but I sure photograph ugly. I have everydamn embarrassing flaws which makes one's life miserable.

I am Black, female, ugly (giant nose and lips), acne, hormonal issues, etc...

Life sucks seriously!

Worst, my sibling inherited all the cute stuff.

“benzo hunting”

Since: Jul 11

Newcastle upon Tyne

#10 Jul 8, 2012
Riolu wrote:
What should I do I'm so sad I told best friend goodbye and gave him the right to be the leader of my clan and I told him i won't be on intell I'm older and I told him my life ... Is ruind :(
just chill... Life moves on bro
Fugly

Bandar Seri Begawan, Brunei Darussalam

#11 Jul 22, 2012
depressed wrote:
I hate being ugly...I hate how all the boys always give the skinny and pretty girls all the attention and leave me and the other ugly girls in the dirt...I have tons of flaws, and sometimes I'm too embarassed of myself to leave the house.
1. I have sensitive skin.
2. I have speech problems, so my voice sounds really stupid. I try correcting my speech but my
voice still sounds stupid and boyish even though I'm a girl.
3. I'm not skinny. My grandmother always critsizes me on how I'm not skinny and that I
should loose weight. My own grandmother called me chubby.
I had heard her, and literly cried in my room the rest of the day. Even my cousin, we were like best friends, said It's OK. Only she is fat, none of us are. My grandmother didn't even apologize I'm pretty sure she knew that I heard her...I have
never forgive her for that.
I hate being ugly and fat. Looks like I wasn't blessed with good looks. It's not fair that some girls are really pretty and some of us are really
ugly like me...
I understand how you feel. You and millions of girls your age feel the same way..wherever they come from. You are not the only one.

Im ugly too. there are times when i feel so miserable and insecure over my looks that i start crying and hate my life so much..but then there are times when i forget how ugly i am and not let it bother me too much. Now that i am older and finished highschool i'm always happy. I know that i am ugly and always will be cos lets face it, that cant be changed.

You either learn to accept how you look, go out and live the life of any average girl, or lock
yourself in your room staring at a mirror and cry over how fat and ugly you are. One day you'll realise you have something else to offer that outshines your physical appearance. And boys will love you for that :)
Rikk

Apucarana, Brazil

#14 Oct 24, 2012
I wish I had BDD (Body Dismorphic Disorder), but I don't, I am terribly ugly, a monster. I was teased at school till High School, called "ugly" "Big Head" "Big Nose", guys talked about me behind my back. I hate myself since the day I was Born, I cut myself, got addicted to all kind of drugs to forget my wretched existence.
Horrible people should die to spare them from suffering like me. I tried suicide many times, last time I threw myself off the bridge but I was rescued.
i just wanna die
April

Watsonville, CA

#15 Apr 17, 2013
its ok, there are men out there who like girls with a little meat on their bones, I would say **** those skinny ugly bitches (the ones that work at a drs office and laught about you behind your back, just ignore them, I say this because I am prettier and richer than they are and they cannot compare to me. My man loves me that way I am, not to say anything about race, but I am white and my man is black/mexican and we get along quite well, fuck those bitches and assholes that say your fat, theyre the ones that need to look in the mirror and get a face lift.
depressed wrote:
I hate being ugly...I hate how all the boys always give the skinny and pretty girls all the attention and leave me and the other ugly girls in the dirt...I have tons of flaws, and sometimes I'm too embarassed of myself to leave the house.
1. I have sensitive skin.
2. I have speech problems, so my voice sounds really stupid. I try correcting my speech but my voice still sounds stupid and boyish even though I'm a girl.
3. I'm not skinny. My grandmother always critsizes me on how I'm not skinny and that I should loose weight. My own grandmother called me chubby.
I had heard her, and literly cried in my room the rest of the day. Even my cousin, we were like best friends, said It's OK. Only she is fat, none of us are. My grandmother didn't even apologize I'm pretty sure she knew that I heard her...I have never forgive her for that.
I hate being ugly and fat. Looks like I wasn't blessed with good looks. It's not fair that some girls are really pretty and some of us are really ugly like me...
Anonymous

Baltimore, MD

#16 Apr 17, 2013
I think im fat and ugly. Im 135 pound 5'3" and a male but when I look at my stomach I still think I look fat, my doctor says I have anorexia because I don't/won't eat. But you, I bet you are beautiful. Everybody is beautiful in there own way. I don't want to be in tip-top shape like the other kids, I want to be myself not what others want me to be. This may sound hypocritical but I don't care what others say about me I care what I say about me. Boys passing you by? That's great because when the right one comes he will be the one who won't avoid you and will love you for you.
April

Watsonville, CA

#17 Apr 17, 2013
I replied to this forum, I am myself a little bit fat too, but this does not mean I am ugly, I am beautiful, especially with makeup on. People, even when I pray about it, still like to mock me too. But I ignore them because for one: they dont live with me, they are not my significant other, and three: they are not my mom. I try very hard to not gain weight but its hard sometimes, the food is so good, but I do exercise, and yes, when I was young people teased me too and bullied me, because they said my nose and my eyes were too big, but I won the race. I got my bachelor of arts degree in social science and I am a teacher. So don't give up trying to be who you are, ignore those mean people, and just keep trying, you will succeed and you will have people who like you.
April

Watsonville, CA

#18 Apr 17, 2013
not everyone is a bully, there are nice people out there. Just pray a little and you'll see how things can be nicer. It takes working at it too. You cant expect things to change if you don't do anything about it.
April

Watsonville, CA

#19 Apr 17, 2013
my grandma is dead, she was mean to me too. she gave my sister 10000 to buy a house but she gave me nothing. she never accepted my husband, she doesn't even know I got a divorce and found someone else because she is dead. she was a racist.
gary

Los Angeles, CA

#20 Apr 21, 2013
I can relate to feeling that way.Some times it feels like your the only person that feels that way but a lot of people feel like that I have had problems since about 7th or 8 th grade and now im 27 i still have a low self esteem.I quit school in 2002 and i gain a littie weight and that didn't help but you can try and loose a littie weight but do it for your self because if its not being overweight it the way you talk or you teeth or what you lik.e those are some of the things i was made fun of.
Petur Sveins

Reykjavík, Iceland

#21 Apr 26, 2013
I'm the ugliest of them all:( I HATE IT:( Life is unfair and boring...I feel your pain:( Take care everyone...
exorcism

United States

#22 May 5, 2013
Nobody cares about me. No one ever did.I dont evan like me I HATE myself!!!!!!!
Anonymous

Australia

#23 May 11, 2013
Relax kid, I feel your pain.
Many girls feel forgotten, but you're really not. My flaws are worse than yours. I'm considered a nerd, I'm real hairy and my face is a pimple city. But let me tell you a meaningful story.
I'm not one of the popular girls, and this boy is. I'll give you his name but not mine: Joey.
His was talking with his friend on lunch, and the usual topic of girls came up. The were talking about all the pretty girls and about how annoying they are. You know, some of them kinda b***h a lot.
So anyway, Joey said that he'd rather go for a girl that isn't full-on flash.
My name came up. He said that he'd rather spend the rest of his life with me than he would've with a specific other girl.

After all, when you're 75, you're not sexy/hot/beautiful anymore. And always know that there are other girls in worse positions.
Hope it helped!:)

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