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i have depression that i have fought all my life...ive taken so many antidepressants and had many years of counseling...im a very strong woman but today i had a terribel crying spell, everything building up over one little tihing my husband did triggered years of unresolved issues with him, my son, my daughter, my brothers...goes on and on...i feel so used by everyone and wonder if any other women my age would care to exchange some solutions or just to chat about how you have dealt with life...i am a very spiritual person who has spent most my life doing for other and just feel used up and tired...the thought of going to couseling all over again after years of it wears me out...maybe just to talk with someone here would help...beside i dont have insurance ever if i did...thanks and hope to hear from someone..
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i just have it since my fifties.
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i have battled depression all of my life, i am about to turn 50 and i feel like Earth Girl...all used up...at least she has the support of a husband..i have fought this battle alone...my kids are all grown, i have chronic depression which has been debilitating at most times..i too have spent most of my life doing for others and i feel very used up..my mind is screaming for a change...i have no husband, my kids are grown, i'm strapped to a house with no one in it...when does it stop!

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i have battled depression all of my life, i am about to turn 50 and i feel like Earth Girl...all used up...at least she has the support of a husband..i have fought this battle alone...my kids are all grown, i have chronic depression which has been debilitating at most times..i too have spent most of my life doing for others and i feel very used up..my mind is screaming for a change...i have no husband, my kids are grown, i'm strapped to a house with no one in it...when does it stop!
Depression such as your's is not as uncommon as you think, and it seems to be getting more pronounced in this insane world we're living in. You, dear heart, need deliverance and it can only come permanently and successfully from one place.

I've been there, so I speak from personal experience. I came out of suicidal depression on the other side, delivered and healed. You can too, and find real meaning in life. Isn't that what you're seeking?
http://christianity.about.com/od/depressionan...

Please don't reject this. It's very real. Knowledge,.. at least real knowledge, is power, and freedom.

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Mar 18, 2009
 
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Depression such as your's is not as uncommon as you think, and it seems to be getting more pronounced in this insane world we're living in. You, dear heart, need deliverance and it can only come permanently and successfully from one place.
I've been there, so I speak from personal experience. I came out of suicidal depression on the other side, delivered and healed. You can too, and find real meaning in life. Isn't that what you're seeking?
http://christianity.about.com/od/depressionan...
Please don't reject this. It's very real. Knowledge,.. at least real knowledge, is power, and freedom.
i signed up for the site...there is a something miracoulous about spirituality and it has pulled me through many dark days...my problem is "for me" is to stay consistant with my spirituality, often i will do well then slip back into the dark days and i know that once my beliefs are strong God will pull me through this...thanks for the site. im anxious to read some of the testomonies...i actually have one i could write also...

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Shekanahh wrote:
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Depression such as your's is not as uncommon as you think, and it seems to be getting more pronounced in this insane world we're living in. You, dear heart, need deliverance and it can only come permanently and successfully from one place.
I've been there, so I speak from personal experience. I came out of suicidal depression on the other side, delivered and healed. You can too, and find real meaning in life. Isn't that what you're seeking?
http://christianity.about.com/od/depressionan...
Please don't reject this. It's very real. Knowledge,.. at least real knowledge, is power, and freedom.
you know even with a husband and kids you can be just as lonely. people like us have to find our "own" happieness within ourselves and that is something i have never "allowed" myself. i have spent my entire life trying to find happiness in men, things, drugs, friends, therapy and i will tell you the most wonderful life changing experience i have ever had in my life is when i just boarded a plane went half way across the world with a volunteer team and taught africans HIV safety. just the mere appreciation from these people who have so little, the love i felt from them, the gift of giving from the heart to someone who wants nothing from you but a smile and your presences was life changing and i have to say that the natural high i was on after this three week trip lasted more that two years...i still remain in contact with my african friends by email and had 911 not happen, the world becoming so violent, americans hated now in many country due to the war, it was what God had planned for me. giving and helping others you can do anywhere, even in your own neighborhood and i dont have any problem with that, have done many volunteer postions here, but i just didint feel the "miracle" as i did from a third world country. it just puts your life back in perspective...i so badly need to take that third world trip again...for them and myself...giving is a gift, and giving of just "you" is an incredably healing...

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you know even with a husband and kids you can be just as lonely. people like us have to find our "own" happieness within ourselves and that is something i have never "allowed" myself. i have spent my entire life trying to find happiness in men, things, drugs, friends, therapy and i will tell you the most wonderful life changing experience i have ever had in my life is when i just boarded a plane went half way across the world with a volunteer team and taught africans HIV safety. just the mere appreciation from these people who have so little, the love i felt from them, the gift of giving from the heart to someone who wants nothing from you but a smile and your presences was life changing and i have to say that the natural high i was on after this three week trip lasted more that two years...i still remain in contact with my african friends by email and had 911 not happen, the world becoming so violent, americans hated now in many country due to the war, it was what God had planned for me. giving and helping others you can do anywhere, even in your own neighborhood and i dont have any problem with that, have done many volunteer postions here, but i just didint feel the "miracle" as i did from a third world country. it just puts your life back in perspective...i so badly need to take that third world trip again...for them and myself...giving is a gift, and giving of just "you" is an incredably healing...
Good for you Earth Girl. You're on the right track. We really do reap what we sew.
One suggestion you probably already are aware of, husband, children and family, as wonderfully fulfilling as they can be,(or not), will never fill that deep longing in our soul that only Jesus can fill.
So...serve him joyfully and lovingly, and reap joy and love in return, and only allow those into our live,(our most intimate circle) that add value to our lives, and don't suck the life out of us...ie; the downers.

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Mar 26, 2009
 
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Good for you Earth Girl. You're on the right track. We really do reap what we sew.
One suggestion you probably already are aware of, husband, children and family, as wonderfully fulfilling as they can be,(or not), will never fill that deep longing in our soul that only Jesus can fill.
So...serve him joyfully and lovingly, and reap joy and love in return, and only allow those into our live,(our most intimate circle) that add value to our lives, and don't suck the life out of us...ie; the downers.
so very true...nothing fills my soul like my spirituality. and i have so learned t he hard way to keep the "debbie downers" out of my life...their negativity is infectious...
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May 3, 2009
 
Earth Girl wrote:
i have depression that i have fought all my life...ive taken so many antidepressants and had many years of counseling...im a very strong woman but today i had a terribel crying spell, everything building up over one little tihing my husband did triggered years of unresolved issues with him, my son, my daughter, my brothers...goes on and on...i feel so used by everyone and wonder if any other women my age would care to exchange some solutions or just to chat about how you have dealt with life...i am a very spiritual person who has spent most my life doing for other and just feel used up and tired...the thought of going to couseling all over again after years of it wears me out...maybe just to talk with someone here would help...beside i dont have insurance ever if i did...thanks and hope to hear from someone..
I can totally indentify with you, I also do not want to go back to counseling. I feel used by so many people. I think I finally see the light and have devoted years of my life to others. I have little patience left and don't care what I say to someone. I am no longer the person I use to be. I do feel depressed, but I have battled depression my whole life. I am a spiritual person and have always been a people person. Now I don't care if I talk to anyone. I have no words of wisdom, but it was good to read your post and know I am not alone. Good-Luck
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<quoted text>I can totally indentify with you, I also do not want to go back to counseling. I feel used by so many people. I think I finally see the light and have devoted years of my life to others. I have little patience left and don't care what I say to someone. I am no longer the person I use to be. I do feel depressed, but I have battled depression my whole life. I am a spiritual person and have always been a people person. Now I don't care if I talk to anyone. I have no words of wisdom, but it was good to read your post and know I am not alone. Good-Luck
YOUR AN ANGEL, thank you so much for reading my post...i too am a people person, and actually becoming the opposite now...i am getting to where i dont even feel for anyone anymore...so tired of being used up and pushed aside...im getting isolated...i have family and they are so self centered except my daughter and my freinds tend to be unhealty, dont care to be around them anymore...seems everyone is taking drugs of some kind...everyone is on painkillers to deal with life instead of pain...or are they both the same anymore...i just feel so alone, cant get into anything and life is so good to me yet i am miserable...thanks for llistening.

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Good for you Earth Girl. You're on the right track. We really do reap what we sew.
One suggestion you probably already are aware of, husband, children and family, as wonderfully fulfilling as they can be,(or not), will never fill that deep longing in our soul that only Jesus can fill.
So...serve him joyfully and lovingly, and reap joy and love in return, and only allow those into our live,(our most intimate circle) that add value to our lives, and don't suck the life out of us...ie; the downers.
wow...you couldnt of said that better, people suck the life out of you...life is just hard...its not for sissys!! im not on this forum much so was glas to read your response...need to catch up on those who responded. thanks again...and please give me any advice...it all helps!!!
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YOUR AN ANGEL, thank you so much for reading my post...i too am a people person, and actually becoming the opposite now...i am getting to where i dont even feel for anyone anymore...so tired of being used up and pushed aside...im getting isolated...i have family and they are so self centered except my daughter and my freinds tend to be unhealty, dont care to be around them anymore...seems everyone is taking drugs of some kind...everyone is on painkillers to deal with life instead of pain...or are they both the same anymore...i just feel so alone, cant get into anything and life is so good to me yet i am miserable...thanks for llistening.
hey earth girl, your duche bag is hangin in tree, dont forget it, you need it. clean
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so very true...nothing fills my soul like my spirituality. and i have so learned t he hard way to keep the "debbie downers" out of my life...their negativity is infectious...
I have been deeply depressed for 1 1/2 years, since my husband hired someone to do my work as office manager in his naturopathic medical clinic. I was working there while I developed my own counseling business with EFT....but it was not working. My self-esteem was starting to go down the toilet. I am becoming aware that I possibly have not really loved this man for 10 years now. Mort Fertel, of the Marriage Fitness Boot-camp talks about role mates and soul mates. I am afraid I have been a role mate and it is very dissatisfying. I am not sure what Love is anymore. I went into searhcing out the Jesus thing and I read materail on Aethists and their understanding of the bible--becoming Chrisitan and christians knowledge of the bible beocming Agnostic. It became insane making so I just returned to my simple metaphysical thinking of one benficent God.

I have ocme into $25,000 and would like to go volunteer somewhere that would give me perspective and I don't know how to do that. Anyone have any ideas?

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I have been deeply depressed for 1 1/2 years, since my husband hired someone to do my work as office manager in his naturopathic medical clinic. I was working there while I developed my own counseling business with EFT....but it was not working. My self-esteem was starting to go down the toilet. I am becoming aware that I possibly have not really loved this man for 10 years now. Mort Fertel, of the Marriage Fitness Boot-camp talks about role mates and soul mates. I am afraid I have been a role mate and it is very dissatisfying. I am not sure what Love is anymore. I went into searhcing out the Jesus thing and I read materail on Aethists and their understanding of the bible--becoming Chrisitan and christians knowledge of the bible beocming Agnostic. It became insane making so I just returned to my simple metaphysical thinking of one benficent God.
I have ocme into $25,000 and would like to go volunteer somewhere that would give me perspective and I don't know how to do that. Anyone have any ideas?
call global volunteers and if you decide to do this please email me back on this site. i would be very willing to be your friend and voluteer wtih you. you will find a new sense of renewal from this volutneer work..
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If we are true christians, we would want to help the Debbie downers. wouldn't we? They maybe need someone to talk to, someone to listen, just a friend may be all they need to feel like they have someone that cares would be enough to not feel so down.
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my mate for the past 15 years dumped me for someone new. my kids at the same time it seems have their own life. the break up not only do you stop being with him, all your friends and events youve always done are gone with him. i spend hours,days, months without talking to anyone going anywhere . turned 53 and no longer get looked at by men like i did 5 short years ago. i am self employed and work alone so i really feel like i no longer am alive. i even try to get kids to watch a movie with me but they are busy and i understand but this is hell and i use to be so busy taking care of everyone andd going out having fun then i hit this brick wall and presto it all changed. I wish the brick wall would of killed me.
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my mate for the past 15 years dumped me for someone new. my kids at the same time it seems have their own life. the break up not only do you stop being with him, all your friends and events youve always done are gone with him. i spend hours,days, months without talking to anyone going anywhere . turned 53 and no longer get looked at by men like i did 5 short years ago. i am self employed and work alone so i really feel like i no longer am alive. i even try to get kids to watch a movie with me but they are busy and i understand but this is hell and i use to be so busy taking care of everyone andd going out having fun then i hit this brick wall and presto it all changed. I wish the brick wall would of killed me.
I so identify with you, and my heart right now is breaking, for you and for me. We will get through these terrible times though, I know it, hang in there...I will pray for us both. I am 56, and my husband of 34 years and I have just started going through divorce proceedings. We have no children, have a business which is failing in this bad economy, tons of credit card debt, the house is in bad shape...I work on our business from home and so like you feel so isolated and lonely. I have to force myself to talk to people or to do anything. Many days I don't leave the house. I did just start to go back to church a couple of weeks ago after years of absence - one of the toughest things I've done in awhile since I'm fearful and ashamed about talking to anybody about my situation. On top of that, I've always had a difficult relationship with my mother, who can be quite critical (especially when she drinks) and just the past few days she's seemed to have turned on me over old issues with her and my father's divorce when I was 18. I just emailed and told her that I don't think we should be in touch for awhile because I need supportive people around me right now. I hate to say something hurtful like that to her, but I just can't take any more arguments right now. So, like you, things are very hard right now. But God loves you, and loves me, and we will get through this! Please hang in there. Things will get better - I keep telling myself that.
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Thanks for your kind words. I do know there is many women who end up aloneYou can see it on thier faces everywhere. How sad that is.
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I so identify with you, and my heart right now is breaking, for you and for me. We will get through these terrible times though, I know it, hang in there...I will pray for us both. I am 56, and my husband of 34 years and I have just started going through divorce proceedings. We have no children, have a business which is failing in this bad economy, tons of credit card debt, the house is in bad shape...I work on our business from home and so like you feel so isolated and lonely. I have to force myself to talk to people or to do anything. Many days I don't leave the house. I did just start to go back to church a couple of weeks ago after years of absence - one of the toughest things I've done in awhile since I'm fearful and ashamed about talking to anybody about my situation. On top of that, I've always had a difficult relationship with my mother, who can be quite critical (especially when she drinks) and just the past few days she's seemed to have turned on me over old issues with her and my father's divorce when I was 18. I just emailed and told her that I don't think we should be in touch for awhile because I need supportive people around me right now. I hate to say something hurtful like that to her, but I just can't take any more arguments right now. So, like you, things are very hard right now. But God loves you, and loves me, and we will get through this! Please hang in there. Things will get better - I keep telling myself that.
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If we are true christians, we would want to help the Debbie downers. wouldn't we? They maybe need someone to talk to, someone to listen, just a friend may be all they need to feel like they have someone that cares would be enough to not feel so down.
Sarah, I truly believe in encouraging people who are going through rough times, but you see...the real "Debbie Downers" of the world seem to be those who often deliberately try to bring others down with their negative spirit.

Christians are going through some very difficult times themselves, and those on this particular thread who've just been divorced from husbands who have left them for someone else, plus other complications in family and business have a need to nurture themselves and perhaps spend time sorting things out in their own lives before entering into caring for others right now. JMO :)

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