Dating and dentures
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Dateless

Lexington, MA

#1 Jul 27, 2008
I got married about 8 years ago, had dentures put in due to severe injuries from kickboxing. My wife at the time understood that i got dentures because one day i wanted to have children and i din't want them to be made fun of because their daddy didn't have any teeth. Well, 8 years later and no children, i am still in my early 30's and i am having a hard time motivating myself to get out there and date. I am kind of embarrased to tell my potential "date" that i have full dentures and don't want to freak her out if in the middle of the night she woke up to find me w/ no teeth. How do i overcome this issue and will i ever? i love my smile and I "NEVER" have any pain, which i absolutely love. I remember prior to getting my dentures the pain use to be so bad, i wanted to chop my head off - i couldn't eat, couldn't lay down,constant headaches...uuuggghhhh, there is nothing more painful that pain in your mouth.....well, if anyone has any idea's or advice on how i can overcome this fear or insecure feelings i would greatly appreciate it. i don't want to be alone for the rest of my life and i want to have children one day. Are there many people out there under the age of 33 that wear dentures?
Pinnock

Burlington, Canada

#2 Aug 2, 2008
I don't even have an answer for you. But, I wanted you to know you are not alone in this.
I do have a brother. Lost all his upper teeth at early age (18). He has been married for about 20 years. Two beautiful boys and a wife you still thinks he is King.
So keep looking for the right person and they will understand and not freak..
Best Wishes
Nancy

Norristown, PA

#3 Aug 2, 2008
Unfortunately, I don't think I'll be much help either. I just got my full dentures 5 days ago. It's an issue I've yet to consider myself.

I take it you no longer practice kickboxing? Maybe in the course of casual conversation (the ol' "What do you do for fun" question), you could work in that you were one at one time, but no longer practice due to all the injuries, and see where it goes from there.

There must be other sportsmen (hockey players and extreme sports practitioners immediately come to mind) who have been in this situation. Perhaps on forums for various sports you may come across a thread on how these people have/had to deal with injuries. This may help build confidence, and you might even find a pointer or two in there.

My dad is in his late seventies, and has been a widower for 23 years. He's worn dentures for over 30 years now. To this day, he doesn't have a problem getting dates - even with women in their thirties!

Pinnock has a point - the right one will understand. And you'll know how to spot her easily enough once you get out there.

Good luck.
Nancy

Norristown, PA

#4 Aug 2, 2008
Oh, yeah - almost forgot.

I'll just answer before you ask. ;)

I'm 48.

Since: Sep 08

Dartmouth, Canada

#5 Sep 28, 2008
i heard you can use denture adhesive as a leg wax, i think im going to try it out on my back. wish me luck!
Gary

Cleethorpes, UK

#7 Nov 3, 2008
I'm 19 !

But i'm only having a partial denture for 3 teeth 1 of which on the front. It sucks. I have a major fear of my mouth being numbed there for im limited to treatment. So far i've had 6 fairly big fillings with no pain relief what so ever.. about 4 more to go! Teeth are such a pain, I can't wait untill I can smile with confidence! The other 2 teeth which will soon have soon be dentured are on the side and show when I smile.

Got some questions though..

Do they ever fall out or come loose when you laugh??

Do you have to take partial dentures out when you eat?? sleep?

Can I chew gum, toffee's sticky stuff etc?

cheers
brigette

San Jose, CA

#8 Feb 24, 2009
The dentist told me I should get upper dentures, I am 42, and always in pain, but I keep putting it off, I am terrified. I just don't know what to do.
dawn

Swansea, UK

#9 Aug 13, 2009
i am due to have dentures in a couple of weeks as my teeth am horrible through smoking im afraid they wont look like my own teeth
MerryMac

Denver, CO

#10 Aug 14, 2009
Dawn, you should be able to have them made in wax first so you can see what they will look like and the lab that is making them should let you give them pictures of what you look like before the extractions.

Brigette, I put off having my uppers extracted for two years knowing I had a terrible infection. It was risky but I wasn't in any pain, so I waited.

If there is any way to repair or restore the teeth that are causing you pain, please do that.
Dentures are no fun, they are a huge adjustment, and losing your own teeth is a big emotional loss.
However, all of us here have made it through and I suspect you will too.

Keep us posted...we are all here to help.
MerryMac

Denver, CO

#11 Aug 15, 2009
Since this topic has come back to surface, I want to add that I once dated a man who had a full upper denture. He never mentioned it and had I not noticed Polident in his bathroom, I never would have know it...and we shared some pretty HOT kisses too. ;-)
Paul

Houston, TX

#12 Sep 12, 2009
Hello to all the people who feel good to talk about their smiles. My teeth have had problems since I was a young child (somewhere before the age of 10). I don't know what the medical definition is called of what I have, but I was born with regular baby teeth and only developed a handful of adult teeth. This is an inherited problem, and my mother and brother have similar conditions. When I was 16 in 1987, I was taken to an orthodontist and was put on a long term program to try and fix my smile. Ended up having jaw surgery and had some teeth removed in the process. Now before I go on, imagine looking at the smile of a Jack-o-lantern wearing braces. Though it was not officialy like that, it was pretty darn close. In late 1991 and early 1992, I finally got the braces off and was given retainers with some partials to fill in the gaps. At this time, I was working a partime job with no insurance, so getting regular partials was out of the question. Towards the end of 1999, I got accepted at The University of Texas Dental School on another program to help me smile again. The problem, though, was that I could not wear anything in my mouth for 6 months and had another tooth removed. By mid summer of 2000, I was finally smiling ear to ear. But it does not end there.....
Since early 2003, a lower back molar started to slowly chip away. The good thing for that tooth was that it had filling in it. Early this year, I got accepted again back into the school and am currently seeing a dental student. I just got that tooth removed over a week ago and now I have to wait till early October to get my new partial. This will probably not be the last of what I've had to live with throughout my life. But for now, I am just glad to be able to smile.
Deborah

Penticton, Canada

#13 Nov 22, 2009
So how does one tell a date about having dentures? What right words are there to say without feeling embarrassed or ashamed? And when is the best time to say something?
Deborah

Penticton, Canada

#14 Nov 22, 2009
Oh and another thing? Is it just me? or does anyone else feel that the molar part of any dentures still don't chew food as well as they should? Not sharp enough or something.Like chewing with two by fours...lol jk I have a lower implant bar denture and top regular denture
Angel

Santee, CA

#15 Nov 22, 2009
If your teeth are acrylic they will not grind your food as they are not sharp enough. If they are porcelain then your bite must be off because porcelain are hard as rocks and can grind up anything.

The time to tell someone that your teeth aren't yours is when you say, yep, these are mine, bought and paid for, and let it go.

Since: Jun 09

Longmont, CO

#16 Nov 22, 2009
I wouldn't tell a date that I had dentures...it's just a date. After many dates, and if you and the person are getting into a relationship and if the subject comes up then...what Angel said.

Chewing with two by fours...lol, that's about right.
Jules

Mill Hall, PA

#17 Nov 22, 2009
I just receive a cast partial for upper (2 on left and 3 or right & lower (2 on right) about 3 weeks ago. I cannot speak clearly and eating is almost a joke. Very uncomfortable to wear them. Dentist says it takes getting used to. I have large wires on upper eye teeth and large wire on tooth to hold partials in. I opted not to have any wires when shown the models but thus this is what I got. They are telling me the permanent partial that I will receive in 4-6 months (FlexLytes) will be better but I am very apprehensive. If nothing else it is a good weight loss program as food does not taste good and it is very difficult to eat anything. My speech is what bothers me the most and I definitely do not smile with the wires clearly visible. Please help me understand if I should be pursuing with dentist or if this is normal as dentist is stating. Thanks.

Since: Oct 09

Plano, TX

#18 Nov 23, 2009
Jules wrote:
I just receive a cast partial for upper (2 on left and 3 or right & lower (2 on right) about 3 weeks ago. I cannot speak clearly and eating is almost a joke. Very uncomfortable to wear them. Dentist says it takes getting used to. I have large wires on upper eye teeth and large wire on tooth to hold partials in. I opted not to have any wires when shown the models but thus this is what I got. They are telling me the permanent partial that I will receive in 4-6 months (FlexLytes) will be better but I am very apprehensive. If nothing else it is a good weight loss program as food does not taste good and it is very difficult to eat anything. My speech is what bothers me the most and I definitely do not smile with the wires clearly visible. Please help me understand if I should be pursuing with dentist or if this is normal as dentist is stating. Thanks.
Jules, go to this Thread: "Cheer up New Denture Wearers" and read through the posts. It is worth it.

My 2 cents:- If you opted NOT to have wires, then insist upon it. If they try to persuade you that this is 'how it should be', you might want to find another dentist. I wanted no metals or chemicals (phthalates & Bisphenol A) leaching in my mouth, because this is a very long term, daily exposure through inhalation, ingestion, and direct mouth tissue absorption. When my permanent dentures came back from the lab with metal bracing them, I demanded a refund and went to another dentist to make my dentures.
I understand what you mean by "eating and speaking is a joke"...there are a lot of us who have had to fight hard in order to get improvements on these aspects.
Jules

Jersey Shore, PA

#19 Nov 27, 2009
Thanks for the direction to this forum. I guess I picked the wrong forum to add my comment.
Carol

Baldwinsville, NY

#20 Jan 4, 2010
I recently began dating after my divorce. I wear
full dentures - uppers and lowers! They look very
natural, I am able to eat everything, and my speech
is clear. I smile with ease and do not worry about
my teeth being false. I know that sex is in the
picture with the wonderful guy I am dating. He
has no idea that I have dentures - loves my smile!
For oral sex or french kissing my teeth could be
a problem. Do I take them out at night? Should
I tell him about my dental secret?
Angel

Santee, CA

#21 Jan 5, 2010
Carol, why are they a secret? If you are so happy with them and it doesn't bother you, then it shouldn't matter to him. If it does, then he is the wrong guy for you and better you learn his predujices now rather than later. God forbid you had to have a breast removed. Don't pre-worry your sex life - that's not the biggest problem you will have in a long-lasting relationship. Very happy to hear that you have adjusted so well to your dentures - I will keep my finger's crossed that he does too.
BTW - Will someone please tell me why you keep your dentures a secret? I don't bring them up as an after-dinner topic, but I don't deny them - haven't run into anyone who seems to have a problem with it.

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