What They Are and Why to Avoid Them( Bipolar )

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Pronoti

Champaign, IL

#1 Sep 8, 2009
My husband is a complete Jerk and Bipolar . I know why normal people avoid him.

http://bipolar.about.com/od/support/a/070315_...

Since: Oct 09

Wichita Kansas

#2 Oct 12, 2009
Your lumping us all up into a stereotype based on your experience with your husband, I am not a jerk , I can be a jerk and a lot more, but that is usually in response to someone being ignorant to the facts about being Bipolar.
missiea

Stevens Point, WI

#3 Nov 8, 2009
I agree with dentec,if you don't suffer from bipolar disorder you've got no right to any opinion, and how do you even know what normal is.
It's not normal to be cruel to your own husband!

Since: Oct 09

Wichita Kansas

#4 Nov 17, 2009
missiea, Thanks for posting, so many people get the wrong idea about people who suffer with Bipolar Disorder, you can't judge everyone with the Disorder based on the acts of a few, in reality most people with Bipolar Disorder spend most of the time Depressed, particularly if there not on any medication.It doesn't take a Disorder to be a jerk anybody can be a jerk. I say define Normal ! what is normal ? depends on who you ask what religion they are "if any" how they were raised what part of the world they live in ect ect ect, you can't really pin down what normal is only what's maybe reasonable.
Ashley

United States

#5 Mar 19, 2010
The person who made this topic is obviously hurting, and you guys just told him/her that their feelings don't matter. Great job. You're giving a GREAT name to bipolar people.

Since: Apr 08

Quit date: 1/10/2008

#6 Mar 23, 2010
Are there any good on line support groups for people with family members that are bipolar. I need a place to vent when my sister attacks me. That does not mean I think all people with bipolar disorder are jerks. But it does mean it hurts me tremendously and I need to learn to cope with it.
jayden

Chicago Heights, IL

#7 May 26, 2010
excuse me! You're a real bitch for saying that stuff for people with bipolar! I have it and I'm guilty of loving too much and my feelings get hurt and I talk things out calmly. It's people like you that make our lives harder and piss me off the most. Why don't you look in the mirror and see what kind of person you are before you judge someone for something they can't help!
Very curious

Boston, MA

#8 May 30, 2010
I was involved with a bipolar girlfriend for a while. I wish I knew she was bp while I was dating her. I would have educated myself as to how to handle certain things she did. I don't know if she even knows she's bipolar or just kept it from me on purpose. She mentioned having seizures and being suicidal, but, blamed them on her ex-husband. She told me she left him because he never did anything she asked him to and that he was abusive. She claims the abuse of her former husband drove her into having some quick relationships with a bunch of different guys. She wouldn't have done it except he drove her to it with all his abuse. She told me she normally wouldn't have done that. When we first started dating, she used to keep me up all night talking. She would try to manipulate the conversation to keep me on the phone. For example she would keep bringing up heavy subjects about abuse so I would feel guilty about hanging up. Sometimes she would accuse me of something ridiculous just to keep me on the phone. She would also tell me If I hung up it was because I didn't love her as much as she loved me and on and on. I noticed she seemed to "fall in love way" to fast. After a very short time, she wanted to marry me. I was very taken by her and I was tempted, but, I saw many red flags that slowed down my commitment to her. She could be very abusive verbally and she could also be very controlling. In the end I reluctantly broke up with her after she started pushing me away and went from wanting to talk to me all the time to only wanting to text me occasionally.
She told me she was too depressed and ill to talk to me and I was really hurt by it. I told her that if she really loved me she would want me around to help her with her problems. She would tell me I was pressuring her too much. I thought she might be trying to dump me, so I broke up with her by email. She wouldn't pick up the phone. She married a guy way older than her after only 3 months of dating him. I would like some people who are bipolar to help me understand why she did this. Is it possible she loved me? And does she love this other guy? What do you think the chances of this marriage working out are? What was she thinking when she married him? By the way, I heard she was 1 1/2 hours late for her wedding. Are some bipolar people just evil like the rest of the population? Just curious. I would like any enlightenment anyone who is bipolar can give me or any understanding anyone who has dealt with bipolar people can give me. It will help me deal with what happened and hopefully make me a more educated and understanding person.
Clown

Champaign, IL

#9 Jun 1, 2010
Only Psychriatists know the answer of " Why,where,when" this kind of question. Form my personal life experience-- you can not-- NEVER EVER fix a BP person. If you are not married yet, stay away from BP people. It's a serious Brain (biological) disease .
Very curious wrote:
I was involved with a bipolar girlfriend for a while. I wish I knew she was bp while I was dating her. I would have educated myself as to how to handle certain things she did. I don't know if she even knows she's bipolar or just kept it from me on purpose. She mentioned having seizures and being suicidal, but, blamed them on her ex-husband. She told me she left him because he never did anything she asked him to and that he was abusive. She claims the abuse of her former husband drove her into having some quick relationships with a bunch of different guys. She wouldn't have done it except he drove her to it with all his abuse. She told me she normally wouldn't have done that. When we first started dating, she used to keep me up all night talking. She would try to manipulate the conversation to keep me on the phone. For example she would keep bringing up heavy subjects about abuse so I would feel guilty about hanging up. Sometimes she would accuse me of something ridiculous just to keep me on the phone. She would also tell me If I hung up it was because I didn't love her as much as she loved me and on and on. I noticed she seemed to "fall in love way" to fast. After a very short time, she wanted to marry me. I was very taken by her and I was tempted, but, I saw many red flags that slowed down my commitment to her. She could be very abusive verbally and she could also be very controlling. In the end I reluctantly broke up with her after she started pushing me away and went from wanting to talk to me all the time to only wanting to text me occasionally.
She told me she was too depressed and ill to talk to me and I was really hurt by it. I told her that if she really loved me she would want me around to help her with her problems. She would tell me I was pressuring her too much. I thought she might be trying to dump me, so I broke up with her by email. She wouldn't pick up the phone. She married a guy way older than her after only 3 months of dating him. I would like some people who are bipolar to help me understand why she did this. Is it possible she loved me? And does she love this other guy? What do you think the chances of this marriage working out are? What was she thinking when she married him? By the way, I heard she was 1 1/2 hours late for her wedding. Are some bipolar people just evil like the rest of the population? Just curious. I would like any enlightenment anyone who is bipolar can give me or any understanding anyone who has dealt with bipolar people can give me. It will help me deal with what happened and hopefully make me a more educated and understanding person.
Not a h8r

Brookfield, IL

#10 Jun 2, 2010
A mentally healthy person who has clear boundaries can date a bipolar person. All others please do not bother with these wonderful caring souls. You clearly are not healthy enough yourelves to date them!
dude

Colorado Springs, CO

#11 Jun 7, 2010
i dont know, im bipolar, and im kind of nice, but if i get pissed off, which is hard to do, but when i do get pissed off at someone, i stay pissed off at them, sometimes years or several months, even my best friends have seen my bipolar side, and sadly, as i got older, my mental disorder got worse and worse. As a result, i have very few friends. just my band mates, which is all i really need... that and maybe a lady friend... sigh...
The best way I can describe.. Its like your brain is twisted. bipolar people get very wraped up in things that they feel strong emotions towards. Bipolar people tend to be more emotional then most people. They tend to exaggerate situations and their feelings take control of them, any thing can set them off.
My mother is very bipolar. she is probably 10 times worse than me, I thought i had it bad... I remember when i was a kid, she would come home from work and just start screaming at me, because she had a shitty day or something, and hit me and throw stuff.. I would run to my room or run outside and she would scream at me out window or behind the locked door. After a few hours she would find me and hug me bunches and say how sorry she was and how horrible she felt about the whole situation, she would start crying and say stuff like "im such a horrible mother, im so sorry" and if i didn't say something like: "no its ok, i still love you, you are a wonderful mother" she would get pissed off and slap me. These kind of outbursts happened everyday sometimes multiple times a day. I was the only one she had in her life to take it out on. I never really saw my dad that much, so i was pretty much with her everyday from when i was a baby all the way up until i moved out when i was 17..
I dont think there is any right situation to call a woman a bithc... i love my mom, because she is all that i had. But her violent outbursts made me who i am today. I will never be the same. My relationships with women always end in tragedy, and i think that is a pretty good reason why... Im so afraid of being hurt. It feels like my heart is forever broken.
wow, that was actually really hard for me to write.. come to think of it, i never even remembered how bad she was until now... I didn't realize how often her outbursts happened.
Im sorry if that was kind of disturbing, i needed to write it down
Thomas

Boston, MA

#12 Jun 15, 2010
dude wrote:
i dont know, im bipolar, and im kind of nice, but if i get pissed off, which is hard to do, but when i do get pissed off at someone, i stay pissed off at them, sometimes years or several months, even my best friends have seen my bipolar side, and sadly, as i got older, my mental disorder got worse and worse. As a result, i have very few friends. just my band mates, which is all i really need... that and maybe a lady friend... sigh...
The best way I can describe.. Its like your brain is twisted. bipolar people get very wraped up in things that they feel strong emotions towards. Bipolar people tend to be more emotional then most people. They tend to exaggerate situations and their feelings take control of them, any thing can set them off.
My mother is very bipolar. she is probably 10 times worse than me, I thought i had it bad... I remember when i was a kid, she would come home from work and just start screaming at me, because she had a shitty day or something, and hit me and throw stuff.. I would run to my room or run outside and she would scream at me out window or behind the locked door. After a few hours she would find me and hug me bunches and say how sorry she was and how horrible she felt about the whole situation, she would start crying and say stuff like "im such a horrible mother, im so sorry" and if i didn't say something like: "no its ok, i still love you, you are a wonderful mother" she would get pissed off and slap me. These kind of outbursts happened everyday sometimes multiple times a day. I was the only one she had in her life to take it out on. I never really saw my dad that much, so i was pretty much with her everyday from when i was a baby all the way up until i moved out when i was 17..
I dont think there is any right situation to call a woman a bithc... i love my mom, because she is all that i had. But her violent outbursts made me who i am today. I will never be the same. My relationships with women always end in tragedy, and i think that is a pretty good reason why... Im so afraid of being hurt. It feels like my heart is forever broken.
wow, that was actually really hard for me to write.. come to think of it, i never even remembered how bad she was until now... I didn't realize how often her outbursts happened.
Im sorry if that was kind of disturbing, i needed to write it down
You have nothing to feel sorry about. It sounds like you endured alot. My advice to you would be to tell yourself the abusive ends here. You can change and be who you want to be. I know you can because you can see what you are doing that you need to change. You can become what you believe you can become. Stop beating yourself up. You need to learn to love yourself. Not in an egotistical way, but, in a proper way that helps you enjoy life. Remember...You can't love someone else till you love yourself. Work on being the best person you can be. You can do it.. I KNOW YOU CAN!!! YOU JUST HAVE TO BELIEVE IT!! Tell yourself many times throughout the day and everyday that you are a good person who treats people with love and respect and that you deserve to be loved and you will see a change occur. You have to trust the process. Our subconscious mind believes everything our conscious mind tells it. You have been telling yourself so many negative things about yourself and your mother did too. You have been believing all these lies about yourself. STOP IT NOW! Change your inner dialogue and you will feel and act more in tune with what you want to be as a person. Every time you think something negative about yourself say STOP!!! And think something positive. Smile more. Start doing nice things for strangers, animals or anyone you meet throughout the day and you will build your self-esteem. I wish you the best.
from one of them

Crofton, MD

#13 Sep 2, 2011
Ummm... There are lot's of bipolar people who are really nice. maybe the people that you know need some meds.
momo

Brooklyn, NY

#14 Mar 8, 2012
I have to say, I dislike the implications that bipolar and depressed people are somehow extra caring and sensitive. I find that's actually not the case--they are only selectively so.

I don't think it's good for people with these symptoms to be congratulated when they could instead be helped by proper, non pharma-centric forms of therapy involving real life coping strategies and in depth analysis. This however is not as profitable as drugs so until the infrastructure changes most can't afford to be patient I guess.

I've had all. kinds of symptoms that if I'd been born into a certain school system, I'd've been medicated for life long ago. but I got sent to montessori school, and screamed ranted and raved my way through childhood to frazzled but tolerant enough parents to realize that part of the reason for my state was that they were imperfect jerks sometimes(true story) and I repeatedly reminded them. Then, In my early twenties, because I lacked any social skills, I approached love in crazy, obnoxious, stalkerly ways.

But I cured all this with my mind-tools, and now I'm a magical adult. And you can too.

These are some links of value stating the serotonin model is pure theory:
http://www.ahrp.org/cms/index2.php...

http://www.plosmedicine.org/article/info:doi/...

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