Need suggestions for 13 year old son

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Sue

United States

#1 Apr 26, 2011
Alex, my 13 yr old son has wet the bed about 10 times over the past couple months. He was potty trained by age 2 and has only worn boxers since then. My husband was a bedwetter until age 19, so the Dr. said we could easily have this problem for few years. Alex refuses to let me put a plastic sheet on his bed since his friends are often in his room. He refuses to change his wet sheets. When I mention wearing some kind of protection he will not even discuss it. Honestly, he is a little bit of a brat and I know he was one that picked on another scout last summer at scout camp about bedwetting, so I know he doesn't want any part of it. He is a very outgoing, popular, athletic, and opinionated kid. Should I force him in diapers at his point? Any suggestions on how to do this?
be the parent

United States

#2 Apr 26, 2011
I would give him a choice of a mattress protector or goodnites. And make him change his own bed. If he doesn't change it,he's the one that has to sleep in it. Worked for my son.
Chris

Tacoma, WA

#3 Apr 26, 2011
In terms of forcing him to wear protection, generally there is a bigger fight when you don't give a child/teen choices. Let him make a choice between the mattress protector and Goodnites. But don't give him an option of the status quo. This worked for my son. He chose the mattress protector at first, but got tired of changing his sheets every morning and the risk of his friends noticing it. He then decided Goodnites weren't so bad. I let him make the decision on whether to wear them but i only gave him the 2 options. He was allowed to go without either if he had 7 dry nights in a row.
dealing wihth 13 year old

Australia

#4 Apr 27, 2011
firstly make him take respocibilty for washing and changing sheet and if he refusses then it is his problems just let him sleep in it he will soon start taking charge or his freinds are going to find out. if he do's not want to change his sheet make him pull the blankets back on the bed every moring so it can dry and so it shows to anyone who may come over. as for matress protection i would put it on anyway these days one would not even notice unlike when i was a kid and the sound of the hard plastic was a give away every time. get him some goodnights any way but it would be his choose to wear.
Justin

UK

#5 Apr 27, 2011
Make sure he wears goodnites/drynites before he goes to bed :-)
NO NECK NICK

Moline, IL

#6 Apr 27, 2011
Hang his wet pissy sheets out in the front yard with a big sign saying "my 13yr old son still pees the bed"

Since: Feb 10

Saint Marys, PA

#7 Apr 27, 2011
>> PUT HEM IN DIAPERS !!!!!!!
nappy girl

Liverpool, UK

#8 Apr 27, 2011
i was put in nappies at 12 it saved a lot of washing and was only glad to put in nappies i still wet the bed now and stillin nappies

“dad to a 12 year-old bedwetter”

Since: Apr 11

n/a

#9 Apr 27, 2011
have a polite conversation with him with the merits or having a mattress protector on his and wearing dry-nites to bed to protect his and pajama's tell him there are boys and girls who wear them to bed and are not ashamed punishment is a last resort and so are nappies i tried this with my daughter and it failed so she went back into nappies and plastic pants for her bedwetting hope i have been some help

Since: Mar 11

York

#10 Apr 27, 2011
Put him straight into nappies and plastic pants day and night. Make him use them for all wee wees. When he needs a poo poo make him say "mummy i need a poo poo", remove his nappy and make him use a babies potty, then put his nappy back on.

Make him use a pacifier all the time.

Only give him baby milk in a bottle and baby food in baby plates, you feed him (he is not allowed to feed himself) and he must ware a bib.
JEFF

Albuquerque, NM

#11 Apr 27, 2011
Sue wrote:
Alex, my 13 yr old son has wet the bed about 10 times over the past couple months. He was potty trained by age 2 and has only worn boxers since then. My husband was a bedwetter until age 19, so the Dr. said we could easily have this problem for few years. Alex refuses to let me put a plastic sheet on his bed since his friends are often in his room. He refuses to change his wet sheets. When I mention wearing some kind of protection he will not even discuss it. Honestly, he is a little bit of a brat and I know he was one that picked on another scout last summer at scout camp about bedwetting, so I know he doesn't want any part of it. He is a very outgoing, popular, athletic, and opinionated kid. Should I force him in diapers at his point? Any suggestions on how to do this?
LET HIS FRIENDS SEE HIS WET BED,FORCE HIM INTO FULL DIAPERS TILL HE STOPS WETTING THE BED AND IF HE WETS THE BED MAKE HIM WHERE DIAPERS ALL DAY
Sargeant mack

UK

#12 Apr 27, 2011
If he picked on another kid for it he deserves it i understand hes popular and ignore all these just buy goodnites boxerlike pants or underjams
my friends mom made him wear 1 for a sleepover they bullied him but to tell you the truth i was the toughest ther and i was fighting five of the toughest kids in my whole year group for one other kid he owes me his rep for it and ask anyone who knows me if its true they will say yes

Since: Apr 11

UK

#13 Apr 27, 2011
oh my god what is wrong with some of you people you should never humiliate a child like that, I remember being embarrassed like that and trust me IT DID NOT WORK.

1) Yes give him a choice between goodnights and plastic sheets
2) Give him responsibillity of Taking care of his bed, if he washes his sheet in the morning and can even find a discreet place for the plastic sheets.
3) DO NOT EMBARASS HIM IT IS NOT HIS FAULT THIS IS THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO.
4) About him being bratty, well he is growing up so he needs to learn that he cannot be molicured all the time so if he does not undertake tasks then there will be consequences like for instance if he does not change and wash his sheets he will be embarasses by him not undertaking the task. EG If I do not clean my flat I will have the embarassment of friends seeing my mess

Since: Apr 11

UK

#14 Apr 27, 2011
NO NECK NICK wrote:
Hang his wet pissy sheets out in the front yard with a big sign saying "my 13yr old son still pees the bed"
Have you seen a film called the lonliest runner, I sugest you watch it
andrew

Ireland

#15 Apr 28, 2011
you should remain in the same situation until he gives up and chooses
Sue

United States

#16 Apr 28, 2011
I did have a firm discussion with him (Alex) today and let him know he will need to start changing his own wet bedding. He won't admit he has an issue yet. He thinks it has only happend a "couple times". I know I have changed his wet bedding at least 6-8 times. He has just one brother that is 11 and he does not want him to find out. His brother actually wet the bed until a couple years ago and Alex teased him about it, so he does not want his brother finding out. Luckely for Alex, his brother leaves earlier for school, so he has some time to change his bedding.
Sue

United States

#17 Apr 29, 2011
So, Alex had a wet bed and refused to change his own bedding. I let him know he will need to wear "protection" of some sort for the next 2 nights and if it is wet he will need to go 10 dry nights before going back to boxers at night. We still have 2 bulk sized boxes of Pampers cruisers #7 from when his brother's supply from 2 years ago. Alex commented about the childish Sesame Street characters on them, so I know he is aware of them. I actually had thought of buying Goodnites for him, but maybe I could get away with using up these Pampers on him. However, the Cruisers have tabs and I always had to put them on his brother. Should I use the Pampers? Would I need to help him put it on him?
Sargeant mack

UK

#18 Apr 29, 2011
No sue you shouldnt use diapers it can destroy his self esteem and also drynites make him feel better about his 'condition' if i can say its one
Sue

United States

#19 Apr 29, 2011
I guess I don't know what drynites are? Are they just like Goodnites? Goodnites seem just like a diaper, but without tabs.
alan

Walsall, UK

#20 Apr 29, 2011
Sue wrote:
Alex, my 13 yr old son has wet the bed about 10 times over the past couple months. He was potty trained by age 2 and has only worn boxers since then. My husband was a bedwetter until age 19, so the Dr. said we could easily have this problem for few years. Alex refuses to let me put a plastic sheet on his bed since his friends are often in his room. He refuses to change his wet sheets. When I mention wearing some kind of protection he will not even discuss it. Honestly, he is a little bit of a brat and I know he was one that picked on another scout last summer at scout camp about bedwetting, so I know he doesn't want any part of it. He is a very outgoing, popular, athletic, and opinionated kid. Should I force him in diapers at his point? Any suggestions on how to do this?
just tell him to stop wanking every nite

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