I feel sorry for you, that you have this condition and hoe you want to be treated like a woman and not a baby. You can't help if you are incontinent and require nappies. But can I ask is it only for the night or to you need during the day as well. Have you tried say Ten a pads? They are more discrete to use.I want a man who loves me for the person I am, I don't want someone with a napy fetish to want me becuse I wet the bed, No offence meant to people with a nappy fetish here. I have no desire to be someone's baby just because I wear nappies to bed.
I have had people get friendly with me in the past thenwantto baby me so I am weary of who I befriend. Best people don't know straight away about it.
When you say people are nice just coz. they want to baby you, do you tell them straight away and it could also be the type of nappies you wear. I presume you are from UK or Australia so you either use disposables or the cloth terry type.
Disposables, providing they're not any of the Huggies etc. can be said as medica/incontinence where as terry towelling nappies have a more infant connotation.