I accept this. My wife took some time to accept our daughter was autistic and told people she had a speech delay. The context I raised this is that parents go from being in denial to being overly defensive (over compensating) on behalf of their children. I'm sure I do this as well and I don't realise. The upshot is I find it really hard to involve my daughter with other families I do not know because of the mountain of exlaination followed by the usual charitable expressions and comments that are largely good will but across as patronising. Then of course there's other people's kids whom don't have the patience to spend time with kids with special needs. In addition my wife seems to think finding an autistic friend for my daughter is a waste of time as both of them will ignore each other.Elias- I'd say that parent you encountered was still in denial stages. It's hard when you run into parents at a different level of acceptance.
Our school took it upon themselves to organise information sessions for all their teachers on autism and schools from education field officers experienced with special needs. I am not aware if the teachers educate my daughter's fellwo pupils but I know her teacher and aide takes time to explain my daughter's difference to kids. BTW autism is not a disability for my daughter, I've recieved cards from kids in her class who complimented her on her being really smart. I know this is superficial but as parents it does bring a smile to our faces.I have requested and his school do certain things to help kids understand disabilities. A place based where I live offered puppet shows with 3 foot tall puppets with disabilities. They go into schools and educate kids up to 4th grade. I have also printed informational flyers to be sent home to parents, so when their kids came home and expressed things about my kid, their parents could better answer their questions.