Finding your best birth control

Finding your best birth control

There are 18 comments on the The Muse story from Apr 3, 2008, titled Finding your best birth control. In it, The Muse reports that:

Do you hate the feel and scent of condoms? Does the birth control pill screw up your periods and make you gain weight? Feel like there is no other solution to your birth control problems? Though most of us only ... via The Muse

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alina

Hamilton, Canada

#1 Apr 3, 2008
i am 30 years old, i hav one daughter, got copper IUD 10 months after her. Although i gained alot weiht in pregnancy but i got rid of it afterwars, instead went below baseline. then after Cu IUD, i stated gaing weight, its being 2 years now being having that IUD, i really never thought that it could be becoz of that IUD. I am still not very havy, but feels like a layer of fat on my whole body, especially belly. till yet i tried all exercise, dieting, but could never touch my baseline weight. my eating habits are good, i regularly do exercise, instead sometimes get desparate,althogh i am size 2 now, but i used to be double zero. But somebody plz tell me that if i do get rid of this Copper IUD, what other options i hav that will not cause me to gain weight.
Keri

Tacoma, WA

#2 Apr 6, 2008
I believe the article will answer that question for you, if you read it through all the way.
alina wrote:
i am 30 years old, i hav one daughter, got copper IUD 10 months after her. Although i gained alot weiht in pregnancy but i got rid of it afterwars, instead went below baseline. then after Cu IUD, i stated gaing weight, its being 2 years now being having that IUD, i really never thought that it could be becoz of that IUD. I am still not very havy, but feels like a layer of fat on my whole body, especially belly. till yet i tried all exercise, dieting, but could never touch my baseline weight. my eating habits are good, i regularly do exercise, instead sometimes get desparate,althogh i am size 2 now, but i used to be double zero. But somebody plz tell me that if i do get rid of this Copper IUD, what other options i hav that will not cause me to gain weight.
Fertility Fairy

Canada

#3 Apr 14, 2008
The article did not mention fertility awareness methods which are as effective as the pill (92-96% depending on reports) and also free of side effects. Fertility Awareness requires only awareness of your cycles to identify the fertile days of the month when there is a risk of pregnancy.
go to www.justisse.ca for more info. about this useful charting method. Any woman who is relying on barrier methods would benefit from knowing where she is in her cyle so she can assess the risk of pregnancy on any given day.
People will tell you that charting is ever-so-complicated - yeah right! if you can email, text, or keep a journal, then charting is not difficult. Reading a knitting pattern - now thats difficult!
from the coast
Misled in Michigan

United States

#4 Jul 9, 2008
I am 28, I have a 7 yr old son and am in a very happy relationship. My boyfriend doesn't want to use condoms anymore and wants me to get on birth control. I have heard that it messes with your system, makes you gain weight and can cause cancer...especially in those about 30. Should I be afraid to take oral contraceptives??
jasmine

Philippines

#5 Jul 18, 2008
i am over 18 so im expert this kind of sex

“Walking Attitude”

Since: Aug 07

The Q continuum

#6 Jul 18, 2008
Best birth control:

Date an American girl..........
no name

Las Vegas, NV

#8 Jul 18, 2008
first of all don't bitch about your weight,you are lucky to be a size 2,and 2nd there are plenty of other birth control opition's out ther that won't cause you to gain weight,you just need to ask your dr.
no name

Aberdeen, WA

#9 Sep 27, 2008
after having children your body is bound to change there are few women who ever get to a double zero size after having kids...you are a size 2 just enjoy it and quit worrying about your weight...

“Leave the gun; take the canoli”

Since: Oct 07

Erie, PA

#10 Sep 27, 2008
Misled in Michigan wrote:
I am 28, I have a 7 yr old son and am in a very happy relationship. My boyfriend doesn't want to use condoms anymore and wants me to get on birth control. I have heard that it messes with your system, makes you gain weight and can cause cancer...especially in those about 30. Should I be afraid to take oral contraceptives??
I used oral contraceptives until this year (I am 41). I never gained weight from them. I did however, gain weight after age 35 because when you approach middle-age, your metabolism screeches to almost a grinding halt. However, the weight gain for me was due to aging, not the Pill. After turning 40, they wouldn't give me the Pill anymore because they require women aged 40 and over to get their blood pressure and cholesterol checked as a condition of getting the Pill. My cholesterol was just over the border and so was my blood pressure, so that didn't leave any options for me - except the IUD. I was rather disconcerted about that. If it is too risky for me to risk a pregnancy due to my age and these other factors, wouldn't make sense for me to take the less risky road and take the Pill? But the medical constabulary has never really been considerate of women's concerns and reproductive health needs to the level I think they should be. So my only option for birth control was getting the Mirena IUD. Some women reported having problems with it, but so far I have had none. And I have not gained belly weight from the Mirena IUD.

As an aside about your weight concerns: how do you think women feel who were never smaller than a size 10 in their lives when they hear tiny little Barbie dolls crying about their weight? You're complaining about being a size 2. How do think that makes those of us feel who are a size 14? Hell, I'd be happy as a kid on Christmas morning if I had the body I had when I was 30 and could wear a size 10 again. There was another middle-aged woman at the Y lap pool today and she was twice my size and she swims and exercizes more often than I do and counts every single calorie and weighs out each portion at meal time and still can't lose weight (but she can swim like there's no tomorrow!)...and here you are complaining about not being a size friggin' 0 !?!?!?! Sheesh! I realize that being morbidly obese (which I'm not) isn't healthy, but the concentration camp survivor physique isn't healthy either.

Jacqueline S. Homan,
http://jacquelinehoman7.googlepages.com/nothi...
Author: "Nothing You Can Possess"
"Classism For Dimwits"
"Eyes of a Monster"

“Captain Karl's Cod Boat”

Since: Aug 08

receiver of lies...

#11 Sep 27, 2008
Queue wrote:
Best birth control:
Date an American girl........
I knew it.! Now I don't feel as bad about that goof I made on that thread about you..lol

a ""girl.?"" What's wrong with an American Woman?

I'm an American Woman, we're awesome!
We've been threw this before!
caroline

AOL

#12 Sep 27, 2008
i use a diaphragm. can't take pill. bf also uses condoms. as part of foreplay, he helps me put mine in and i put his on for him. it makes us both extra horny. so far, no baby.
Franko

Port Coquitlam, Canada

#13 Sep 27, 2008
Misled in Michigan wrote:
I am 28, I have a 7 yr old son and am in a very happy relationship. My boyfriend doesn't want to use condoms anymore and wants me to get on birth control. I have heard that it messes with your system, makes you gain weight and can cause cancer...especially in those about 30. Should I be afraid to take oral contraceptives??
WOmen are still convinced by the media or music or something that men won't even look at a woman who has more than 4 pounds of fat on their middle.

How sad! HOw unrealistic!

Geez, if that was really the case then 90% of us would all be single ...

We understand the realities more than women think ...

And I for one would prefer a woman 20 lbs overweight but content about it and able to think about other things in life, rather than a woman who is 5 pounds underweight and totally obsessed with every ounce SHE perceives does not belong there ...(PS. nobody else can tell you gained 3 pounds from water retention just because it's your period)...
Franko

Port Coquitlam, Canada

#14 Sep 27, 2008
my resposne should have been to the original poster, ALina, the size two who was once a size 00

“Leave the gun; take the canoli”

Since: Oct 07

Erie, PA

#15 Sep 28, 2008
Franko wrote:
<quoted text>...We understand the realities more than women think ...
I love you, Franko!::warm hugs to Franko::
I just wish that employers and most available men under age 60 felt the same way as you do.

Unfortunately, most don't. Many are so shallow. They see the fraudulent standard of beauty bombarding us from every direction, size 0 Barbie dolls with "perfect" breasts, cellulite-free and airbrushed to perfection and CGI fantasy chicks in almost every TV show, movie, commercial, advertizement, catalogue, calender, and magazine. This subliminal brainwashing sends the message that this image of the female body is "normal", socially acceptable, and desired and that any woman who fails for whatever reason to be able to conform to that is "unworthy". Unworthy for fair treatment in the job market, and unworthy for love.

It's as if men think that pregnancy entails going to Montomgery Ward and choosing a genetically perfect embryo and then selecting a matching Gucci bag to carry it in for 9 months. I've heard men say to women who were struggling with their figures and their weight, "well so and so didn't gain weight from aging, and so and so was able to look great in a bikini after having 12 kids..."

Here's some sad, hard facts as to why the media's influence and the social trends pushing the obsession for thinness(usually led by the elite in society)is making so many "average" women's lives a living Hell:

1. Overweight women are unemployed for almost twice as long as their thinner counterparts.

2. Overweight women are paid on average 12% less than their Barbie doll counterparts, and all women overall on average are paid 72 cents for every dollar paid to a man in the same jobs. Thus, women whom society deems as not "thin enough" (and therefore implying "not worthy") are at the greatest risk for being poor because 12% less than that 72 cents amounts to 63%- that is very hard on the "average" woman who must support herself and possibly a child or two on her own.

3. Overweight women are surcharged as much as 300% on their health insurance premiums by health insurance carriers - far more than their thinner counterparts; in some states, employers have the right to financially penalize overweight women employees by charging them more for participation in the company's health insurance plan.

4. Societal stereotypes of overweight women are that they smell bad, are stupid, uneducated, are lazy, and don't try to take proper care of themselves.

Men *say* they don't prefer the Barbie dolls, but experience has borne out different. I am a "plain Jane" who was never smaller than a size 10 @ 120 lbs in my early 20's when I REALLY looked hot. I often found myself totally ignored and forgotten by men in social settings the minute some prom queen trophy chick walked in the door. Rather than just sit there ignored while all the men fawned over the Barbie dolls, I promptly left. I may not have been a "hottie", but I was too damn proud to sit there pining away in the corner begging for a rare token crumb of acknowledgement. I knew I couldn't compete w/ the Barbie dolls whom all the men seemed to instantly flock to. So I just left, got on my Harley and drove home where I could be just as alone but at least have the company of a library full of good books. I was left on the shelf so tos speak until age 37 when a 62 year old widower finally snagged me up.
Maybe you don't think women have a right to "obsess" about their looks - but you're not living life in our shoes in a society where women are valued solely on looks, and getting the unfair treatment so many of us get who fail to fit into society's mold of a fraudulent standard of beauty.

Jacqueline S. Homan,
http://jacquelinehoman7.googlepages.com/nothi...
Author: "Nothing You Can Possess"
"Classism For Dimwits"
"Eyes of a Monster"

“Leave the gun; take the canoli”

Since: Oct 07

Erie, PA

#16 Sep 28, 2008
Franko wrote:
<quoted text> We understand the realities more than women think ...
I love you, Franko!::warm hugs to Franko::
I just wish that employers and most available men under age 60 felt the same way as you do.

Unfortunately, most don't. Many are so shallow. They see the fraudulent standard of beauty bombarding us from every direction, size 0 Barbie dolls with "perfect" breasts, cellulite-free and airbrushed to perfection and CGI fantasy chicks in almost every TV show, movie, commercial, advertizement, catalogue, calender, and magazine. This subliminal brainwashing sends the message that this image of the female body is "normal", socially acceptable, and desired and that any woman who fails for whatever reason to be able to conform to that is "unworthy". Unworthy for fair treatment in the job market, and unworthy for love.
It's as if men think that pregnancy entails going to Montomgery Ward and choosing a genetically perfect embryo and then selecting a matching Gucci bag to carry it in for 9 months. I've heard men say to women who were struggling with their figures and their weight, "well so and so didn't gain weight from aging, and so and so was able to look great in a bikini after having 12 kids..."
Here's some sad, hard facts as to why the media's influence and the social trends pushing the obsession for thinness(usually led by the elite in society)is making so many "average" women's lives a living Hell:

1. Overweight women are unemployed for almost twice as long as their thinner counterparts.

2. Overweight women are paid on average 12% less than their Barbie doll counterparts, and all women overall on average are paid 72 cents for every dollar paid to a man in the same jobs. Thus, women whom society deems as not "thin enough" (and therefore implying "not worthy") are at the greatest risk for being poor because 12% less than that 72 cents amounts to 63%- that is very hard on the "average" woman who must support herself and possibly a child or two on her own.

3. Overweight women are surcharged as much as 300% on their health insurance premiums by health insurance carriers - far more than their thinner counterparts; in some states, employers have the right to financially penalize overweight women employees by charging them more for participation in the company's health insurance plan.

4. Societal stereotypes of overweight women are that they smell bad, are stupid, uneducated, are lazy, and don't try to take proper care of themselves.

Men *say* they don't prefer the Barbie dolls, but experience has borne out different. I am a "plain Jane" who was never smaller than a size 10 @ 120 lbs in my early 20's when I REALLY looked hot. I often found myself totally ignored and forgotten by men in social settings the minute some prom queen trophy chick walked in the door. Rather than just sit there ignored while all the men fawned over the Barbie dolls, I promptly left. I may not have been a "hottie", but I was too damn proud to sit there pining away in the corner begging for a rare token crumb of acknowledgement. I knew I couldn't compete w/ the Barbie dolls whom all the men seemed to instantly flock to. So I just left, got on my Harley and drove home where I could be just as alone but at least have the company of a library full of good books. I was left on the shelf so tos speak until age 37 when a 62 year old widower finally snagged me up.
Maybe you don't think women have a right to "obsess" about their looks - but you're not living life in our shoes in a society where women are valued solely on looks, and getting the unfair treatment so many of us get who fail to fit into society's mold of a fraudulent standard of beauty.

Jacqueline S. Homan,
http://jacquelinehoman7.googlepages.com/nothi...
Author: "Nothing You Can Possess"
"Classism For Dimwits"
"Eyes of a Monster"
Lilly

UK

#17 Sep 30, 2008
Size 2? That seems perfectly ok to me. I went from a size 0 to a size 8 (US Size) on the pill and am happy with my new found curves :-)
As long as you are healthy it is ok.
Hillary

Brooklyn, NY

#19 Mar 27, 2013
Finding your preferred method of birth control is not easy. It involves a lot of trial and error and often times suffering from the side effects of some systems that are out on the market. The important thing is to monitor your reaction to all of them and decide which birth control method or system works the best for you in terms of convenience, efficacy, affordability and comfort. For instance many find that contraceptive hormonal implants like Mirena IUD's are preferable since they last for as long as five years without needing to remember to take a pill. However you should educate yourself on the symptoms of its side effects which many women have reportedly complained about and some have even filed a lawsuit against the manufacturer, Bayer. You may also visit http://www.mirena-iud.net for more details.
Jocelyn

Brooklyn, NY

#21 Apr 1, 2013
Finding your preferred method of birth control is not easy. It involves a lot of trial and error and often times suffering from the side effects of some systems that are out on the market. The important thing is to monitor your reaction to all of them and decide which birth control method or system works the best for you in terms of convenience, efficacy, affordability and comfort. For instance many find that contraceptive hormonal implants like Mirena IUD's are preferable since they last for as long as five years without needing to remember to take a pill. However you should educate yourself on the symptoms of its side effects which many women have reportedly complained about and some have even filed a lawsuit against the manufacturer, Bayer. You may see http://www.mirena-iud.net for more information.

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