Boys Cut Themselves Too, Study Finds

Dec 17, 2008 Full story: www.findingdulcinea.com 58

A new survey conducted in the United Kingdom has found that self-mutilation is not unique to girls.

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Geoff

Long Island City, NY

#1 Dec 17, 2008
But boys will soon become girls, right? Which means that eventually only girls will be cutting themselves.
Tim

Long Island City, NY

#2 Dec 17, 2008
What it means that boys' self-esteem is getting lower...it used to be only that girls hated themselves.
Ben

Long Island City, NY

#3 Dec 17, 2008
Boys really are getting girlier, aren't they.Total girly men.
BettyB

Laramie, WY

#4 Dec 17, 2008
I can't believe some people get addicted to hurting themselves. I've heard of being addicted to adrenaline, but this is hard to imagine.
babs

Long Island City, NY

#5 Dec 17, 2008
i don't know if this is necessarily a self-hate thing, tim. i think it also has something to do with wanting attention.
Janet

Portland, OR

#6 Dec 17, 2008
Wow, we're really screwing up our kids, aren't we?
Jenny Berger

Long Island City, NY

#7 Dec 17, 2008
I was a teenager when the whole cutting phenomenon first got publicized, and even then I just couldn't comprehend the kind of emotional pain someone would need to be in for physical pain to be a relief.
Ted

Long Island City, NY

#8 Dec 17, 2008
I don't get it. I did not get it when I was young and I don't get it in my old age. To cause pain to 'feel' something? I don't get it.

“What goes around comes around”

Since: Feb 08

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#9 Dec 17, 2008
I've got an almost 18 year old daughter that did this a a young teen...13, 14. Part of it was, I believe, for attention. And part of it, per the psychiatrist, was because these kids are exposed to so much at such young ages (thank you TV, radio, billboards and even teachers at school) that they become numb to what's going on around them, this is a way to "feel" something again and gain some control over their emotions. My statement to the psychiatrist at that point was "I wonder how she's going to 'feel' when she's an adult and has scars all over her arms and hands from this self destructive behavior?"

The vast majority of kids do it for the attention. It's that one kid that can take it too far and actually end up maiming her/himself or killing her/himself that necessitates parents taking it all extremely seriously and seeking help. Man, being a parent of teens is a tough job in today's society. I am currently raising my 5th 15 year old daughter and have survived (thus far) to tell the stories. All with out the benefit of prescription medication, I might add.
experienced

Long Island City, NY

#10 Dec 17, 2008
Is it really that hard to wrap your head around why someone might feel compelled to do this? Are you all that "sane," or are you just repressed?

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Since: Feb 08

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#11 Dec 17, 2008
experienced wrote:
Is it really that hard to wrap your head around why someone might feel compelled to do this? Are you all that "sane," or are you just repressed?
Yes, it really is that hard to wrap my head around it in the case of my daughter. For a lot of different reasons.
Gina

Long Island City, NY

#12 Dec 18, 2008
I don't think teenagers do it just for attention. It's sad but people can feel isolated and alone enough that they stop caring what others think. I believe they do it to try to wake themselves up. Yes. to feel something. And the fact that more people, whether girls are boys, are cutting themselves is serious and should be looked into not made fun of.

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Since: Apr 07

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#13 Dec 19, 2008
Janet wrote:
Wow, we're really screwing up our kids, aren't we?
Actually Janet it is a combination of messed up principles that are being applied by authoratative figures like the teacher, the mother, the father, the priest, maybe even the local grocer. Whoever is practising raising the youth of each community, is most likely allowing the externalization of emotional fortitude being taken upon the child rather than talking about it and getting help for why this is happening.

Low self-esteem is part of the problem but forcing them to be more than they are capable of during the 'growing years', is very tough. Pressure from all sides and no-one really to hate because they were not taught that word to apply to others, therefore internalization needing an escape--even a bloodletting one ...

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#14 Dec 19, 2008
Gina wrote:
I don't think teenagers do it just for attention. It's sad but people can feel isolated and alone enough that they stop caring what others think. I believe they do it to try to wake themselves up. Yes. to feel something. And the fact that more people, whether girls are boys, are cutting themselves is serious and should be looked into not made fun of.
Definitely a dangerous wake-up call if they are not sure how deep the cut must get before dying, it is not that far into it and for pain that deeply imbedded, gentle cooperation with letting it out a better way is highly encouraged. I always suggest, without hovering, know what is important to know about your kids and talk. They are human like you, making mistakes as you and I did, talk.

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#15 Dec 19, 2008
SarahMoon wrote:
I've got an almost 18 year old daughter that did this a a young teen...13, 14. Part of it was, I believe, for attention. And part of it, per the psychiatrist, was because these kids are exposed to so much at such young ages (thank you TV, radio, billboards and even teachers at school) that they become numb to what's going on around them, this is a way to "feel" something again and gain some control over their emotions. My statement to the psychiatrist at that point was "I wonder how she's going to 'feel' when she's an adult and has scars all over her arms and hands from this self destructive behavior?"
The vast majority of kids do it for the attention. It's that one kid that can take it too far and actually end up maiming her/himself or killing her/himself that necessitates parents taking it all extremely seriously and seeking help. Man, being a parent of teens is a tough job in today's society. I am currently raising my 5th 15 year old daughter and have survived (thus far) to tell the stories. All with out the benefit of prescription medication, I might add.
I know commendation is not what you are seeking here but wow I must give you credit because no doubt what they learn after leaving the threshold of your home protection, manifests into such personal difficulty to raise them properly. The world is sick, you are healthy and your children are well-adjusted despite the moment of silence where a cut elated a much needed response. I am not for it, I just understand more than the licensed clinical therapist will tell you. It is not classic book-case material, it is individual, it is sad but it is also cleansing. Thank you for sharing and have a very happy holiday !
sharing the light,
Miss Erica Hidvegi
icedragon

Queen Creek, AZ

#16 Dec 20, 2008
I think it's sad.
Dexter

Richmond, VA

#17 Mar 15, 2009
im a cutter and i do it because i feel better after i see my blood...my life feels like its falling apart and cutting gives me some control over my life. i dont think its sad or sick. but i dont think that its something i should keep doing. along with harming myself i also hurt the people around me that worry about me.because of the cutting i think that my girlfriend is now on the fence about our relationship and i dont know how to fix it. she wont even talk to me and that just makes me want to cut more then ever....

“What goes around comes around”

Since: Feb 08

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#18 Mar 16, 2009
Dexter wrote:
im a cutter and i do it because i feel better after i see my blood...my life feels like its falling apart and cutting gives me some control over my life. i dont think its sad or sick. but i dont think that its something i should keep doing. along with harming myself i also hurt the people around me that worry about me.because of the cutting i think that my girlfriend is now on the fence about our relationship and i dont know how to fix it. she wont even talk to me and that just makes me want to cut more then ever....
Get help, Dexter. The sooner the better.
A cutter

Australia

#19 May 24, 2009
As Dexter said, you feel better afterwards.
Imagine a splitting headache, ignoring it wonít make it go away, an aspirin (or other pain killer of your choice) will. Unless youíve experienced uncontrollable depression and/or anxiety over an extended period it would be hard to understand how cutting yourself could possible make you feel better, but trust me (as a cutter of 9 years), it does. When you are spiraling down into the depths of self loathing, fear and misery, the sharp focus of a razor blade letting out a flow of your own blood snaps you back from the depths in a way that would be hard to explain. A cutter isnít an attention seeker, most cutters do so without anybody ever knowing. A cutter isnít suicidal, the cuts are only designed to hurt, not permanently injure.
Still want to know why cutters do it, try not reaching for that aspirin next time your head is throbbing.
Cow Say Mooooo

Pinellas Park, FL

#20 Jul 22, 2009
as a former cutter...I am 12 and im am a male and I don't think that cutting is girly at all as
ben said in the beginning so freak off ben...cutting is a way to get rid of emotions because instead of thinking of sadness you think of the pain...atleast that's why I do it

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