Just a note. I know every parent has his/her preference. But I've never seen a 10 year old or an adult with a pacifier. Everyone needs to stop freaking out over this kind of stuff. My 3 year old still has a pacifier. She was born a 28 week preemie and has some sensory processing difficulties. We think she has an oral fixation, because when we keep her pacifier away from her during the day, she bites on everything (including her blanket) and her sleeves, stuffed animals, toys, etc. We realize that every child matures differently. She is our third child and is the only one who is really fixated on a pacifier. My first never wanted one, my second wasn't interested either, but my third is definitely more attached. She is also very attached to her blanket. She is potty trained and a happy little kid. At this point, our goal is to gradually limit her use. I'm not going to cold turkey this and watch her sit in a heap of tears trying to figure out how to console herself at an age when figuring out how to console yourself is already a challenge. Who is the tool that keeps suggesting that a kid isn't learning coping skills because they have a pacifier at three or four. Some kids need a little extra time to figure things out. There isn't an "expert" on anybody's kids. I'm not even an expert on my own kids. I try different methods on each of my children. I'll tell you different personalities and preferences and needs requires flexibility. You're not a bad parent if you take your time with this. You're child will learn to manage her emotions better if you are compassionate and loving during this time, not by being a pacifier Nazi. So give yourselves a break, after years of receiving parenting advice (12 to be exact) I've learned that I am a great parent when I trust my own instincts. My niece sucked her thumb until she was 7. She no longer does at 8 and she gave it up on her own. No Fights, no distress, and can you believe she is a straight A student with a wonderful disposition and great coping skills. WOW! Quit judging, folks!